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Have you ever felt this after or even before you started hormones?
And do you think its linked to hormones?

Today i felt it stronger than ive ever felt before. Just wanting to go and comfort the crying baby. I had felt it before but never like this.
Any stories?

Never had it. Never want it.

I don't do well with children, they get on my nerves. And I never, ever want any of my own. Not even an unusually bright star, three wise men, a stable full of animals or a memo from the Big Cheese upstairs could convince me to ever have children. Ever.

The only thing I think when I see a baby crying is that children should come equipped with a mute button. That and someone really ought to give them their precioussssss.

Yeah... not mother material by any means. :P

I've always had a strong maternal instinct. I was the only 'boy' in my area that was a babysitter. In fact, I was a very popular one because I am pretty good with kids. I believe it has more to do with who you are as a person, as apposed to the hormones running through your system.

I am and have always been a Mama.. to kids, friends, and pets... very protective and nurturing

In the absence of dolls, I had a small pretty box that I made believe was my daughter, and I used to sing to her, and talk to her, and stuff... I was 8 YO...

I have 5 kids of my own plus one adopted son...love kids of all ages... I am waiting for my first grand-kid... ah, diapers and baths and rocking them and feed them and lullabies... the stuff heaven is made of

Quote from: Sephirah on March 02, 2014, 06:35:30 PM
Never had it. Never want it.

I don't do well with children, they get on my nerves. And I never, ever want any of my own. Not even an unusually bright star, three wise men, a stable full of animals or a memo from the Big Cheese upstairs could convince me to ever have children. Ever.

The only thing I think when I see a baby crying is that children should come equipped with a mute button. That and someone really ought to give them their precioussssss.

Yeah... not mother material by any means. :P

ditto

In its own sense, yes, I could have it. I'm horrible with my cousins and et cetera (probably more because they are little snots as well as children) but I always have cared my deepest for my stuffed penguins, which is the closest things I had to dolls as a kid.

Quote from: Brooke777 on March 02, 2014, 06:39:49 PMI believe it has more to do with who you are as a person, as apposed to the hormones running through your system.

Having several years of experience working with children, I totally agree with this.

I've seen males that can be plenty nurturing, and females that just yell at kids and earn the nickname 'the witch' from the kids, haha.

For two years I worked at a K-8 school, and my job was basically to deal with the worst behaved students at the school, every day. There was one who was particularly horribly behaved, and I developed a rapport with him. They called me the "name-of-student-whisperer" (I can't divulge even their first name)

At the same time I have absolutely zero desire to have kids. Any time my girlfriend's period didn't come on time, I was filled with anxiety. Then whenever she says "hey, guess what! You're not a father!" (i.e. she got her period) I am filled with elation. I am great with kids. Kids love me. I ABSOLUTELY do not EVER want any though, and I have always felt like that. The thought of me possibly being able to have any just fills me with anxiety and dread. I don't want to throw my own life under the bus to -maybe- give someone else a good life.

As a kid I always thought, in amazement, how awesome my parents are for basically just buying me everything I owned, used, ate, etc. and putting a roof over my head. I always wondered "why on earth would anybody pay for somebody else's life, so willingly?" I couldn't imagine myself wanting to do that, and I still can't. Not that I do not deeply appreciate my parents doing it for me.

I also have some other issues. Any time a kid would try to hug me or touch me I'd basically go "GET OFF ME RIGHT NOW OR YOU'RE MISSING YOUR NEXT RECESS" Although, I have issues with bodily contact with any people. Kids are just obnoxious about it, though.

One thing I disliked about working with kids, is that it basically makes you be constantly sick with some sort of cold or flu or something. Usually back-to-back, for the whole school year. And I hated it.

However working with kids was a good experience for me. It's helped keep me young at heart. Plus, helping them and teaching them does make me feel good.

I teach private music lessons now, and a good deal of my students are kids. I would never want to have any, but I'm good with them and handling them from time to time isn't a big problem for me. I like that so many kids have come up to me and said "you're really funny. You're not like the other grown-ups at all"

I have had it my whole life. My career was all about taking care of people in need. I took care of the Blue shift at the Firehouse like they were my own kids, but I wish it was a case of taking care of MY man. I cooked, cleaned and anything else without feeling used or mistreated at all.;D

On the Ambulance which I was in up to 16 hours a day I would listen to all of my cis female partners troubles at home and try to help. When they were down I would buy their meals and give them a million hugs a shift. I even cried with them on occasion.

When I had kids I loved nothing more than to change diapers, feed the, rock them and tuck them in at night.

YES. A VERY strong maternal instinct here! :)

Always wished I had it, but it is weak, if at all. I have a strong PATERNAL instinct. Being a father to my children came naturally. Not happy about that, but it is what it is

Always had it. In fact I keep having weird pregnancy dreams to reinforce it...

What I regret is the inability to use it... I want children so much and regret not having the resources to adequately provide for them if I did. :'( (Hopefully graduation makes this issue a non-issue :))

I just hope my wife is able to conceive (lots of health issues) and hope that I don't render myself sterile with HRT when we are ready.

Of course if technology works around the problem, I have many friends who are eager to give me their uterus and ovaries to facilitate conception.

The future is anyone's guess... who knows?

I guess what I'm saying is, I really want to be a mommy!

I never had it until my baby was born.....then it kicked in fast and hard.

Yes, I have always had this.  I love working with young children in the churches I have attended (about the only thing I enjoy about church right now.)    Looking back I think that some of the problems my wife and I had while raising our kids might have come from my need to be mother, instead of playing the expected daddy role.

Never maternal (for obvious reasons, I'm from the other side of the fence) but I suppose paternal. I'm not really fond of being around young children very long because they tend to get in the way, are obnoxious and smelly sometimes but I am good with them when need be. I do enjoy my two year old nephew's curiosity as he points to something in a book and demands I read it.

I generally prefer being the "neighbourhood" adopted father or cool Uncle to teenagers and young adults though. Helping with homework, helping them solve life problems and automobiles. I was always that way though, even as a kid myself. Shepherding the young.

Assuming I ever did "have kids", it wouldn't be biological. Never was going to be. I'd just end up adopting or fostering older kids.

(I hope you don't mind me invading?)

Quote from: Sephirah on March 02, 2014, 06:35:30 PM
Never had it. Never want it.

I don't do well with children, they get on my nerves. And I never, ever want any of my own. Not even an unusually bright star, three wise men, a stable full of animals or a memo from the Big Cheese upstairs could convince me to ever have children. Ever.

The only thing I think when I see a baby crying is that children should come equipped with a mute button. That and someone really ought to give them their precioussssss.

Yeah... not mother material by any means. :P

LOL you sound like my aunt. I do plan on adopting whether I have my own biological children or not. As of right know I have no need for maternal instinct. I must be a wolf or Minx. To young to be a cougar.

LOL... Long before I even knew anything about transitioning some people would make comments about it and some of my friends would tease me by saying... 
"Yes mommy" when I'd be telling them something

So, I guess so

Totally! As a child, I'd read up on parenting magazines, subscribe to them, know everything about child rearing, studies, behavior. Kids are amazing people that we should learn from more often. We teach them so much, but the reverse is also true.

Even had a sympathy pregnancy along the way back in 5th grade, which was really cool, I thought. When my sisters came, my mother said it was like having a 3rd parent. I watch my sisters now, and they even say how fun it is when I watch them. My goal in life one day is to be a happy mommy of one girl that I adopt, with my future husband, and we'll be one happy family, like you see on on a greeting card, or whatnot. I just wish I could have my own...that's the hardest part about loving myself, that I'm an infertile woman out there, who can't meet that wish of hers in like 15 years. I'll adopt then, but yeah, hurts a lot, don't think I can ever get over that.

I love to make kids laugh, tend for them, and so on. I was so happy growing up when I found out I'd have sisters. My own child would be something amazing to behold.

LOL... That reminds me, when I was I kid I'd walk around with a pillow in my shirt and pretend to be pregnant - My mom and sisters thought it was hilarious  :D

Oddly they are not so accepting now  :'(

Quote from: V M on March 03, 2014, 12:57:59 AM
LOL... That reminds me, when I was I kid I'd walk around with a pillow in my shirt and pretend to be pregnant - My mom and sisters thought it was hilarious  :D

Oddly they are not so accepting now  :'(

i feel like ive done this before but i cant remember...
i cant remember much of my childhood actually...

Im pretty sure hrt has made me more caring when it comes to children,,,

I have had it from early childhood when my dream was to grow up, get married, and have children of my own. By age 13 I knew that wasn't going to happen and I started avoiding little children because it was too painful to face my own childless future.

I was diagnosed TS at age 16, started hormones at 17, but there was no SRS back then. I managed okay (sort of) until my niece was born and when I first held my niece at about 2 days of age, I was hit with the most incredible wave of maternal feelings. That was the end of any pretense that I could survive with the way things were. That was the beginning of a downhill spiral that almost took my life.

It was difficult, even after SRS, to be around children because I still wanted children SOOOOO much, and a relief when my friends stopped having babies. Now, some 40 years later, it is a little easier being around children in a grandmother role (but it the regret is still there).

for me maternal instinct was so strong that I did not transition in my 20s because I knew that I would be sterile.
At the time I did not know that I could freeze some semen, but nevertheless I would never be a mother.

The impossibility of pregnancy led me to stay as a male and, I thought, I could be a good parent anyway on the other side.

But my maternal instinct is so strong that my children are very, very attached to me and even if since 2010
they see me once in a week, they still run when they see me, and sometimes they call me "mum". Lol.

I really don't know. I think it depends on the child.

Some are really cute  :D and I love to watch them playing or doing silly things! If a see a child crying I feel my heart getting shattered into pieces  :'( I just feel the need to comfort them the best I can!!

But I don't know if I would like to have a child...I would be too afraid of not being a good mother/father/whatever  ??? and also I would be afraid of my child changing my life to a point that I can't predict... but... well,  I think this is not an option anymore as I am probably sterile at this moment.

Yup. I've always mothered pretty much anyone. Just a thing.