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Title: First draft of coming out letter
Post by: Two Bodies/Same Soul on March 10, 2014, 06:29:05 AM
Post by: Two Bodies/Same Soul on March 10, 2014, 06:29:05 AM
What do y'all think? On march 20th I plan to send this letter to my mom's Facebook before i go to work when she's usually sleeping. What can i do to improve this?
Dear Mom,
I have some very serious news to tell you. I think you may have been suspecting it for a few years though you may be in denial of it like I have been for the past few years. Forget everything you know about me because what i have to say has the very real possibility of being a bombshell or you may shout 'Why didn't you tell me this sooner!" Two weeks ago Monday was when i hit the breaking point where i could hold this in no longer, are you ready for this news? I was somehow born in the wrong body and i was meant to be a girl. "No Way!" You may be thinking. "I know you like the back of my hand!" "I refuse to believe it!" I have become really good at hiding it, Hiding it throughout my childhood, even hiding it to myself for all these years since i first brung this up when i was eleven. Do you remember that day? All throughout my childhood I had this, I'm not flying by the seat of my pants. My earliest memory of my gender dysphoria was back at CRD there was this older woman who i think her name was Barbara and I believe I was five years old I saw her ruby red nails and i said "Can i do that?" I remember her saying "No only girls can do that." I remember also thinking that somehow when i died i was going to become a female angel.....I prayed very often to God to turn me into a girl though to no avail and feeling extremely depressed in so many ways that no 10 year old should ever have to feel.
The reason why i chose to write this rather then just straight up write this to you at first is because I feel a slight shame that I feel this way, I know I should be proud of who I am, and I am! Ever since i finally accepted that i'm transgender I feel at peace though now i can't stop thinking about transitioning and it's driving me mad! What I'm going to show you is the posts of a confused and scared trans-girl on a website called Susans Place. I want you to read all of her posts and guess who it is.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?action=profile;area=showposts;u=32369
Did you figure it out? It was me your son.....or rather your daughter. Going back to Christianity or getting intense christian therapy with the aim to "fix this" is not going to help at all. Prozac has helped me feel a little better but I still can't look at girls without deep envy and jealousy. If you go Bi-Polar from reading this, plug your ears, or take the "I know you, your'e not Trans-Gender" route all it's going to cause me is more sorrow, what i want you to do is accept me for who I am! When i get home from work I welcome questions and I want them. I don't expect to come home from work and not talk about this, I want to talk about this! Do me a favor while i'm at work today, Tell J that iv'e come out of the closet. I know without a doubt that he will accept me. I'm just worried about you. The rest of the family and the rest of the world? I couldn't give two ->-bleeped-<-s. My former Christian friends? M? I couldn't give two ->-bleeped-<-s. I hope that this won't drive you into a panic attack or make you angry, I have a very good feeling that you will accept me though you MIGHT have a few questions. You've always been there for me all of my life even when I left Christianity. Please don't disappoint me.
Your Daughter
Dear Mom,
I have some very serious news to tell you. I think you may have been suspecting it for a few years though you may be in denial of it like I have been for the past few years. Forget everything you know about me because what i have to say has the very real possibility of being a bombshell or you may shout 'Why didn't you tell me this sooner!" Two weeks ago Monday was when i hit the breaking point where i could hold this in no longer, are you ready for this news? I was somehow born in the wrong body and i was meant to be a girl. "No Way!" You may be thinking. "I know you like the back of my hand!" "I refuse to believe it!" I have become really good at hiding it, Hiding it throughout my childhood, even hiding it to myself for all these years since i first brung this up when i was eleven. Do you remember that day? All throughout my childhood I had this, I'm not flying by the seat of my pants. My earliest memory of my gender dysphoria was back at CRD there was this older woman who i think her name was Barbara and I believe I was five years old I saw her ruby red nails and i said "Can i do that?" I remember her saying "No only girls can do that." I remember also thinking that somehow when i died i was going to become a female angel.....I prayed very often to God to turn me into a girl though to no avail and feeling extremely depressed in so many ways that no 10 year old should ever have to feel.
The reason why i chose to write this rather then just straight up write this to you at first is because I feel a slight shame that I feel this way, I know I should be proud of who I am, and I am! Ever since i finally accepted that i'm transgender I feel at peace though now i can't stop thinking about transitioning and it's driving me mad! What I'm going to show you is the posts of a confused and scared trans-girl on a website called Susans Place. I want you to read all of her posts and guess who it is.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?action=profile;area=showposts;u=32369
Did you figure it out? It was me your son.....or rather your daughter. Going back to Christianity or getting intense christian therapy with the aim to "fix this" is not going to help at all. Prozac has helped me feel a little better but I still can't look at girls without deep envy and jealousy. If you go Bi-Polar from reading this, plug your ears, or take the "I know you, your'e not Trans-Gender" route all it's going to cause me is more sorrow, what i want you to do is accept me for who I am! When i get home from work I welcome questions and I want them. I don't expect to come home from work and not talk about this, I want to talk about this! Do me a favor while i'm at work today, Tell J that iv'e come out of the closet. I know without a doubt that he will accept me. I'm just worried about you. The rest of the family and the rest of the world? I couldn't give two ->-bleeped-<-s. My former Christian friends? M? I couldn't give two ->-bleeped-<-s. I hope that this won't drive you into a panic attack or make you angry, I have a very good feeling that you will accept me though you MIGHT have a few questions. You've always been there for me all of my life even when I left Christianity. Please don't disappoint me.
Your Daughter
Title: Re: First draft of coming out letter
Post by: Catherine Sarah on March 10, 2014, 06:57:31 AM
Post by: Catherine Sarah on March 10, 2014, 06:57:31 AM
Hi fused,
A pretty good letter. You obviously know your Mum quite well. Perhaps assuming some of her reactions may distract her from the intent of your message. Also the negative comments made about some Christian friends I think is not in keeping with what you are trying to convey. Make and keep it personal just between you both.
Second paragraph. I assume the second "write" should be "tell". Also "brung" should be "brought."
Hope this goes well for you.
Huggs
Catherine
A pretty good letter. You obviously know your Mum quite well. Perhaps assuming some of her reactions may distract her from the intent of your message. Also the negative comments made about some Christian friends I think is not in keeping with what you are trying to convey. Make and keep it personal just between you both.
Second paragraph. I assume the second "write" should be "tell". Also "brung" should be "brought."
Hope this goes well for you.
Huggs
Catherine