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Kia Ora,

i've noticed that some members seem to make an effort to 'live up' to their forum name, for example if it's a name that relates to sadness/unhappiness, then a lot of their posts are centred around this type of emotion...

I'm just wondering what psychological(and physical) impact a name as on ones mental and physical well being ?

Metta Anatta :)

(Anatta BTW is a Pali word which means "No-Self/Soul-From a Buddhist perspective there's no such thing as an inherent entity such as a permanent unchanging self/soul  )

My name relates to my partner/fiancé Jenny, who was horrifically injured and suffered a acquired brain injury ABI, and is now in 24 hour care with no hope of getting better in a semi vegetative state. It's so sad to see her now and leaves me in tears each time.:'(
It was in 2007, thus every post I remember her as she was the love of my life and soul mate.

She was troubled and I know she had strong gender issues herself but I kept it to myself.

It's been a long hard road that nearly ended in darkness more than a few times but I'm still here.

:-\

Hugs Jenny, I do understand.

All of it.

Quote from: Jenny07 on March 16, 2014, 12:31:48 AM
My name relates to my partner/fiancé Jenny, who was horrifically injured and suffered a acquired brain injury ABI, and is now in 24 hour care with no hope of getting better in a semi vegetative state. It's so sad to see her now and leaves me in tears each time.:'(
It was in 2007, thus every post I remember her as she was the love of my life and soul mate.

She was troubled and I know she had strong gender issues herself but I kept it to myself.

It's been a long hard road that nearly ended in darkness more than a few times but I'm still here.

:-\

Kia Ora Jenny,

Sorry to hear about your partner's condition...But I'm sure she would have wanted you to be happy in life...

Metta Anatta :)

Sephirah gave me this name... Sometime shortly after we first met, she greeted me with, "Peekaboo, Pikachu." No reason that I know of. She was just being her adorable self. Then in the Valentine's Day fundraiser thread ("Susan's Kissing Booth"), she gave me a hug by posting a picture of a girl hugging a pikachu. I don't know, it just sort of became a thing. So when I was looking to change my name to something better than the generic one I had to start with, she suggested I change it to Pikachu. :)

Um... I'm not sure if I act like a pikachu or not.  ???

Quote from: Pikachu on March 16, 2014, 01:20:46 AMSephirah gave me this name... Sometime shortly after we first met, she greeted me with, "Peekaboo, Pikachu." No reason that I know of. She was just being her adorable self. Then in the Valentine's Day fundraiser thread ("Susan's Kissing Booth"), she gave me a hug by posting a picture of a girl hugging a pikachu. I don't know, it just sort of became a thing. So when I was looking to change my name to something better than the generic one I had to start with, she suggested I change it to Pikachu. :)

Um... I'm not sure if I act like a pikachu or not.  ???

Do you like to shock or volt tackle people?

I'm Cindy; what more needs to be said :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

My username is from how someone once described me that still and will likely always hold true (which I like).
I don't think anyone makes an effort to be sad. I think this is a support forum and people come on here for support. It can be hard to ask for support when one is afraid of people claiming they want to be sad though.
The effect of sad sounding names would depend on the person. For some people, it may reinforce their negative self image. For others, it may serve as a reminder of what they want to change and a motivator. For some, it may be something about themselves they don't really mind.

Let's see... I've been Madeleine G, Fairy Princess with a Death Ray, Muffin Top, Fairy Princess with a Muffin Ray, Just Maddy!, Just Gwynne!, Unjust Gwynne!, Several variations on Gwynne, Switzerland, and now m7♭5.

I like to be playful with my screen names.

My current SN is a dissonant jazz chord that's awkward to resolve. Dissonant and tough to resolve--just like me :D

Most of mine have been variations centered around Laura. The only time this wasn't the case was when I went with Miss_Bungle (a tribute to the GODS, Mr Bungle). But once I had an illustration of a character that has my first name from a series of fanfics that I write, I decided that THIS is what I am finally going to stick with.

Besides, when you consider the personal text line beneath the avatar, it makes perfect sense.  ;D

I used to be Mr. Hockey because I love hockey but now it's just my real name.

I used to be on this forum for people who self-injured. A lot of people who joined would have these really emo type names. After a time though their names would change. It was like they grew out of their sad names and eventually were more interested with connecting with people on that forum.

As far as tomboy... when I was a kid that's how identified myself whenever a gender issue came up. I'm just acknowledging that. I've always been this way. I never saw myself as a girl.

Jessica was a trauma patient I couldn't save who did a lot of good in the world and Merriman was found on my original pre adoption birth certificate.

mine is just made up from letters from my first and last name....

What does that said about me Dr. Annatta ?

Maybes I should change to TTT... lol

Kia Ora,

And thanks for the responses so far....There are as many reasons as there are members as to why one uses a particular forum name ie, "sentimental" "directional" "to inspire themselves or others" "for fun" "How they feel about themselves"...the list goes on and on...

When using a positive sounding forum name it does have its benefits...Bearing in mind in this world first impressions count...So something as simple as a positive made up forum name(If one does not want to use their real name) psychologically can go a long way in boosting that person's self esteem/image (fake it until you make it !)

Understandably some members are clinically depressed and need more that just a name to help them out of it...

Edge rightly pointed out that this is a "support" site and I would like to just add support comes in many forms not just a listening ear to vent in or a shoulder to lean/cry on...

Sometimes just planting a seed which makes a person think outside the box can germinate and grow into something positive....

Again this would also depend on where the person's mind is at ie, if in a negative mood, then things could be seen in a negative light-even if the intention was good/wholesome...

Metta Anatta :)

Quote from: peky on March 16, 2014, 10:09:55 PM
mine is just made up from letters from my first and last name....

What does that said about me Dr. Annatta ?

Maybes I should change to TTT... lol

Kia Ora Peky dear friend...

Your name says it all (take this which ever way you see fit)  ;) ;D

Metta Anatta :)

It's just my name. I needed a fem name and wanted something that started with T. All the other T names were taken and this is what was left.

Mine is the Latin name for the European M->-bleeped-<-ie.

It was a bit of a mission statement for me when I first started on here, to steal the shiny things and treasure them - all the good times and feelings and right things.

It also linked to the old m->-bleeped-<-ie rhyme,
'1 for sorrow
2 for joy
3 for a girl and
4 for a boy
5 for silver
6 for gold
7 is a secret never to be told
8 is a wish and
9 is a kiss
10 is a bird you must not miss.'

Also, always been rather fond of the corvids.

Quote from: Pica Pica on April 05, 2014, 06:11:18 PM
Mine is the Latin name for the European M->-bleeped-<-ie.

Thank you for clarifying. I thought perhaps you enjoyed eating dirt.  :-\

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Quote from: Djynne on April 05, 2014, 09:20:16 PM
Thank you for clarifying. I thought perhaps you enjoyed eating dirt.  :-\

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I guess the "D" stands for Dr., right? in addition, I also guess few people in developed countries know about "pica-pica."

Mine is just something I use that is a bit more descriptive for myself than most other choices.

I have no idea how I ended up taking a liking to the name of a Stilwater street gang, but here we are.  Otherwise, I'd have gone for Kimberley, my chosen female name.

I thought the dirt eating one was spelt with a 'k' - Pika.

That said, I have been forced to eat my fair share of sh.... dirt.

Mine's my name without the vowels. Not sure if there's any other hidden meaning to live up to from that.

Quote from: Pica Pica on April 06, 2014, 05:52:36 PM
I thought the dirt eating one was spelt with a 'k' - Pika.

That said, I have been forced to eat my fair share of sh.... dirt.

No. Pika with a k is a small, whistling rodent often observed living in mountain scree.

No hidden meanings behind my name, it's online name I've been using since 2006 and finding it hard to part with it. :D It's even slipped into real life and some people call me Tossu.

I also go by the name Lord Lauri in some places, namely Tumblr. Lauri is my real name and the title... Well, my Polish online friend dubbed me as some kinda dark lord couple years ago. :'D

We pretty much traveled when I was a kid so gypsy is an apt description and who doesn't want to live forever.  If you know Australia once we went for a small drive from Rockhampton (Queensland). We ended up in Adalaide (South Australia), I think that's roughly 4500 give or take pending what route you take

My current username is my name and location.. In the past I've been Kelly the Trans-Rebel and Kelly the Post-Trans-Rebel.. These both allude to my rebellious nature as far as being trans goes..

I'm Lord of KATs. Pretty obvious, huh?

Is it, to use the example that you give, a sad name causing them to unknowingly live up to that?   Their name impacting their emotional state?

Or rather did their emotional state impact the name they've chosen?

As a hypothetical:  Someone wanders on here, horribly depressed and looking for support and help.  In their depression, they don't pick a cheerful name, because that's not where their mind is at.  Their emotional state directs them to select a name more fitting with how they feel, and thus they choose a sad name.  And because they're depressed, because that's their mindset, most of the posts, and threads and comments are going to show that as well. 

Depression is not so easily overcome or chased away.  It can linger, everyday, sometimes for years.  So it's entirely statistically possible to rarely see a post outside that mental state, if at all, with some people.

The same is true for anything:  A happy person will probably select a happy sounding name and make quite a bit more happy posts.  A funny person, likewise, a humorous name with many humorous posts.  An aggressive person will select an aggressive sounding name and show their aggressiveness in many posts and threads.

I don't see it as the name influencing the poster, but rather who the poster is and where they're at mentally influencing both the name and the posts they make.

It's umm, my name.

An update now I've changed my display name.  I was playing mafia on this other forum I frequent and was put on the same team as this awesome South African dude I get on with.  We both role-played as female characters and he named his Kimberley Beauregard.  I was fixated on this, partly because I'm a fan of the cosplayer Eve Beauregard.  He thought it was cool I chose Kim as my female name and told me to seize the world.  I know for sure I interact with the right people.

I'm kind of surprised how little I seem to live up to that title "the fusion of geekdom and nerdery" on this site... I seriously don't post about binomial theorem, roller coaster physics, my love of anime, and memorizing digits of pi enough... :P

Cos Luna's a good name for a kitty cat! Nyan nyan!
And Luna is best pony, and bestest pony princess as well!

So I say one day, "Wife.  I need a new name." She looks at me and says, "You look like a Lara."  Instantly I think of my years playing this:

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Not that I'm into skimpy clothes but I do love Lara Croft and would love to blow stuff up if I had the chance.  Long story short, that's my name and I'm a lover and a fighter.  If I love you, I'll fight for you.  No matter what.  And I love you all!


This is a cool thread!  We are learning about each other. :D




Edit: Whoa!  I just realized that we are both holding the gun the same way!  That was a total accident! lol

my name is actually I started using the name Reaver online (after seeing the character in Fable 2 for the first time and pretty much falling in love with the character) so it's kind of stuck with me.
As for the Marcus, my current middle name actually starts with mar, but it's a really girly song name. I was thinking of names that I could use that go well with Reaver and that's how Marcus came about. That plus it's not a super common name either.

I drink WAY too much coffee. Sometimes I drink tea. They are two of my favourite beverages so I stuck them together.

Nether is the pain and sorrow of all those who suffer. I would contain your pain that everyone else may live happily.

It is kind of a life motto. I will do anything for other people. I'm an incredible shoulder to cry on or vent to, but at the end of the day, I cannot escape who I am. I have so many regrets and my outlook on life is very grim.

Back to happy face mode.

I think I live up to my name, lol.  When all is said, I really am trying to grow, learn, and adapt to life around me considering the circumstances that I face.  Learningtolive seems like an appropriate title.  Also, I love music and it's a big part of my life, so I named myself after a song.  A song with lyrics that sort of described where I've been, where I am, and where I want to be.   Even though the song's intent is much different than my own interpretation, I see so much personal meaning that really reflects my life.

There was no time for pain
No energy for anger
The sightlessness of hatred
slips away
Walking through winter streets
alone
He stops and take a breath
With confidence and self-
control

I look at the world and see no
understanding
I'm waiting to find some sense
of strength
I'm begging you from the
bottom of my heart to show
me understanding

I need to live life
Like some people never will
So find me kindness
Find me beauty
Find me truth
When temptation brings me to
my knees
And I lay here drained of
strength
Show me kindness
Show me beauty
Show me truth

The way your heart sounds
makes all the difference
It's what decides if you'll endure
the pain that we all feel
The way your heart beats
makes all the difference
In learning to live
Here before me is my soul
I'm learning to live
I won't give up
Till I've no more to give

Listening to the city
Whispering its violence
I set out watching from above
The 90s bring new questions
New solutions to be found
I fell in love to be let down

Once again we dance in the
crowd
At times a step away
From a common fear that's all
spread out
It won't listen to what you say
Once you're touched you stand
alone
To face the bitter fight
Once I reached for love
And now I reach for life

Another chance to lift my life
Free the sensation in my heart
To ride the wings of dreams
into changing horizons
It brings inner peace within my
mind,
As I'm lifted from where I've
spilt my life
I hear an innocent voice
I hear kindness, beauty and
truth

The way your heart sounds
makes all the difference
It's what decides if you'll endure
the pain that we all feel
The way your heart beats
makes all the difference
In learning to live
Spread before you is your soul
So forever hold the dreams
within our hearts
Through nature's inflexible
grace
I'm learning to live

"Learning to Live" by Dream Theater

Mines unimaginative and's just my name, the first letter of my surname (Clark) and a number since I've found AmyC is generally taken I just do it out of habit.

That said, I used to use different forum names when I was younger and would usually take the name of a character from a book/game/film that I had a particular empathy with. The most common one I used was Mortarion a character from Games Workshop's Warhammer 40,000 universe. They've recently changed some of the characters backstory but at the time I empathised with his quest for absolute justice in all things, his fortitude (both mental and physical) and his grim determination to see everything through to the end, no matter what. In the old lore of the 40,000 universe his brother uses his need for absolute justice to trick him into joining the wrong side in a civil war but hey, nobody's perfect.

I hadn't ever thought about why I chose the names I did until I was at a job interview about 4 years ago and the interviewer looked at my email address which was also Mortarion, asked what it mean so I explained and as the final question for the interview he just said "What does Mortarion mean to you?" to which my answer was "Excuse me?" and he explained that in his experience when choosing someone chooses a name of a character or person it is usually because they have a lot of respect for or desire to be that character, or at the very least that character epitomises character traits that the person values.

It was an interesting thought, and consequently I tend to over analyse names now!

If I lived up to my forum name, there would be a lot more tentacles, and a few people would've been inked. I do have the lurking part down, though.

Really, though, there are a lot of people going by Jen here (not so much in my day-to-day life), so I had to have something to distinguish myself.

i collect Wonder Woman items ... friends also call me Diana as my nick

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I wouldn't know how to even begin to live up to my screen name, lol. I just thought it sounded pretty cool. And is related to something I'm interested in.

When I first joined here, I used to go by my actual name. But I changed it when I changed my name to one which is, sadly, a lot less unique. :P

Hey, I like your name. It sounds unique to me and reminds me of my favorite game franchise, though I identify you more with 10 than 7 as you know, lol. And just think about it, don't you love all the people that mistake it for "Sephira", lol.

Quote from: learningtolive on May 03, 2014, 12:22:09 PM
Hey, I like your name. It sounds unique to me and reminds me of my favorite game franchise, though I identify you more with 10 than 7 as you know, lol. And just think about it, don't you love all the people that mistake it for "Sephira", lol.

Lol, I find that endearing, to be honest. And heck, it's easier to type. ;D

I kinda identify myself with 10 more than 7. The same character you're thinking of. Interestingly that's not where the name came from. But where Square themselves got the name from. The Qabalah. Something I've had a sporadic interest in over the years.

Quote from: Sephirah on May 03, 2014, 12:02:13 PM
I wouldn't know how to even begin to live up to my screen name, lol. I just thought it sounded pretty cool. And is related to something I'm interested in.

When I first joined here, I used to go by my actual name. But I changed it when I changed my name to one which is, sadly, a lot less unique. :P

agreed with learning, you have very pretty name & Unique :)

I change my name every now and again, not often...but I chose "Birkin" because I like Sherry Birkin from Resident Evil. I don't plan to change it any time soon. I do, however, change my avatar now and again depending on what I'm obsessed with at the time.

Quote from: birkin on May 03, 2014, 06:23:11 PM
I change my name every now and again, not often...but I chose "Birkin" because I like Sherry Birkin from Resident Evil. I don't plan to change it any time soon. I do, however, change my avatar now and again depending on what I'm obsessed with at the time.

I love RE franchises ! .. Sherry Birkin grew up to be a hot chick in RE6

Quote from: DianaVV on May 03, 2014, 06:30:27 PM
I love RE franchises ! .. Sherry Birkin grew up to be a hot chick in RE6

She did. ;D

Original screenname here: LearnedHand -- I choose that one because I didn't want to use a name typically associated with myself here. That is the name of a famous American judge, and it just happened to be written on a page of an open book near me while I was trying to think of a username for this site.

Nimrata -- Punjabi for "humble". I am far from humble, but it's something I need to develop. I also just like the way it sounds. :D

I use Drifting Crow on other websites, e-mails, and sometimes IRL, it's more of a real name for me since it more directly describes my spirit.