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SOme reason my mother doesn't like the name I didn't pick, I don't know what I should do, I love the Latin name Lavinia, its unique, beautiful and in a different language too bad its not Italian but I dc, I don't know what I should do my mom wants the name jean yuck horrible name, sorry if I should offensive.

See here's the thing: you have to live with the name. Not her. Pick a name YOU like, or you'll just be miserable signing it the rest of your life.

Your life, your name! :)

Very true I do like the name Lavinia Renata. il `e molto bella

Quote from: Lavinia on March 27, 2014, 11:10:00 PM
Very true I do like the name Lavinia Renata. il `e molto bella

Go with it. It sounds very feminine and poetic! :)

the first name is Latin but the middle name is Italian and the rest is it is very beautiful in Italian (il `e molto bella)

You don't have to please anyone else with this. It's YOUR name.

You've earned this. Be Lavinia.

:)
Tegan

Its a really nice name
if you like it and if it makes you happy then I dont see why you should change it to please others...

Grazie, tegan I am defiantly going to keep the name lavinia renata (Sto con aria di sfida intenzione di mantenere il renata nome lavinia en itlaliano)

If I had been born (physically) female, my parents would have named me Ruth. Do I feel any connection to that name, knowing it's history? Hell no. I'd rather be Tegan, thank you very much.

My point is, you know who you are. Be her.

Teg

thank you everyone I defiantly will keep the name I love the name its from the ancient latin language that is now dead (ringrazio tutti quelli che con aria di sfida manterrò il nome che mi piace il nome proprio dall'antica lingua latina, che ora è morto)

*shrugs* I just asked my mom what name I'd have had would I have come out right. After that it was just getting used to it. You can pick whatever name you like but I'll tell you plainly that getting your mom involved (esp if you're still young) can and probably will make this a lot more inclusive.

You can always have a legal name that she likes, pick your middle name, and go by that but still be her baby.

My 2¢.

My mother has an issue with any name that is not my current legal name, and she cried for a good 15 minutes when I asked her what I would have been named born with the proper parts.
People change their names for many reasons, sometimes because they didn't like the name their parents gave them. Rarely are the parents happy in that situation too...

I actually broke the news to my mom *after* I got the name out of her. Given that the OP's parent seems fine with transition but not name, it might build a bridge.

Well like everyone else in here has mentioned, it's your name not hers. Go with what you like.

I chose the female version of my name, but both my parents have passed so it's just the name I like

Quote from: stephaniec on March 28, 2014, 03:53:05 PM
but both my parents have passed so it's just the name I like

Sorry to hear that.
:(

Quote from: Starla on March 28, 2014, 03:56:43 PM
Sorry to hear that.
:(

thanks

Off topic, but I have to say, Starla, that you look incredible. I mean, really really good. Nice job.

Stay sweet,
Teg :)

My mom wasn't that fond of my name either... She was going to name me Leah. Definitely not a Leah, haha. Definitely a Jenny.

When I offered to make my middle name by her first name "Elizabeth" she said "awww... now I could get used to Jenny Elizabeth!" Now I pretty much solely go by Jenny Elizabeth.

And presto the battle was won & everyone is happy :D

Have you considered making your mom's first your middle?

When I told that I would like to be called Natalia my mother started laughing...but she didn't found it ugly...just ununsual...besides being a very common name here.

I kind of like Natalia...

When I told my grandmother she didn't like too much...but the feminine version of my name is not very nice...Leandra (I am not afraid of posting my real name here anymore, screw it)...mainly because the meaning is originaly lean = lion andro = man...no I don't want a "man" on my name!...and andra doesn't mean woman :p

So I think I'll stick with Natalia...

I'll only miss being called Lê (here people often kindly call you for the first letters of your name)...and I'll be called Ná...or Nath...

But, coming back to the OP post  ;D The life is yours and you will be the one who will live with your name...but I like to think that it is nice to have our genitors opinion since they didn't ask us when we were born, right?  ;D

You could settle in the middle with changing your middle name to her request. :)
So yeah I'm agreeing with jenny pretty much on this topic.  That is if you like jean as a middle name?

My mother didn't like the name I chose for myself either. But then I didn't like the name she chose for me when I was born. Now we're even.

I think you name is very feminine. If a middle name compromise is not in the cards then perhaps a nick name your Mom picks?

thanks, I chose the middle name renata which is Italian and lavinia for my first name which is Latin and ancient language. it is very feminine and unique not a lot of people have a name from an ancient language.

I'm glad you're happy with it. It's a very nice name.

Like a tattoo, your mom might not like it now, but she will get used to it. Very soon your new name will become a part of you in her eyes, and since she loves and accepts you, she'll learn to love and accept it as well. It'll just take time , that's all.  :)

Way to stick to your guns. It really is a nice name.

Take care,
Teg

Quote from: Tegan on March 28, 2014, 09:47:47 PM
I'm glad you're happy with it. It's a very nice name.

Like a tattoo, your mom might not like it now, but she will get used to it. Very soon your new name will become a part of you in her eyes, and since she loves and accepts you, she'll learn to love and accept it as well. It'll just take time , that's all.  :)

Way to stick to your guns. It really is a nice name.

Take care,
Teg

I agree, it is a beautiful name :)

Forget about my post earlier ;) You're doing great!

I also think it's very pretty, and that you should get the name *you* want.

But you can consider compromise; I added a feminine version of my old name as a second middle name, because my mother fought for months with my father to be allowed to give me that name and it meant a lot to her.

Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on March 28, 2014, 12:28:51 AM
*shrugs* I just asked my mom what name I'd have had would I have come out right. After that it was just getting used to it. You can pick whatever name you like but I'll tell you plainly that getting your mom involved (esp if you're still young) can and probably will make this a lot more inclusive.

You can always have a legal name that she likes, pick your middle name, and go by that but still be her baby.

My 2¢.

Dittos. I figure most cispeople don't pick their names, so why should I? It actually surprisingly really helped me and my mom get closer, letting her pick, and it felt more genuine/authentic than if id have picked it. I got lucky cuz I love the name, though (Abigail/Abby). But honestly, it feels even more like ME cuz I did it the way it woulda been done if I was born female