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Title: Intro & Hello
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 12, 2014, 06:20:20 PM
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 12, 2014, 06:20:20 PM
Hello All,
By way of introduction, I'm many years (decades actually) post-op and although I don't particularly need support, I am intrigued with the prospect of connecting with others who've made it across to the other side. I have no 3D connections to "the community" but I've read and participated in a couple of other forums over the years. I've heard of this forum a few times and thought I'd check it out.
With respect & admiration for all who have the courage & self awareness to undertake the improbable journey of changing sex, I have to say I don't have much patience with folks who expend all their energy fretting about how difficult/painful/scary the process is instead of just doing what it takes to make it happen. My own journey was certainly difficult, painful & scary at times but I survived, and thrived so I know it can be done!
Labels and boxes don't interest me but I guess that I'm "stealth" by definition. I work in a high profile industry and I'm active in local business & civic activities and my history is not known. I like it that way and have no desire to out myself. I've shared my history with the men I've had long term serious relationships with, but never with casual dates or flings. That's worked well for me and I don't spend any time worrying about whether or not to "tell".
For the first time in many years, I have a surgical procedure scheduled in a couple of weeks. As yet another benchmark of sliding into old age ... I'm having cataract surgery! It's a whole new transition - getting my bearings and finding my place in the scheme of things as a 60 year old person (who has a 24 year old living inside her head :)).
So there you have a thumbnail portrait of me. I look forward to reading, posting and getting to know all of you.
Carol
By way of introduction, I'm many years (decades actually) post-op and although I don't particularly need support, I am intrigued with the prospect of connecting with others who've made it across to the other side. I have no 3D connections to "the community" but I've read and participated in a couple of other forums over the years. I've heard of this forum a few times and thought I'd check it out.
With respect & admiration for all who have the courage & self awareness to undertake the improbable journey of changing sex, I have to say I don't have much patience with folks who expend all their energy fretting about how difficult/painful/scary the process is instead of just doing what it takes to make it happen. My own journey was certainly difficult, painful & scary at times but I survived, and thrived so I know it can be done!
Labels and boxes don't interest me but I guess that I'm "stealth" by definition. I work in a high profile industry and I'm active in local business & civic activities and my history is not known. I like it that way and have no desire to out myself. I've shared my history with the men I've had long term serious relationships with, but never with casual dates or flings. That's worked well for me and I don't spend any time worrying about whether or not to "tell".
For the first time in many years, I have a surgical procedure scheduled in a couple of weeks. As yet another benchmark of sliding into old age ... I'm having cataract surgery! It's a whole new transition - getting my bearings and finding my place in the scheme of things as a 60 year old person (who has a 24 year old living inside her head :)).
So there you have a thumbnail portrait of me. I look forward to reading, posting and getting to know all of you.
Carol
Title: Re: Intro & Hello
Post by: mrs izzy on April 12, 2014, 07:22:49 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on April 12, 2014, 07:22:49 PM
Welcome Carol,
I echo your feelings and life. I am only a year post but have walked this path (stealth) since 1999.
I wish you the best in your surgery and speed in recovery.
Isabell
I echo your feelings and life. I am only a year post but have walked this path (stealth) since 1999.
I wish you the best in your surgery and speed in recovery.
Isabell
Title: Re: Intro & Hello
Post by: Jessica Merriman on April 12, 2014, 08:19:15 PM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on April 12, 2014, 08:19:15 PM
A big warm welcome to the family Carol! I hope you make many new connections here. :)
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Title: Re: Intro & Hello
Post by: CaitlinH on April 13, 2014, 05:55:05 AM
Post by: CaitlinH on April 13, 2014, 05:55:05 AM
Welcome to the forums Carol! I'm glad you've decided to join the forums, there's plenty of people of all ages and stages of transition so I'm sure you'll be able to build connections with people.
Would you mind if I PM'd you with questions in regard to life post transition once you're at 15 posts? I'm pre-everything at the moment and so far have only really spoken to people in a similar situation to myself. I'd love to hear your opinions on the process and how life is after becoming true to yourself. :)
Would you mind if I PM'd you with questions in regard to life post transition once you're at 15 posts? I'm pre-everything at the moment and so far have only really spoken to people in a similar situation to myself. I'd love to hear your opinions on the process and how life is after becoming true to yourself. :)
Title: Re: Intro & Hello
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 13, 2014, 06:56:55 AM
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 13, 2014, 06:56:55 AM
Quote from: mind is quiet now on April 12, 2014, 07:22:49 PM
Welcome Carol,
Thanks for the welcome & well wishes Isabell.
Carol
Title: Re: Intro & Hello
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 13, 2014, 06:59:23 AM
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 13, 2014, 06:59:23 AM
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on April 12, 2014, 08:19:15 PM
A big warm welcome to the family Carol! I hope you make many new connections here. :)
Please review
Thank you Jessica! I actually reviewed everything before posting ... I'll try to mind my Ps & Qs during my stay.
Carol
Title: Re: Intro & Hello
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 13, 2014, 07:11:26 AM
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 13, 2014, 07:11:26 AM
Quote from: CaitlinH on April 13, 2014, 05:55:05 AM
Welcome to the forums Carol! I'm glad you've decided to join the forums, there's plenty of people of all ages and stages of transition so I'm sure you'll be able to build connections with people.
Would you mind if I PM'd you with questions in regard to life post transition once you're at 15 posts? I'm pre-everything at the moment and so far have only really spoken to people in a similar situation to myself. I'd love to hear your opinions on the process and how life is after becoming true to yourself. :)
Thanks for the welcome Caitlin. I don't mind answering general questions, but it has been over 40 years since I was "pre-everything" and mostly I just live my life without fanfare.
All the best in your journey,
Carol
Title: Re: Intro & Hello
Post by: gennee on April 13, 2014, 05:34:43 PM
Post by: gennee on April 13, 2014, 05:34:43 PM
Hi Carol and welcome to Susan's.
:)
:)
Title: Re: Intro & Hello
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 13, 2014, 08:52:51 PM
Post by: Carol Chastleton on April 13, 2014, 08:52:51 PM
Quote from: gennee on April 13, 2014, 05:34:43 PMThanks for the welcome Gennee.
Hi Carol and welcome to Susan's.
:)