Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: ConfusedHumanUK on April 17, 2014, 05:35:32 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Finally told my mother :)
Post by: ConfusedHumanUK on April 17, 2014, 05:35:32 AM
Post by: ConfusedHumanUK on April 17, 2014, 05:35:32 AM
I've not been around here for a good month or so. I've basically spent some time to myself, away from it all to allow myself to get everything together in my head.
After two failed attempts to tell my mother, yesterday I was finally able to do it....and it went surprisingly well! :)
She was more concerned how people will basically think of me, see me, treat me, etc. She made it very clear that whilst she doesn't understand it all, she's here for me. She even persuaded me to phone my GP to book the appointment for GIC referral.
I'm still a bit shocked. I really expected her to break down, deny it, shout at me and all sorts but it was the complete opposite. Her only issue was that she did say she's going to find it hard to understand and accept a bit as I've never been feminine in the slightest (which I haven't other than music choice), and have basically never shown any signs of being this way.
I've just got to tell my Dad and sister now, which will hopefully be within the next few days or early next week. She did ask how I wanted to go about telling people, and if I wanted to keep it private for now, which I do. I explained all about the HRT process and said I'd rather not tell people until I have to, simply because it's not really any of their business I guess.
Oh and we even came up with a couple of names. Two of which I love (and one of them was the name I'd have been called if I was born a girl).
So happy, confused and....relieved I guess is the word :D
After two failed attempts to tell my mother, yesterday I was finally able to do it....and it went surprisingly well! :)
She was more concerned how people will basically think of me, see me, treat me, etc. She made it very clear that whilst she doesn't understand it all, she's here for me. She even persuaded me to phone my GP to book the appointment for GIC referral.
I'm still a bit shocked. I really expected her to break down, deny it, shout at me and all sorts but it was the complete opposite. Her only issue was that she did say she's going to find it hard to understand and accept a bit as I've never been feminine in the slightest (which I haven't other than music choice), and have basically never shown any signs of being this way.
I've just got to tell my Dad and sister now, which will hopefully be within the next few days or early next week. She did ask how I wanted to go about telling people, and if I wanted to keep it private for now, which I do. I explained all about the HRT process and said I'd rather not tell people until I have to, simply because it's not really any of their business I guess.
Oh and we even came up with a couple of names. Two of which I love (and one of them was the name I'd have been called if I was born a girl).
So happy, confused and....relieved I guess is the word :D
Title: Re: Finally told my mother :)
Post by: HumanBeing on April 17, 2014, 07:09:58 AM
Post by: HumanBeing on April 17, 2014, 07:09:58 AM
Congrats! That is really good news :)
It's nice that the first thing that came to her mind was your welfare and how people would treat you :)
I hope that your Dad and sister react in the same way your mum has. If not, at least you know you have her support until they come round to the idea.
All the best ;D
It's nice that the first thing that came to her mind was your welfare and how people would treat you :)
I hope that your Dad and sister react in the same way your mum has. If not, at least you know you have her support until they come round to the idea.
All the best ;D
Title: Re: Finally told my mother :)
Post by: Pinkkatie on April 17, 2014, 08:19:42 AM
Post by: Pinkkatie on April 17, 2014, 08:19:42 AM
Congratz! Always a big step to let the parents know, and I'm glad it went so well for you. :)
Title: Re: Finally told my mother :)
Post by: SilverGirl on April 17, 2014, 08:58:09 AM
Post by: SilverGirl on April 17, 2014, 08:58:09 AM
congratulations! having parental support makes a huge difference, my mom acted a little like she was supportive at the start, but now is in complete denial, and that has made things very hard for me *hugs*
try to educate her on what transgender is, but make sure you don't go too fast or force it too much as that may put her off or something
try to educate her on what transgender is, but make sure you don't go too fast or force it too much as that may put her off or something