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Title: Hello everybody!
Post by: Kova V on April 19, 2014, 07:23:00 PM
Post by: Kova V on April 19, 2014, 07:23:00 PM
Oh, where to begin... I'm Nikova, Kova for short. I'm at a point in my life where I'm just tired of "pretending to be a guy." I had a choice a few months back - you know that choice that makes you a statistic. I came to the conclusion that if I was going to take that route, I might as well start fresh and do things the way I thought they should have been done.
I don't want to go into the backstory of my life but I grew up in rural western Iowa and lets just say I'm not very brave. The farthest I've gone before was growing my hair out at 14 and dressing androgynously until I was 24. Thats when I cut my hair, moved to Ohio and did the whole professional job thing (and still am.) I know its an excuse but it was so hard to make it past the first interview with my appearance, how "weird" I acted and I had no one to support me. I'm still nervous about the my job but I'll cross that bridge later.
In any case I'm back at this doorway and I'm pretty scared. But if I'm going to be stressed out as a guy looking through the mirror, then there's no reason I can't be stressed out as a girl looking back from the other side!
I don't have a support network (or even very many real friends for that matter) and I know that's one of the things that kept me from pursuing this since high school. That's one of the reasons I'm here. Because I don't have the tennis-balls to cut mine off without some hand holding. ;)
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kova v
I don't want to go into the backstory of my life but I grew up in rural western Iowa and lets just say I'm not very brave. The farthest I've gone before was growing my hair out at 14 and dressing androgynously until I was 24. Thats when I cut my hair, moved to Ohio and did the whole professional job thing (and still am.) I know its an excuse but it was so hard to make it past the first interview with my appearance, how "weird" I acted and I had no one to support me. I'm still nervous about the my job but I'll cross that bridge later.
In any case I'm back at this doorway and I'm pretty scared. But if I'm going to be stressed out as a guy looking through the mirror, then there's no reason I can't be stressed out as a girl looking back from the other side!
I don't have a support network (or even very many real friends for that matter) and I know that's one of the things that kept me from pursuing this since high school. That's one of the reasons I'm here. Because I don't have the tennis-balls to cut mine off without some hand holding. ;)
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kova v
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: gennee on April 19, 2014, 07:34:31 PM
Post by: gennee on April 19, 2014, 07:34:31 PM
Hello Kova and welcome to Susan's.
:)
:)
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: V M on April 19, 2014, 08:33:21 PM
Post by: V M on April 19, 2014, 08:33:21 PM
Hi Kova :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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Hugs
V M
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Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: Shannon14 on April 19, 2014, 08:37:31 PM
Post by: Shannon14 on April 19, 2014, 08:37:31 PM
Hello Kova,
I'm new here too, and I grew up in Central Iowa. Very nice to have you here.
I'm new here too, and I grew up in Central Iowa. Very nice to have you here.
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: Allyda on April 19, 2014, 11:20:00 PM
Post by: Allyda on April 19, 2014, 11:20:00 PM
Hi Kova, welcome to Susan's. As you'll quickly find out we're a family here. Please feel free to vent, post your frustrations and anger, cry, or laugh with us. We're all here to support each other and you now are a part of our family. Here's a big couple of hugs to welcome you to the family! :icon_hug: :icon_hug:
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: Jessica Merriman on April 19, 2014, 11:34:02 PM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on April 19, 2014, 11:34:02 PM
A big warm welcome to the family Kova! We have all been at the place you find yourself now so know you have a ton of support and are not alone any more. Dig right in and let us help you out. Ask anything you need to and don't be shy. Here is a BIG HUG :icon_hug: to welcome you and make you feel right at home! :)
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: samcutchb on April 20, 2014, 02:42:00 AM
Post by: samcutchb on April 20, 2014, 02:42:00 AM
Hello Kova I'm Sam and I am also new here.
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: ~Evelyn~ on April 20, 2014, 09:42:31 PM
Post by: ~Evelyn~ on April 20, 2014, 09:42:31 PM
Hi im new here too, just wanted to tell you that anything is possible and don't stop believing or trying till you achieve your goal. ;)
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: Allyda on April 21, 2014, 04:47:07 AM
Post by: Allyda on April 21, 2014, 04:47:07 AM
Hi Sam, Born Free, Same thing goes for the both of you. Welcome to our Family here at Susan's!
Hugs :icon_hug: :icon_hug: :icon_hug:
Ally :icon_flower:
Hugs :icon_hug: :icon_hug: :icon_hug:
Ally :icon_flower:
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: Gina Taylor on April 21, 2014, 09:34:41 AM
Post by: Gina Taylor on April 21, 2014, 09:34:41 AM
Hi Kova :icon_wave: and welcome to Susan's!
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: Kova V on April 21, 2014, 05:01:07 PM
Post by: Kova V on April 21, 2014, 05:01:07 PM
Thanks everyone! It's silly but this really gives me perspective. I know it's not going to be so easy some times but I think I've finally found a way through. And I'm defiantly going to be taking everyone up on their offer for the whole crying/venting thing.
I'm so grateful for your support. Thank you.
Also shout-outs to Shannon, Sam & Bornfree for being new too! Hi!
:D
I'm so grateful for your support. Thank you.
Also shout-outs to Shannon, Sam & Bornfree for being new too! Hi!
:D
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: ~Evelyn~ on April 22, 2014, 05:58:32 AM
Post by: ~Evelyn~ on April 22, 2014, 05:58:32 AM
I hope you manage to find what you're looking for and by the way name is Evelyn and also is there a way to change my username? Help? Anybody?
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: V M on April 22, 2014, 06:20:05 AM
Post by: V M on April 22, 2014, 06:20:05 AM
Quote from: BornFree on April 22, 2014, 05:58:32 AM
I hope you manage to find what you're looking for and by the way name is Evelyn and also is there a way to change my username? Help? Anybody?
I believe you can change your username after 15 posts
Title: Re: Hello everybody!
Post by: ~Evelyn~ on April 22, 2014, 06:59:53 AM
Post by: ~Evelyn~ on April 22, 2014, 06:59:53 AM
Quote from: V M on April 22, 2014, 06:20:05 AM
I believe you can change your username after 15 posts
Thanks! :)