Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Wanted to stop by and officially introduce myself. I've been lurking around and hanging in the chat room up till now. I just recently discovered that I am transgender. I had a typical childhood of dressing which I suppressed in my teen years. In my adult years I was in to latex and leather fetish dressing but over the years that became more and more feminized. It was at some point that I realized I was just fooling myself in to thinking that was some how more accepted (at least from the kink point of view) and that what I really wanted to wear was a dress. So I bought a dress, tried it on, and that was all she wrote. A real inner peace and calm came over me that I had never felt before and I knew what it was that I could never accept. That was almost a year ago and I am currently in therapy and I am trying to decide what course this will take. How I will integrate my feminine self with my life, my family and my friends.

Which I why I am here to make friends and look for advice. I am looking forward to participating in the forum.

Welcome to the forum! *huggles*

Welcome to the other half of Susan's. Lot of friends to be made here too.

Hey there Abs,

Welcome. I hope that you find the support, answers, and friendship that you seek here. You already have the acceptance, I assure you. This is a great community full of inspiring and kind people, so take your shoes off and make yourself at home. I think you'll like it here.  :)

Cheers,
Tegan

Hey Abby

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

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Cheers

Grace

Hi Abby and welcome to Susan's. I thought about the leather scene while I was dealing with my gender questioning but decided that it didn't fit me. There's plenty of information and great people here.



:)

Thanks for the warm welcome! I love this place already! :-)

Quote from: abbyFlame on April 26, 2014, 04:44:55 PM
How I will integrate my feminine self with my life, my family and my friends.

That is the hardest step for all of us, but one we had to take. You have to individualize it and present it in a way they will understand. You know your family and friends better than us, so we can give you tips, but ultimately it is up to you. I considered notifying (I hate the term coming out) people as the second biggest step in transition right after admitting to myself I was trans and could not fight it anymore. I will tell you that Dysphoria only gets much worse as time goes by. I used so much energy being a "male" that is sapped me to the core. Now I feel relaxed, rested and live every day to the fullest. Transition saved my life and made me feel 20 years younger. :)

Do yourself a BIG favor and get a Therapist with gender experience. They are invaluable!

Jessica - I hear you on the energy needed to present as a man. It truly is exhausting.

I have a gender therapist and I'd say it going fairly well. I do fill the need to rush ahead a lot (I am over 40) but my therapist does a good job of making me slow down. So people in my life already know but other then my wife I've never presented to any of them yet and I am terrified.

Thanks again to everyone for the warm welcome..