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Title: Does gender always win?
Post by: suzifrommd on April 27, 2014, 08:11:29 AM
Post by: suzifrommd on April 27, 2014, 08:11:29 AM
I come in contact with a lot of trans people who are torn between transition and a life in which they are comfortable - perhaps a family, decent job situation, standing in the community - and resist transitioning because it will put all that at risk.
Can people in that situation remain happy, or is it our fate either to transition or live with constantly increasing dysphoria?
Can people in that situation remain happy, or is it our fate either to transition or live with constantly increasing dysphoria?
Title: Re: Does gender always win?
Post by: Misato on April 27, 2014, 08:27:18 AM
Post by: Misato on April 27, 2014, 08:27:18 AM
My heart says gender always wins but my brain keeps me from embracing that absolute. People are crafty and someone out there may well find another way to cope.
All I know for sure is for me, I had to transition. The call to come home was too strong and I feel grateful for the lessons learned from putting so much at risk.
All I know for sure is for me, I had to transition. The call to come home was too strong and I feel grateful for the lessons learned from putting so much at risk.
Title: Re: Does gender always win?
Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on April 27, 2014, 08:30:54 AM
Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on April 27, 2014, 08:30:54 AM
If there wasnt a way to transition, im sure I would somehow find a way to live
maybe Id feel sad occasionally buut I dont really know
maybe Id feel sad occasionally buut I dont really know
Title: Re: Does gender always win?
Post by: Nero on April 27, 2014, 08:32:33 AM
Post by: Nero on April 27, 2014, 08:32:33 AM
I voted the second one. We're all different with varying levels of dysphoria, priorities etc. And there must have been thousands who came before us with no other way. And I can't imagine they all led miserable lives.
I don't think the third option is true.
Disclaimer here: I had none of those things Suzi mentioned. So, I really don't know from personal experience.
I don't think the third option is true.
Disclaimer here: I had none of those things Suzi mentioned. So, I really don't know from personal experience.
Title: Re: Does gender always win?
Post by: Dee Marshall on April 27, 2014, 11:09:25 AM
Post by: Dee Marshall on April 27, 2014, 11:09:25 AM
I can only speak for myself. I love my wife dearly and screwed the lid down tightly on polyamory for her, but I don't think I can do it again, not on this. Being a woman, as much as I can manage, is much too important. The last few months since I came to terms with my true self, even without HRT, without dressing, even with the worry about finally coming out to her, have been the happiest, calmest of my life. I can't go back, only forward, no idea how far forward, but only forward.
Catch me when I fall.
Catch me when I fall.