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Title: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: Carbonated on April 29, 2014, 08:03:38 AM
Post by: Carbonated on April 29, 2014, 08:03:38 AM
Hi guys.
Long story short. I have to come out as trans to my boss and tell him I had a name change TODAY, but he's out of town this week so I need to send an email. I have no idea what to write, I'm socialy awkward and can't always figure out the appropriate things to say. This is really awkward for me when I can't talk to him face to face. It's a small workplace with few employees, not really an office, so I don't want to sound to formal.
I have no idea what to write! Can someone please give me some advice on this?
I really feel horrible right now.
Long story short. I have to come out as trans to my boss and tell him I had a name change TODAY, but he's out of town this week so I need to send an email. I have no idea what to write, I'm socialy awkward and can't always figure out the appropriate things to say. This is really awkward for me when I can't talk to him face to face. It's a small workplace with few employees, not really an office, so I don't want to sound to formal.
I have no idea what to write! Can someone please give me some advice on this?
I really feel horrible right now.
Title: Re: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: LordKAT on April 29, 2014, 08:15:41 AM
Post by: LordKAT on April 29, 2014, 08:15:41 AM
You can still wait and tell him when he gets back. You have a little time to get things changed over, including work.
Title: Re: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: Carbonated on April 29, 2014, 08:42:59 AM
Post by: Carbonated on April 29, 2014, 08:42:59 AM
Quote from: LordKAT on April 29, 2014, 08:15:41 AM
You can still wait and tell him when he gets back. You have a little time to get things changed over, including work.
The thing is we won't meet for a couple weeks and he needs my personal info for writing a contract.
Title: Re: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: LordKAT on April 29, 2014, 08:59:58 AM
Post by: LordKAT on April 29, 2014, 08:59:58 AM
I see. Well, can you request him to call you?
Title: Re: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: Carbonated on April 29, 2014, 09:36:38 AM
Post by: Carbonated on April 29, 2014, 09:36:38 AM
Yes. But I'm even worse at talking on the phone.
I think I will just write that i had a legal name change and then wait util i can arrange a meeting to explain all of it. Or do you think it's best to tell everything at once?
I think I will just write that i had a legal name change and then wait util i can arrange a meeting to explain all of it. Or do you think it's best to tell everything at once?
Title: Re: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: JulieBlair on April 29, 2014, 09:49:16 AM
Post by: JulieBlair on April 29, 2014, 09:49:16 AM
Hi, crazy, but I did this yesterday. First off for him it wasn't much of à surprise.
But I asked him a rehtorical question about dysphoria, and then in a couple of paragraphs told my story. No embellishment, no apology. We now ha e a conference call with HR next week, and an all hands meeting scheduled for June 11 to make everything public. For me it went well. I hope it goes that way for you.
Julie
But I asked him a rehtorical question about dysphoria, and then in a couple of paragraphs told my story. No embellishment, no apology. We now ha e a conference call with HR next week, and an all hands meeting scheduled for June 11 to make everything public. For me it went well. I hope it goes that way for you.
Julie
Title: Re: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: LordKAT on April 29, 2014, 09:50:21 AM
Post by: LordKAT on April 29, 2014, 09:50:21 AM
If they need the name for something right away, tell all in an email perhaps. I still think a phone call would be best, but if that is too difficult to do then a short but informative email will do.
Title: Re: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: Carbonated on May 03, 2014, 02:53:07 PM
Post by: Carbonated on May 03, 2014, 02:53:07 PM
It's been four days and he hasn't answered yet wich makes me feel a bit uneasy. Right now I'll just have to wait and see what happens. Thanks for your help.
Also, I'm glad It went so well for you, Julie. :)
Also, I'm glad It went so well for you, Julie. :)
Title: Re: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: Adam (birkin) on May 03, 2014, 04:58:35 PM
Post by: Adam (birkin) on May 03, 2014, 04:58:35 PM
He may just be playing catch up after his time away. I'm sure he will address it, since it is a legal matter he basically has to. Congrats on coming out btw. :)
Title: Re: Need help with coming out!!
Post by: Bombadil on May 03, 2014, 10:13:48 PM
Post by: Bombadil on May 03, 2014, 10:13:48 PM
waiting is so hard. His delay could be for any number of reasons. Try to hang in there.