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Title: need advice
Post by: Umiko on May 09, 2014, 03:50:54 PM
Post by: Umiko on May 09, 2014, 03:50:54 PM
So as you already know, i'm suppose to hang with my sister and her female friends. I feel as if my heart is about to burst. Need advice here :'(
Title: Re: need advice
Post by: Ms Grace on May 09, 2014, 04:42:32 PM
Post by: Ms Grace on May 09, 2014, 04:42:32 PM
So what's the problem for you? Heart bursting why? Do they know you are trans? Do you want to tell them? Are you presenting in guy or girl mode? Need the deets!
Title: Re: need advice
Post by: Umiko on May 09, 2014, 04:47:55 PM
Post by: Umiko on May 09, 2014, 04:47:55 PM
Quote from: Ms Grace on May 09, 2014, 04:42:32 PMNo they dont know, no i'm in stealth mode, its an all girls night out, i'm freaking cuz hanging out with them is making me even more aware which is driving my mind crazy because i already feel gross. I'm staying with my sister tonight. Basically everything that wpuld scream trans is whats happening here. Plus i just got out of a major episode a few hours ago o.o what should i do! Dont think my heart can take this torture. Oh i had to wear male clothing instead of my normal gender neutral clothes ._.
So what's the problem for you? Heart bursting why? Do they know you are trans? Do you want to tell them? Are you presenting in guy or girl mode? Need the deets!
Title: Re: need advice
Post by: Ms Grace on May 09, 2014, 05:00:34 PM
Post by: Ms Grace on May 09, 2014, 05:00:34 PM
Seems like you have a few options...
I don't mean to be flippant here, I've been in very much the same situation in the past prior to transition. Going out with a group of women, being the only "guy" and hating it, wishing I could be seen and treated by them as one of the girls. It sucked big time. On those occasions I had such a rotten time I'm sure they wished they'd never asked me along, I was such a killjoy sad sack. But when I was able to relax and tell myself it wouldn't always be this way, that soon I'd be one of the girls too, then if could at least enjoy myself and not feel like a freak. Better to find a way to enjoy it - and seeing a light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how faint and far away, is better than being in a dark pit of misery. Hope you have a great night out! :D
- Don't go out, and feel miserable
- Go out, and feel miserable
- Go out and have an awesome time!
I don't mean to be flippant here, I've been in very much the same situation in the past prior to transition. Going out with a group of women, being the only "guy" and hating it, wishing I could be seen and treated by them as one of the girls. It sucked big time. On those occasions I had such a rotten time I'm sure they wished they'd never asked me along, I was such a killjoy sad sack. But when I was able to relax and tell myself it wouldn't always be this way, that soon I'd be one of the girls too, then if could at least enjoy myself and not feel like a freak. Better to find a way to enjoy it - and seeing a light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how faint and far away, is better than being in a dark pit of misery. Hope you have a great night out! :D
Title: Re: need advice
Post by: Umiko on May 09, 2014, 05:14:50 PM
Post by: Umiko on May 09, 2014, 05:14:50 PM
Quote from: Ms Grace on May 09, 2014, 05:00:34 PMHaha, thnx grace. Made me feel a bit better
Seems like you have a few options...Personally I'd aim for the third option. :)
- Don't go out, and feel miserable
- Go out, and feel miserable
- Go out and have an awesome time!
I don't mean to be flippant here, I've been in very much the same situation in the past prior to transition. Going out with a group of women, being the only "guy" and hating it, wishing I could be seen and treated by them as one of the girls. It sucked big time. On those occasions I had such a rotten time I'm sure they wished they'd never asked me along, I was such a killjoy sad sack. But when I was able to relax and tell myself it wouldn't always be this way, that soon I'd be one of the girls too, then if could at least enjoy myself and not feel like a freak. Better to find a way to enjoy it - and seeing a light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how faint and far away, is better than being in a dark pit of misery. Hope you have a great night out! :D
Title: Re: need advice
Post by: Umiko on May 12, 2014, 07:15:41 PM
Post by: Umiko on May 12, 2014, 07:15:41 PM
so i decided i want to start transitioning but i dont know how to bring it up with my therapist o.o HELP!
Title: Re: need advice
Post by: Blue Rabbit on May 12, 2014, 07:57:08 PM
Post by: Blue Rabbit on May 12, 2014, 07:57:08 PM
"I wanna start transitioning" is about the only way you can do it. Rip it off like a bandaid
Title: Re: need advice
Post by: Umiko on May 12, 2014, 07:59:31 PM
Post by: Umiko on May 12, 2014, 07:59:31 PM
my therapist is a very observant person. its like he can pill my feelings back like an onion, so saying "i wanna transition" isnt going to get me anywhere lol