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To all the staff members and people here on Susan's:

Two days ago I did something I'm not proud of, I posted an image of someone else and claimed that it was me. I did this as I was going through some pressure of losing someone close to me and I wanted to just block everything out. I was hasty in my decisions and I now realize how dumb it was to do such a thing so deceiving. Mainly I wanted someone to talk to but I now know that all I needed to do was to reach out and ask. I want to apologize from the bottom of my heart to everyone here at Susan's for my immaturity, If you all would give this girl a second chance I can show you guys a better, brighter side of me, I give you guys my word. Once again with all my heart, I'm sorry. I hope you all can forgive me for what I have done.

Well. I forgive you cause I used to be young and dumb too, now I'm just old and stupid. ;D

I accept Evelyn. I know how hard this must have been to write. We all do things we regret so use this as a learning opportunity and grow from it. I hope you know and understand you do have a safe place to honestly face what life throws at you. In return all we ask is to see the real Evelyn whether it is good or bad at times. Here for you always!  :icon_hug:

SomtimeS we see ourselvs as so ugly, or are called it so many times by others.
So at those times when all you want is to be called pretty or cute, or to just not be called a name again.

Some of us do this, and through it we learn bravery, through cowodice and honesty through our guilt.

And honesty is a beutie that many do not see.

I Dont know why you did it. But your honesty has touched me.


Thank you

i honestly dont know what happen but i forgive you oneechan. i've done things before that i'm not proud of but as long as you accept and forgive yourself, others will forgive you to! (ring the hypocrite alarm on Umiko) cheer up and press forward! we are all family after all  :icon_hug:

I was wondering how you changed ethnicities lol xD

But seriously, you're way too pretty to hide under somebody else's face.

While I didn't witness anything prior to your apology, I can completely accept your apology.  Everyone here has made mistakes/"sins", and that doesn't make you a bad person.  Besides, I know you've been going through a rough patch, so please don't kick yourself down at this moment.  And please, if you need to talk with someone, my pm box is always available.  In any case, I hope you are feeling better and I'm really sorry again for what you've been going through.  We are all here for you.

P.S. Quite frankly, I've only come out of this with a stronger sense of respect for you.  It's refreshing to see people trying to establish harmony.

A lesser person would have run away when caught out in a deception. The fact you have stayed and owned up to it speaks volumes. Please know you don't have to fabricate anything about yourself to gain acceptance, the more genuine you can be about yourself the more it will help you grow. Hugs.

I don't know what happened, but I forgive you

I think it takes an amazing person to make a heartfelt apology.  I didn't see your 'offending' action, but it doesn't bother me at all.  Who amongst us hasn't once wished they looked like someone else at one point, or told a 'little white lie'.  In any case, I'm so happy that you're in our community! (:

P.S.  I looked at your previous posts in your profile, and all of the pics that you have ever posted of yourself are really cute!

If you want to know the truth this post and all the replies is one of the main reasons I am proud to be trans. A heartfelt apology and all the forgiveness. We I think try to fit too hard in society when society should be trying to learn a thing or two from us.

Sorry but I just had to say that and get it out.

Quote from: Jess42 on May 14, 2014, 05:42:32 PM
If you want to know the truth this post and all the replies is one of the main reasons I am proud to be trans. A heartfelt apology and all the forgiveness. We I think try to fit too hard in society when society should be trying to learn a thing or two from us.

Sorry but I just had to say that and get it out.

Me too.

Quote from: ~Evelyn~ on May 14, 2014, 09:16:46 AM
To all the staff members and people here on Susan's:

Two days ago I did something I'm not proud of, I posted an image of someone else and claimed that it was me. I did this as I was going through some pressure of losing someone close to me and I wanted to just block everything out. I was hasty in my decisions and I now realize how dumb it was to do such a thing so deceiving. Mainly I wanted someone to talk to but I now know that all I needed to do was to reach out and ask. I want to apologize from the bottom of my heart to everyone here at Susan's for my immaturity, If you all would give this girl a second chance I can show you guys a better, brighter side of me, I give you guys my word. Once again with all my heart, I'm sorry. I hope you all can forgive me for what I have done.

Thanks for the apology; it's good to face things instead of hide from them.

But if that really is you in your avatar, I can't imagine why you'd want to masquerade as someone else. It boggles the mind.

;),
Teg

Quote from: Jess42 on May 14, 2014, 05:42:32 PM
If you want to know the truth this post and all the replies is one of the main reasons I am proud to be trans. A heartfelt apology and all the forgiveness. We I think try to fit too hard in society when society should be trying to learn a thing or two from us.

Sorry but I just had to say that and get it out.

I absolutely agree!!  It's a shame that so many people have strong misconceptions about transgendered persons.  We're just people who want to fit in and live a normal life like anyone else. 

I was just thinking -- for so many of us, deception had become a necessary way of life. If people knew the real me ... So much of our life was spent fabricating our outside so as not to reveal our inside. It can be such a difficult habit to change.  How awesome to be able to reveal the real me, the broken me, the frightened me, the confused me, with people who don't judge me but rather lift me up. We share a unique bond as sisters who have been broken for so long.

WOW.. That was really big of you & couldn't have been easy. You seriously rocked that apology; I have so much respect for you.

I want to echo what everyone else has said so eloquently about your maturity and reiterate the sentiment that we're all happy you are here. I hope that whatever was causing you pain in the last few days is getting more tolerable for you. I hope you can feel more buoyed with love than laden with guilt.

Jane

BTW, while on the subject of photos, the avatar on my profile is not a photo of me, but rather that of a porcelain mannequin. The photo of this mannequin reminded me of dolls from my childhood and the woman I always aspired to be. It was never my intention to mislead anyone, but I now realize that the mannequin is so realistic that it might have been mistaken for a real woman.

Enough about that, how are you holding up? I've lost some friends before - one even committed suicide. It's an emotional roller coster between not feeling anything, hate/pain and any number of other crazy things.

One thing to give you perspective - in 5 years the sun will still shine, birds will still sing, the world will keep spinning. When you can make it through this, you'll be stronger and most likely be in a new environment.

This is a safe place. It's probably safe to say we're all here to support one another through the hard times in life. That also means we're accepting, understanding and forgiving.

Let us know if you need anything.

No need to explain at all Evelyn!

Your sisters here I'm sure understand completely :)

Just take care of yourself and know that we are here for you unconditionally

Not a big deal. I'm sure you had a good reason for it just like we all do for things we aren't particularly proud of. As others have said "You aren't alone." I too lost a friend, one who never knew about me being trans and one who I wish I had be much closer with. Death has a strange way of affecting us. It can be a scary experience or a humbling one or both at the same time. The unexpected nature of it is what gets us the worst. All we have is the relationships we forge with others and when that's suddenly gone and it didn't go the way we wanted it to, or end the way we wanted it to, or to never end. Then all we have left is what we had. All we have is the experiences we shared with each other and those experiences will stay with us as long as we live and our experiences with others and ones observed by others will stay with them as long as they live and so on and so forth until the end of everything. Even after we're gone and people forget about us we still shape the world by the lives we touched while we were here.

If you need anyone to talk to you may talk to me. Just send a PM and I will respond as promptly as I can. I'm here to help.


Hugs


LC

(now Luna I think...)

You are a courageous lady.

I have to admit to feeling suspicious but I was and continue to be mostly concerned for your well being. Mistakes happen and I'm glad to see that you learned from the experience.

Quote from: KatelynRain on May 14, 2014, 07:44:50 PM
I absolutely agree!!  It's a shame that so many people have strong misconceptions about transgendered persons.  We're just people who want to fit in and live a normal life like anyone else.

Katelyn, hosnestly I think I would rather fit into the trans world than so called "normal" society. Especially from this post. But of course I haven't ever fit into societal norms anyway. Now I now why. I really don't want to.

So with that said, Evelyn even though you did mess up, you make me proud to belong to such a group. Still though hon, lying ain't good so on that I do scold you a little. You are a bigger and better person for owning up to your mistakes. Like I said we were all young and did stupid things, some just never caught caught.

Quote from: Jess42 on May 14, 2014, 10:24:44 PM
Katelyn, hosnestly I think I would rather fit into the trans world than so called "normal" society. Especially from this post. But of course I haven't ever fit into societal norms anyway. Now I now why. I really don't want to.

im proud to be trans.
its funny for 25 years i was ashamed to be. now though different story. after coming to terms with myself i can actualy look to a future that isnt filled with somthing that isnt going to happen.  i can see past it. i have ambition and drive.

btw your avi is interesting.

Thanx butterfly. It is one of the optional avatars on the websight but Yin and yang is an extrememly powerful symbol to me. Total opposites existing in one and making a complete circle. Kind of like my interpretation of The Creator or male and female existing together, equally to make the opposites totally complete.

No apologies necessary Evelyn. Hun we've all made made mistakes. But it takes real courage to admit and apologize for them.

I hope your feeling better sweetie.

Best wishes.

Ally :icon_flower:

Everyone I want to thank all of you for forgiving me for what I did, reading all your replies really touched my heart... and also.. they made me cry. You guys are the best thing that could happen to a girl like me, words are just not enough to thank you guys, I mean im just... completely and utterly speechless. Thank you guys so much! *hugs you all really really tightly*