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Title: Pelvis dysphoria..
Post by: PrincessPatience on May 19, 2014, 01:47:03 PM
Does anyone else get this? And I'm not talking about hips. It's this. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F37.media.tumblr.com%2Feabd04f6e97fc0b1db5bc69afb55979f%2Ftumblr_ms6j6fsaE71qaw0axo1_250.jpg&hash=a5b4be68e1e4cae59fddb0eff45a4edcb769b895) every cis girl has it. It's getting close to swimsuit season and every time put one and I look in the mirror I feel so clocky. No matter how great or skinny i look. Even some of the most beautiful transwomen(like Amiyah Scott) have this issue. I can't help but feel like the hulk.  :embarrassed: I feel like it makes it so obvious that I'm transgender.
Title: Re: Pelvis dysphoria..
Post by: beren_ts on May 19, 2014, 01:55:55 PM
So you don't have a pelvis? :o
Title: Re: Pelvis dysphoria..
Post by: Sincerely Tegan on May 19, 2014, 02:19:23 PM
You can have one, too. They sell those foam fingers practically everywhere!

Seriously, I imagine you're talking about a flared pelvis, right? If that is what you're referring to, it's strange that you chose Miley as an example, as she has a much more boyish shape than most cis-women and quite a few trans-women as well.

Unfortunately, if you have a narrow pelvis, there's not a lot that can be done. Just work on building up those hips and that booty. If it helps, look at it this way: you dislike a part of your body because you perceive it to be less than perfect. That's about as cis as they come, Princess. :)

-Tegan
Title: Re: Pelvis dysphoria..
Post by: beren_ts on May 19, 2014, 02:38:54 PM
Quote from: Sincerely Tegan on May 19, 2014, 02:19:23 PM
You can have one, too. They sell those foam fingers practically everywhere!

Seriously, I imagine you're talking about a flared pelvis, right? If that is what you're referring to, it's strange that you chose Miley as an example, as she has a much more boyish shape than most cis-women and quite a few trans-women as well.

Unfortunately, if you have a narrow pelvis, there's not a lot that can be done. Just work on building up those hips and that booty. If it helps, look at it this way: you dislike a part of your body because you perceive it to be less than perfect. That's about as cis as they come, Princess. :)
-Tegan
I don't understand that either. Why would you pick miley as an example? She has a very narrow pelvis. And who said that every woman has a wide pelvis and that it looks good? Kate upton for example has a wide pelvis but narrow hips. And she looks really out of proportion like a fridge. But there are many women with a narrow pelvis, wide hips and THEY look really sexy.
Title: Re: Pelvis dysphoria..
Post by: Debussy on May 19, 2014, 02:59:11 PM
Quote from: PrincessPatience on May 19, 2014, 01:47:03 PM
Does anyone else get this? And I'm not talking about hips. It's this. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F37.media.tumblr.com%2Feabd04f6e97fc0b1db5bc69afb55979f%2Ftumblr_ms6j6fsaE71qaw0axo1_250.jpg&hash=a5b4be68e1e4cae59fddb0eff45a4edcb769b895) every cis girl has it. It's getting close to swimsuit season and every time put one and I look in the mirror I feel so clocky. No matter how great or skinny i look. Even some of the most beautiful transwomen(like Amiyah Scott) have this issue. I can't help but feel like the hulk.  :embarrassed: I feel like it makes it so obvious that I'm transgender.

I actually thought I was the only one- every time I look at my partner's hips I get dysphoric jolts... And when we're intimate, she knows I keep my hands away from her hips- I used to grab them but now it actually just hurts. So strange.

To deal with this, I've gotten myself on a routine of stretching half an hour daily to open the pelvis, and with some strength building around the area.

I do most of these sitting down. I do head-to-knee stretch on each leg, then with both legs out. Then I do butterfly stretch until my stomach touches my feet and my chest on the ground. Then I do a yoga pose called pigeon. Then I go to forward fold with both legs spread- prepping for the splits.

Then I follow this with a routine to strengthen the muscles around the area, squats etc. there are many good posts showing these exercises.

So far I've been doing this for 3 months, and I can tell the difference. My pelvis definitely has more flare- but I can't tell if that has anything to do with my stretches- it might just be HRT.

Anyways- that usually cures the dysphoric feeling- knowing I'm working towards widening my hips.