Susan's Place Transgender Resources

     Hello,  my name is Tyler but hope to be none as Taylor someday. I am 20 and living with my dad,  step mom and sister. I have came really close to coming out to my sister as transsexual.  I've  tried like 3 times but everytime I  go to say something I can't but she knows that I may be bisexual, gay or trans so ya it's out their.

     My shrink knows and we talk makes me feel better but I want to know if any of you have any good ways of coming out. Also I have 2 older sisters so I'm my dads only son which makes it harder to come out.  ???

Hey Taylor!

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

To be honest, you don't have to come out to your family until you feel ready to do it, and that includes having "the right words". Part of that, I feel anyway, is knowing what being transgender means to you and knowing what you want to do about that. You're talking to a counsellor, that's great...maybe give it a few more sessions until you develop a clearer understanding of your gender identity and how you wish to express it in your life. Before that it can be quite hard to just unload that stuff, for you and for them. They may understand, they may not. They may react how you'd like, they may not. If you have a clearer sense of what you're going through then it'll make outing yourself, hopefully, a more positive experience for everyone especially you.

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Cheers

Grace

Before hand, put your thoughts on paper. You can write them a letter as some do or just use it to organize your thoughts. Prepare yourself for questions they might have. If possible include a few helpful websites and/or books for them to learn from. You may want to give them some time to think over your words before responding. That is easier done with a letter or email.

Thank you both for the help and advice. I like the letter idea.  Also thInks you Grace for the links to the rules, helpful tips and other info. Very much appreciated!