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I was just wondering how many people have had successful relations during their transition? If you're single, divorced or whatever don't bother responding, I'm curious how many people are in happy relationships. I've been in a relationship the past 7 months, we were only broke up once when I went to jail because they said were not supposed to be together until after the court case, but I don't care what they say. Everything is going so much better now and I really love Brandon. Were getting our own place soon, for now were living at my parents with my fascist slave driver of a father and materialistic overtly emotional mother, but soon it will be over once we get a place. Anyways, how many others have had success finding love? How did you meet them? And what was their reaction when you said you were trans? I met Brandon online through Facebook and we planned on hanging out, when he asked me to hangout, that's when I told him and we've been together ever since, and all my family loves him :)

Curious about this myself.
   Cindy and I met thru meetme. I have a "female" profile there, but in my info section i lay it out there that i was born in a male body. we met about 2 months back, and have been fairly inseparable since.  in a few months Cindy is moving from Mo. to N.C. and asked me to move with her. her family is there and I don't think she's told them I'm trans*..
when they came here I met them while still presenting as male.
   Cindy fears that as i start h.r.t. and then begin to transition to f/t, that things will change between up, and that it may all fall apart. So any insite here WILL be greatly appreciated.

I am married since 16 years and we are still together. I am on HRT and I had my FFS, only SRS is remaining. She is nit homosexual therefor we have to find a way to life together. Because she is pregnant from me and our twins will be born in 2 weeks sex is currently not on our agenda.

Everything is possible if you fight hard enough.

Lara

Awesom madi, and  congrats laura so happy for you both

I found a partner. She'd been hiding right in front of me. I know we'd still be together if she hadn't died on me..

yeah when i told my girl I was trans, she was a little shocked at first but didn't matter to her, were still together and somehow it turned her on more when she found out...lol anyway her family, well they know i'm trans, but some dont like me, one of her older brothers basically left her life, her mom just dislikes me and cant wait for her daughter to find a "real man", her uncles love me, her dad surprisingly doesnt really care, at first he did, but he isnt as bad as the mom, her other older brother said he accepts it, but doesnt really talk to me or about it, soo its a mixed response I will say, but were happy and still together through it all

Ryan55: how long were you together before telling her, and how long has it been since?

I know ya said don't respond if ya single but I dunno it's still a worth while reaction to mention.

There is this girl who's liked me for quite a long time but sadly I just don't feel the same way I guess I've friend zoned her or what ever. Just I love her as a friend but thats boot it. But when I told her that I was trans and I'm only at the start of my transition, but so far throughout the transition I've been through.
If anything it's just made her like me more, When I told her about how I wanted to be female and what my plans were she admitted how she felt about me and wanted to be with me. And throughout my transition she's never had a problem with it. The only thing I've really noticed at all is that I plan to ya know going through sex assignment surgery waaaay into the future when it's time and I've told her that. She seems quite intent in trying to shag me before it goes, but thats the only difference. I'm pretty sure after I get to a passable stage she'd still feel the same way about me if she's not finally found some one else yet.

I'm living proof it can happen.  I've been out to my wife for 1 1/2 years, on E for 16 months and we are about to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary.  She honestly likes me better now that I'm no longer irritable, angry and depressed all the time and her biggest fear now is me detransitioning. (HA! Never going to happen...)

awhile, like a year and a half, she was mad I didnt tell her sooner, but i was just scared ->-bleeped-<-less to tell her, I told her this past October/November, so its been a good amount of months now, she told her family this past December/Januaryish

Quote from: Ryan55 on May 20, 2014, 04:28:28 PM
awhile, like a year and a half, she was mad I didnt tell her sooner, but i was just scared ->-bleeped-<-less to tell her, I told her this past October/November, so its been a good amount of months now, she told her family this past December/Januaryish

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I'm another who was married going into transition; I told her as soon as I figured it out myself, which was around our 9th wedding anniversary. I have been incredibly lucky - it was a rough year of transition, but we're still together and still happy. I'm 2 years post-op now and things have long since settled down with us. :)

Loving the posts, thanks for the responses :-)

My gf (Handy on here!) and I have been together for 9 years, and she has been 'out' to me for maybe 2 years? and on the 'mones for 1. We met through mutual friends during an in-school pep rally and I pretty much decided right then that I wanted to pursue a relationship with her. After tracking her down a couple of weeks later (and spreading the word that I liked her to our friends) she ended up asking me out <3 and we have been together ever since. When we first started going out, I knew she had gender issues, so when she did come out as trans all those years later, it was not a big surprise. We have the most lovely relationship one could ask for. She is not full-time yet, but I only suspect that when she is,  it will make our relationship all the better. I cannot imagine life without my best friend and lover! I feel so lucky <3

Latoya- Congrats on finding happiness! I wish you all the best!

Quote from: Madi_Raye on May 20, 2014, 03:24:53 PM
   Cindy fears that as i start h.r.t. and then begin to transition to f/t, that things will change between up, and that it may all fall apart. So any insite here WILL be greatly appreciated.

Madi- I may be reading the typo wrong, but is she saying that when you transition she thinks things will fall apart between the two of you? If so, you might want to save yourself the heartbreak and put the brakes on this move! Communication is key, I cannot stress this enough. Even if it makes you uncomfortable to talk about it, do it, it makes a world of difference. If transitioning is something you know you need to do, talk with her about her concerns and fears and make sure she knows that it is going to happen! The most important thing is being open with one another, so just make sure you at least try! Good luck!

9 years for my wife and I together. 7 of those dating and we are about to have our 2 year wedding anniversary. We met at 18 when we both started college (she thought I was a jerkface). We didn't start dating until we were 19 (which only happened because she didn't remember me.) A few months into our relationship I told her that I was trans but never planned on transition. We're both 27 now and I've been on hormones for 8 months. So there was a bit of a gap before I started anything. She said she always knew that I would end up transitioning. Our relationship is better now as I get more comfortable in my skin, and I'm able to be honest. Some things are definitely different now and things may still change more but every day things get better and stronger in terms of our relationship. I love her with every fiber of my being. She is my best friend and my wife. I couldn't be happier knowing she is next to me as we step toward into future of our lives together. Just as she is here for me now helping me along when I need a shoulder to lean on, I have been there her. I know there are no perfect people but we are amazing together and about as perfect as a couple that two wonderfully flawed people can be.

Oh and no one tell her I said all this. I have an image to uphold (jerkface)

Awww Hayley!! That was so sweet <3 I love hearing about happy relationships :)

Next month we will have been married 29 years. We have  2 adult children and been separated 3 times. I didn't know what tg was but first sought a therapist with my wife's knowledge 8 years into our marriage. Wrestled with cross dressing and finally received the tg diagnosis in the 25th year.

Living apart at the time I withdrew and tried to process the diagnosis myself. Started then stopped low dose hrt, had ffs and intended to quietly shut down our relationship because I didn't believe that it could survive as I, in my naïveté and male thinking thought only in terms of binary outcomes

My wife fought for the relationship and a new therapist called me out for dishonesty with myself and with my wife. I angrily denied this but over time I realized that my therapist was right, I was being dishonest and hiding my truth. As a result I told my wife that I was tg and that I don't know where my journey would take me.  She asked for a guarantee that I would not fully transition.  I said that I couldn't promise that I wouldn't transition but then said that for me transition would need to be a life or death situation.  With her support I restarted low dose hrt and hair removal. 

The communications and emotion have at times been quite tense and fraught but we are still together. While full transition would probably end our relationship this seems to be unlikely as I now identify as non binary. My life is richer and my relationship stronger for discovering and learning to express my non binary nature.

My only remaining concern is needing to feel and believe that I am fully respected and valued for who I am.  I think we are getting there but this issue is very much work in progress.  I am amazed that our 30th wedding anniversary is next year

My learning from my journey is that in order to have any chance of success you need to be honest with yourself send with your partner, you must strive for authenticity and focus on the journey not on an outcome or a destination.  If you really believe in the relationship then anything is possible.

Safe travels

Aisla

A month or so since I started dating my big dummy, we started hanging out last year after my friend's birthday party, I kinda liked him, but I wasn't so sure if he felt the same about me. After the dancing and whatnot he approached me and started talking about the sucky music and things like that, so I asked him if he would like to accompany me to Starbucks a few blocks away and he did. Then we had a coffee each and started talking about some funny stuff, well he started off but anywaaaay we started hanging out more often and we got closer and eventually prom came and he asked to go with him and I did, and that's when he kissed me, on prom night and I guess we've been dating ever since. He knows I'm trans but he wasn't so shocked about it, he was in my school so yeah.. he pretty much knew a long time ago. But he loves me and I love him and that's all that matters. :)

So glad about those posts, makes me happy that we can still find love even being who we are, I have a amazing boyfriend as we'll :-)

I have been with my wife for almost 14 years. I fear we are stuck with each other. She saw me through all the bad times that led up to transition. She also knew I am trans years before I began to transition.

It has not been easy. No relationship is. Transition further complicates a complicated thing. Our first time out in public was hard for her. She does not identify as lesbian. My junk does not work the same... etc.

But she sees my happiness.

It takes work. Lots of communication. I am lucky.

I have been married for 14 yrs and of that time my trans journey has been going on for 6 yrs .My journey has been from big(S) to health issues by a cut muscle in groin in hernia surgery .( bad pain ) .This led to 3 years pure hell . My wife is why i am still here and on my journey to be the gal that is inside me.There was many times my wife should just bowed out .But like super hero she took all the bullets and still loves me threw it all . We have a lot time in to just get to hrt but now there,s no way i will ever leave my better half . I am in 1% group here married ,happy ,hrt full speed ,all most all of my family is thumbs up . Anybody have a story like mine and what pm send me message . Thanks AKA Sara