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Title: FTM New to Susan's with a lot of things going on in life... my story with no end
Post by: Finesse2loud on May 22, 2014, 12:48:12 AM
Post by: Finesse2loud on May 22, 2014, 12:48:12 AM
What's up all!
My name is Finesse (Shelden) and I am a 26 year old Trans Man with lots going on! I've been reading the site quite often and I'd like to thank those of you (I'm not sure exactly who you are) that has helped me through so many things like T, Doctor's App, and just research in general. I finally decided to make a username and give the forum community a try!
Well I'm excited as hell right now, My GF and I are pregnant (she is carrying) and today we went to the doctor for our first ultra sound of the baby. Although It was tiny because she is only 8 weeks... We got to hear a heartbeat, I almost cried. I've been on T for only a month now but I can see and feel certain changes happening physically. My shoulders are broadening and my throat is starting to hurt due to the testosterone. I haven't heard a voice drop because my voice is already deep, but I am excited to see the changes!
Overall, I cannot believe I have a kid on the way. Some of our ideas for parenting are a little unorthodox but definitely not illogical. I just can't wait to see what is in store. We also found out the due date of the baby (Dec. 30th) She/He will be my christmas gift!!
I would like to know... what are some of you all's views on parenting? and how do you think being trans is or will effect our children?
Should one tell their child up front that daddy used to be a woman? (when it is old enough to fathom) Or should daddy just be daddy and leave it at that?
I have started to document my transition a bit... and I will continue to be on here and engage with other's, but if you would like to follow me visually you are more than welcome to do so on youtube! Be Sure to Subscribe and also comment on the videos!
https://www.youtube.com/user/thenewdarwinFTM
My name is Finesse (Shelden) and I am a 26 year old Trans Man with lots going on! I've been reading the site quite often and I'd like to thank those of you (I'm not sure exactly who you are) that has helped me through so many things like T, Doctor's App, and just research in general. I finally decided to make a username and give the forum community a try!
Well I'm excited as hell right now, My GF and I are pregnant (she is carrying) and today we went to the doctor for our first ultra sound of the baby. Although It was tiny because she is only 8 weeks... We got to hear a heartbeat, I almost cried. I've been on T for only a month now but I can see and feel certain changes happening physically. My shoulders are broadening and my throat is starting to hurt due to the testosterone. I haven't heard a voice drop because my voice is already deep, but I am excited to see the changes!
Overall, I cannot believe I have a kid on the way. Some of our ideas for parenting are a little unorthodox but definitely not illogical. I just can't wait to see what is in store. We also found out the due date of the baby (Dec. 30th) She/He will be my christmas gift!!
I would like to know... what are some of you all's views on parenting? and how do you think being trans is or will effect our children?
Should one tell their child up front that daddy used to be a woman? (when it is old enough to fathom) Or should daddy just be daddy and leave it at that?
I have started to document my transition a bit... and I will continue to be on here and engage with other's, but if you would like to follow me visually you are more than welcome to do so on youtube! Be Sure to Subscribe and also comment on the videos!
https://www.youtube.com/user/thenewdarwinFTM
Title: Re: FTM New to Susan's with a lot of things going on in life... my story with no end
Post by: Ms Grace on May 22, 2014, 01:11:39 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on May 22, 2014, 01:11:39 AM
Hey Shelden
Welcome to Susan's :) Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.
You might also want to pop your question about parenting into one of the more general forum boards, it could get a bit overlooked here.
Please check out the following links for site rules, helpful tips and other info...
Cheers
Grace
Welcome to Susan's :) Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.
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Cheers
Grace
Title: Re: FTM New to Susan's with a lot of things going on in life... my story with no end
Post by: Jess42 on May 22, 2014, 07:46:10 AM
Post by: Jess42 on May 22, 2014, 07:46:10 AM
Congratultions Shelden.
My viewpoint on parenting, none of my business. That is all on you and your girlfriend. But opinion wise and when and if to tell children. I would at least wait until they are old enough to grasp the idea. They will love you regardless and see you guys as mommy and daddy. They may have questions later on or if it comes up in school but I would at least wait until they are old enough to understand. Again, just personal opinion but I wouldn't hide it from them. All you can do is just teach them to be accepting of everyone regardless of anything. Usually kids pick up on the parents ideals and how they think through normal day to day life, until the dreaded rebellious stage. So good luck on that one. The Terrible Twos aint got crap on the Rebellious Teens.
My viewpoint on parenting, none of my business. That is all on you and your girlfriend. But opinion wise and when and if to tell children. I would at least wait until they are old enough to grasp the idea. They will love you regardless and see you guys as mommy and daddy. They may have questions later on or if it comes up in school but I would at least wait until they are old enough to understand. Again, just personal opinion but I wouldn't hide it from them. All you can do is just teach them to be accepting of everyone regardless of anything. Usually kids pick up on the parents ideals and how they think through normal day to day life, until the dreaded rebellious stage. So good luck on that one. The Terrible Twos aint got crap on the Rebellious Teens.
Title: Re: FTM New to Susan's with a lot of things going on in life... my story with no end
Post by: Jessica Merriman on May 25, 2014, 01:40:21 PM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on May 25, 2014, 01:40:21 PM
A big warm welcome Sheldon! :) Being trans has not affected my son at all. Kids are amazingly resilient as they have no preconceived notions in their heads. One thing to remember is no matter how much we dote on them, love them and provide for them when they turn 13 we parent's all turn stupid! ;D You will do just fine! :)
Title: Re: FTM New to Susan's with a lot of things going on in life... my story with no end
Post by: gennee on May 25, 2014, 01:54:35 PM
Post by: gennee on May 25, 2014, 01:54:35 PM
Welcome to Susan's, Shelden. As for advice on parenting, love your child unconditionally.
:)