Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Olivia P on May 28, 2014, 06:43:24 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: Olivia P on May 28, 2014, 06:43:24 AM
Post by: Olivia P on May 28, 2014, 06:43:24 AM
So, I've told everyone that I need to tell, and noone reacted overly negatively...
So glad that's done with, now I just need to think about me
Bring on July 7th, endocrinologist....
^_^
So glad that's done with, now I just need to think about me
Bring on July 7th, endocrinologist....
^_^
Title: Re: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: ClaudiaLove on June 02, 2014, 10:58:51 PM
Post by: ClaudiaLove on June 02, 2014, 10:58:51 PM
Hey , congratulations , it must be such a relief to be done with this . It really is a part of transition I wished and partially did avoid .
Good luck with the endocrinologist too . :)
Good luck with the endocrinologist too . :)
Title: Re: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: Hikari on June 02, 2014, 11:47:55 PM
Post by: Hikari on June 02, 2014, 11:47:55 PM
Congratulations, once I realized I actually had a great deal of support things went much easier.
Title: Re: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: TessaMarie on June 12, 2014, 11:11:46 PM
Post by: TessaMarie on June 12, 2014, 11:11:46 PM
Grats Olivia :)
I finally told my parents last Sunday. I am glad I managed to tell them before the news found its way through the grapevine.
At this point, my supervisor & manager at work know, plus a couple of other colleagues. I told NA home group when I spoke for my anniversary last Sunday. Several people at my Quaker meeting know. My brother & my parents know. There is no-one else whom I feel I need to tell personally.
It is a wonderful relief to know that I am at a point where I do not need to care about whoever might discover that I am trans, because all the people I might be worried about hearing it already know.
My brother was not overjoyed, & tried talking me out of taking HRT for several weeks. He has come to understand that he cannot control me, and our friendship is much as it was before I told him I am trans. My parents don't want me to tell another soul. I have agreed not to tell any other family members or anyone back home. I live thousands of miles away, have lost touch with most of my old friends, & only speak infrequently to one of my cousins. It was an easy compromise.
Everyone else I have told has been supportive. For many (especially at work), it just wasn't that big a deal. Granted, that latter may change somewhat should I ever start presenting as female. I am not there yet. There is plenty of time to worry about it later if I do get there.
For now, I feel I can relax and give myself the freedom to be me without the constant worry & fear that has haunted me for so long.
Tessa :)
I finally told my parents last Sunday. I am glad I managed to tell them before the news found its way through the grapevine.
At this point, my supervisor & manager at work know, plus a couple of other colleagues. I told NA home group when I spoke for my anniversary last Sunday. Several people at my Quaker meeting know. My brother & my parents know. There is no-one else whom I feel I need to tell personally.
It is a wonderful relief to know that I am at a point where I do not need to care about whoever might discover that I am trans, because all the people I might be worried about hearing it already know.
My brother was not overjoyed, & tried talking me out of taking HRT for several weeks. He has come to understand that he cannot control me, and our friendship is much as it was before I told him I am trans. My parents don't want me to tell another soul. I have agreed not to tell any other family members or anyone back home. I live thousands of miles away, have lost touch with most of my old friends, & only speak infrequently to one of my cousins. It was an easy compromise.
Everyone else I have told has been supportive. For many (especially at work), it just wasn't that big a deal. Granted, that latter may change somewhat should I ever start presenting as female. I am not there yet. There is plenty of time to worry about it later if I do get there.
For now, I feel I can relax and give myself the freedom to be me without the constant worry & fear that has haunted me for so long.
Tessa :)
Title: Re: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: LordKAT on June 12, 2014, 11:28:42 PM
Post by: LordKAT on June 12, 2014, 11:28:42 PM
I'm glad you have reduced your stress levels. It makes life easier all the way around.
Title: Re: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: TessaMarie on June 13, 2014, 12:04:24 AM
Post by: TessaMarie on June 13, 2014, 12:04:24 AM
Quote from: LordKAT on June 12, 2014, 11:28:42 PMI'm glad you have reduced your stress levels. It makes life easier all the way around.
Yes it does ! Several people from my support group (who haven't seen me in 3 months due to work) commented on that this evening after PTHC :)
Title: Re: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: Felix on June 14, 2014, 02:38:32 AM
Post by: Felix on June 14, 2014, 02:38:32 AM
Congratulations. :)
Title: Re: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: Mariah on June 21, 2014, 10:19:43 AM
Post by: Mariah on June 21, 2014, 10:19:43 AM
Congratulations. I have had nothing but support from the core people I have around me. Still have some people to tell, but those mainly will wait tell they need to know.
Title: Re: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: helen2010 on June 21, 2014, 07:27:15 PM
Post by: helen2010 on June 21, 2014, 07:27:15 PM
Excellent. It always surprises us when we are genuinely accepted. Probably because we had so much difficulty in accepting our selves.
Aisla
Aisla
Title: Re: Told everyone that needs to know, no overly negative reactions...
Post by: TessaMarie on June 21, 2014, 07:57:06 PM
Post by: TessaMarie on June 21, 2014, 07:57:06 PM
Quote from: Aisla on June 21, 2014, 07:27:15 PM
Excellent. It always surprises us when we are genuinely accepted. Probably because we had so much difficulty in accepting our selves.
Aisla
How true !
I knew when I was 5. It took me another 38 years to find acceptance.