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Title: I’m attracted to trans women
Post by: DriftingCrow on June 23, 2014, 06:15:59 PM
Post by: DriftingCrow on June 23, 2014, 06:15:59 PM
I'm attracted to trans women
http://www.salon.com/2013/10/22/im_attracted_to_trans_women/
Author: Thomas Matt
Source: Salon via The Weave
While most men avoided trans women, I saw no difference between them and cisgender women [. . .] I was attracted to trans women, in other words, and I spent the next three years of my life in confusion and shame.
Julia Serano, a transgender activist and writer, pointed out that it is not acceptable to consider attraction to trans women a fetish, because that reduces them to fetish objects.
I could easily hide this, [. . .] I decided to be open about it, though, because of how few openly trans-attracted people there are in the world and how this silence contributes to stigma about trans people and sexuality.
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It's an interesting read.
http://www.salon.com/2013/10/22/im_attracted_to_trans_women/
Author: Thomas Matt
Source: Salon via The Weave
While most men avoided trans women, I saw no difference between them and cisgender women [. . .] I was attracted to trans women, in other words, and I spent the next three years of my life in confusion and shame.
Julia Serano, a transgender activist and writer, pointed out that it is not acceptable to consider attraction to trans women a fetish, because that reduces them to fetish objects.
I could easily hide this, [. . .] I decided to be open about it, though, because of how few openly trans-attracted people there are in the world and how this silence contributes to stigma about trans people and sexuality.
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It's an interesting read.
Title: Re: I’m attracted to trans women
Post by: Jess42 on June 23, 2014, 06:24:37 PM
Post by: Jess42 on June 23, 2014, 06:24:37 PM
Well, personally, I think there are a lot more than just Matt. And I really don't think it is a fetish either. I just think most are too scared of society to say that they would find a transwoman attractive. And Godbless the ones that do admit it. But that is just my opinion.
Title: Re: I’m attracted to trans women
Post by: Felix on June 23, 2014, 06:44:25 PM
Post by: Felix on June 23, 2014, 06:44:25 PM
I'm more attracted to trans women than to cis women. It's easier for me to be open about that because it isn't my exclusive focus, and because I'm transgender myself. I also love androgynous people of all backgrounds. And there are some very sexy transmen out there.
I've always been uneasy about the terminology around "->-bleeped-<-s" and fetishists. We assume motives that are very specific and not-normal, and it feels weird that those of us who are trans get a pass on this labeling. I don't have a problem with someone who is primarily attracted to me based on a particular detail, as long as they are respectful about it. If it is a healthy relationship, it will grow more complex and not be fixated on that one detail anyway.
I've always been uneasy about the terminology around "->-bleeped-<-s" and fetishists. We assume motives that are very specific and not-normal, and it feels weird that those of us who are trans get a pass on this labeling. I don't have a problem with someone who is primarily attracted to me based on a particular detail, as long as they are respectful about it. If it is a healthy relationship, it will grow more complex and not be fixated on that one detail anyway.