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Title: coming to terms with stuff
Post by: hcw on June 24, 2014, 02:29:29 PM
Post by: hcw on June 24, 2014, 02:29:29 PM
hi, I'm new to this place, it feels a bit weird because i haven't spoken to anyone about how i am feeling or what i am doing, but i have (for myself) admitted that i am ftm, and that i want to come out but i don't know how. and I'm scared.
i have always worn mens clothing and have short hair and have often been mistaken for the opposite sex, but i have never experimented with packing or binding until now. i guess i wonder if others are just coming out - particularly a bit later in life, and if anyone can offer any advice.
best
i have always worn mens clothing and have short hair and have often been mistaken for the opposite sex, but i have never experimented with packing or binding until now. i guess i wonder if others are just coming out - particularly a bit later in life, and if anyone can offer any advice.
best
Title: Re: coming to terms with stuff
Post by: EllieM on June 24, 2014, 03:01:04 PM
Post by: EllieM on June 24, 2014, 03:01:04 PM
Hi H and welcome to Susan's. There are discussions around coming out, see Forums->Transitioning->ComingOutOfTheCloset. Susan's is a very welcoming place, we have come together here to support, share, vent and even laugh. I fully get that you are scared. Been there, still am sometimes. Not to worry dude, you will get a lot of answers here. My first suggestion is, if you don't currently have a therapist, find one. They are a huge help.
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Title: Re: coming to terms with stuff
Post by: V M on June 24, 2014, 03:34:50 PM
Post by: V M on June 24, 2014, 03:34:50 PM
Hi hcw :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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V M
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Title: Re: coming to terms with stuff
Post by: Pictrig18 on June 25, 2014, 10:57:04 AM
Post by: Pictrig18 on June 25, 2014, 10:57:04 AM
Hi hcw - Welcome :)
I'm relatively new to all of this, really started making changes a year ago. I'm currently 28 years old - not sure how late in life you were asking about...but feel free to email me anytime if you want to chat in person.
This is a great place to talk to people about all of this and feel safe in doing so. I agree with EllieM - finding a good therapist to help you through all of this is so beneficial. It's another safe place to explore all of these feelings you have with someone who has experience (hopefully) with this issue. And they can help you see things you never could see on your own.
It is scary - there's no way around that. Find support where you can and use it. Be open-minded and patient. Start exploring the feelings you have and trying new things to see if they help you. Reading through the posts on this site will help you to realize you are not alone.
I'm glad you found the site - good luck :)
I'm relatively new to all of this, really started making changes a year ago. I'm currently 28 years old - not sure how late in life you were asking about...but feel free to email me anytime if you want to chat in person.
This is a great place to talk to people about all of this and feel safe in doing so. I agree with EllieM - finding a good therapist to help you through all of this is so beneficial. It's another safe place to explore all of these feelings you have with someone who has experience (hopefully) with this issue. And they can help you see things you never could see on your own.
It is scary - there's no way around that. Find support where you can and use it. Be open-minded and patient. Start exploring the feelings you have and trying new things to see if they help you. Reading through the posts on this site will help you to realize you are not alone.
I'm glad you found the site - good luck :)
Title: Re: coming to terms with stuff
Post by: gennee on June 25, 2014, 11:01:43 AM
Post by: gennee on June 25, 2014, 11:01:43 AM
Welcome to Susan's. HCW.
:)
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Title: Re: coming to terms with stuff
Post by: asiandracula on June 25, 2014, 05:41:25 PM
Post by: asiandracula on June 25, 2014, 05:41:25 PM
coming out to yourself is sometimes even more difficult than coming out to other people.
It's understandable to be scared at this point, but you've come to a great place where there's lots of people who can give advice, experience, and support.
welcome to the site, I wish you the best!
It's understandable to be scared at this point, but you've come to a great place where there's lots of people who can give advice, experience, and support.
welcome to the site, I wish you the best!