Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Can you help me?

Hi I'm a ftm and i like boy stuff, I'm bisexual .. and everybody said that i was a girl. Test score that I'm a boy.

I grew up like that but with the time i realized that i was different than the girls. Girls gossip, scream, their voice, emotional... So i was unaccepted socially.
Then the teacher showed us about trans, genderqueer, cis, etc... I said np, I'm a girl (body) but I'm mostly like a man and accept my body (I'm genderqueer, I said). Then i was looking for a name of both genders and said: no, I'm a boy.
I could be transgender because everything goes to male.

At the end people told me to change body and agreed, i mean to be socially accepted and be myself inner and outer (yay!) ... but I don't have enough money.

I'm Max (Maria birth name) and I'm 20.

Stay Strong Max! You can do it :)

from what i can tell, transgender are those who are pre hormones as transsexuals are those who started hormones and began transition. i may be off but from the post, it sounded like you wanted to know the difference between to 2 lol. and welcome to the family

Thank you

Hi Max, different people will give you different answers as to the difference between the two.  To make things easier while conversing with others on Susan's, these have been defined and are posted for all to see:

Standard Terms and Definitions on Susan's Place (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)

On Susan's, transgender is an umbrella term for any gender non conforming person.  Transexuals have the body of one sex but the opposite gender, regardless of whether or not they transition, in part or all steps.

Transgender is an umbrella term for all who express gender-nonconforming behavior. Cross-dressers, drag queens/kings, and genderqueer are all under this umbrella.

Transsexual specifically means people who experience gender dysphoria, and thus wish to transition from their birth sex to a different sex.

The big difference is, transsexual usually specifically means that someone experiences clinical gender dyshporia, a feeling that their body is wrong or their social role is wrong (they don't just want the freedom to be more masculine as a woman or more feminine as a man, they actually feel like they should be the opposite sex.) Those simply under the transgender umbrella don't necessarily feel the need to change their bodies or their social roles completely, they just more go against the actions and dress and behaviors and presentation that culture usually uses to define gender.

I feel like you might want to consider the difference. I didn't hear anything in your post about being uncomfortable as female physically... and there have been a few young people here who have transitioned and later realized that their problem wasn't with their bodies, it was just with the social expectations of their gender. So yeah... if you're uncomfortable with your body, and being physically female and being perceived as female socially by people actively bothers you, those are more transsexual tendencies. If you merely want to adopt a more masculine role, be dissociated from traditional markers of femininity such as beauty and passivity, but don't necessarily feel uncomfortable with being female, then it's more just a transgender-umbrella thing where a change in presentation might be all you need.

Just some extra food for thought to throw on there.

Welcome, by the way!

I think it's best to just throw away labels and go how you feel. Sometimes we spend a little too much time focusing on understanding something for other people. No one else is gonna or needs to understand, you are just you.