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Title: Straight Boyfriends
Post by: janetcgtv on June 27, 2014, 09:12:30 PM
Post by: janetcgtv on June 27, 2014, 09:12:30 PM
What is your viewpoint?
Title: Re: Straight Boyfriends
Post by: Jessica Merriman on June 27, 2014, 09:18:27 PM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on June 27, 2014, 09:18:27 PM
I say something if interest is expressed. Violence is a potential worry if someone thinks they are being tricked or find out from someone beside you. :)
Title: Re: Straight Boyfriends
Post by: Ms Grace on June 27, 2014, 09:23:33 PM
Post by: Ms Grace on June 27, 2014, 09:23:33 PM
To disclose, or not to disclose, that is the question.
Disclosure means potentially killing the relationship before it starts and them not getting to know who you are up to the point where being trans won't matter to them. Non-disclosure could result in feelings of upset, betrayal, anger, even violence if they find out further down the track, especially if they find out from someone else.
Personally I couldn't stand trying to hide something like my status from a potential lover. The fear of being found out, or wondering when I should tell them, would just suck all the fun and joy out of the relationship.
Disclosure means potentially killing the relationship before it starts and them not getting to know who you are up to the point where being trans won't matter to them. Non-disclosure could result in feelings of upset, betrayal, anger, even violence if they find out further down the track, especially if they find out from someone else.
Personally I couldn't stand trying to hide something like my status from a potential lover. The fear of being found out, or wondering when I should tell them, would just suck all the fun and joy out of the relationship.
Title: Re: Straight Boyfriends
Post by: TaoRaven on June 27, 2014, 10:35:54 PM
Post by: TaoRaven on June 27, 2014, 10:35:54 PM
Honesty is the foundation of any relationship. Without the foundation, it cannot stand.
Title: Re: Straight Boyfriends
Post by: awilliams1701 on June 28, 2014, 12:04:10 AM
Post by: awilliams1701 on June 28, 2014, 12:04:10 AM
I would rather not have a relationship start only to stop later on after they find out. On the other hand if you tell them right away and they are fine with it, then you don't have to worry about that. Question is what about post-op and passing completely? That makes it complicated.