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There seems to be a lot made of post-op depth. For example, my doctor declaring I had achieved 7 inches was an occasion for high-fiving and backslapping, whereas when I actually measured that the dilator went in only 5 1/2 inches, suddenly I was the object of sympathy and outrage.

Is that an issue in real life?

Have you ever had a sex partner for whom your depth was a problem? Or one who complained about it? (The latter I ask mostly because any guy who voiced any complaint at all about my glorious body would quickly find himself on the sidewalk with a Suzi-boot-shaped black and blue mark etched on his butt).

Are there cis guys who have had less than satisfactory experiences because of your depth?

I haven't had sex with guys... but I will say this, my wife measured about 4" fully aroused, and I was over 6" "before." Never had an issue. And if Cosmo has constant sex tips on what to do with a guy who bottoms out, I gotta figure it's a) not a big deal and b) clearly common enough not to out someone.

I knew guys who'd literally high-five each other when they'd get laid and "hit the back wall".  It makes them feel like they're well hung and a massive ego boost ensues.

I honestly feel it is more a ego thing.

Its like passing everyone has there own feelings.

Going to let it as that.

If they bottom out so be it. Nothing in life is ever guaranteed for everyone.

Isabell

Samantha : Trust me, we measured using... methods you don't want to know too much about, but I'm confident that was maximum extension during sex for her.

I have a very good friend in England. She had her GRS 20 years ago. She married a nice man 7 years ago. From her he is a good 6 inches & very thick. Her depth was only 5 inches to begin with however with his help she now fully enjoys him & their sex is great, he is a very sexually active man & they have sex 4-5 times a week or more. He knew she had surgery years before but sees her 100% as a natal woman. Life seems to be great for both of them.

Everyone I knew wanted a girl who was "tight" and no one was looking for that bottomless pit, if you know what I mean...  ;) 

Quote from: suzifrommd on June 28, 2014, 10:26:41 AM
There seems to be a lot made of post-op depth. For example, my doctor declaring I had achieved 7 inches was an occasion for high-fiving and backslapping, whereas when I actually measured that the dilator went in only 5 1/2 inches, suddenly I was the object of sympathy and outrage.

Is that an issue in real life?

Have you ever had a sex partner for whom your depth was a problem? Or one who complained about it? (The latter I ask mostly because any guy who voiced any complaint at all about my glorious body would quickly find himself on the sidewalk with a Suzi-boot-shaped black and blue mark etched on his butt).

Are there cis guys who have had less than satisfactory experiences because of your depth?

Suzi, did you find you a nice man to enjoy??? Lucky girl. Don't kick them to the curb, you will never find a man, their egos get damaged so easy.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on April 20, 2016, 02:48:00 PM
Everyone I knew wanted a girl who was "tight" and no one was looking for that bottomless pit, if you know what I mean...  ;)

You got that right, the analogy I have with my wife is, pebbles in a can. Shake it around and eventually I will hit the side of the can. :D

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Hi,

I have been with several men, the majority were of average size and girth and were fine for me and them. One man was well endowed, he was satisfied but was somewhat painful for me and told him to back off which he did. My surgeon indicated that at my post-op visit my depth was very good and since then maintain the same depth.

From my experiences tight is better than depth and what is more important is you have the proper genitalia. Being intimate with the opposite gender to me is low down on my list of things that make me happy but nice to know I have sufficient depth and width but if that was not true having female genitalia rather than male genitalia trumps all.

So is it a real issue in real life, all depends on how important this is to you. I am sure that cisgender males with small genitalia will be concerned about what they were given and others it a non-issue, same goes for cisgender females with similar issues.

never being a problem for me.

My man is quite well endowed, and my vagina is about 6 inches deep. The first time we slept together, he said he liked how tight i was.

We are very sexually active, we have sex at least 5 times a week, including oral sex.

We dont even use condoms anymore, as we are both disease free (we tested) and we are in committed relationship, plus i cant fall pregnant. I actually love feeling his penis inside me.

Noleen, Thanks for your reply. That's so refreshing to see that you have a good active sex life. I'm envious & perhaps one day for me. I have always enjoyed a man inside me also.

Hello...so, since my original response was deleted...I'll keep it brief.

NO!  Have not experienced any guys/people that caused me concern or voiced dissatisfaction.  Now I do try to ferret out big guys.  Men have no idea they are shooting themselves in the foot when boosting possession of a 8 inch piece.

When it comes to width...seriously doubt I'll receive any real complaints....just comments made in pleasure.  :P

Thank you,
Anne

EOM

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on April 20, 2016, 02:48:00 PM
Everyone I knew wanted a girl who was "tight" and no one was looking for that bottomless pit, if you know what I mean...  ;)

That one line says it all so true, thank you Devlyn, depth for women and size for men, it's all overrated and based on myth, post op for many years I've never had a guy complain on the depth of my vagina, guys have commented on my vagina being tight, that's a ''wow factor'' with most guys, doesn't have the same stretching as a cis vagina, but my husband never complains, he constantly tells me he loves it tight and that gives me confidence as a woman, he never mentions or comments on my depth, I don't comment on his size, it's all overrated.

Quote from: pretty pauline on April 24, 2016, 04:58:14 PM
That one line says it all so true, thank you Devlyn, depth for women and size for men, it's all overrated and based on myth, post op for many years I've never had a guy complain on the depth of my vagina, guys have commented on my vagina being tight, that's a ''wow factor'' with most guys, doesn't have the same stretching as a cis vagina, but my husband never complains, he constantly tells me he loves it tight and that gives me confidence as a woman, he never mentions or comments on my depth, I don't comment on his size, it's all overrated.

Neovaginas should be more ideal because they are more tight all the way in.
With cis people there are muscles at the entrance like with trans people but the tissue inside is more cavity like.
The tissue is lined with muscles, and its possible for cis people to train with a thing called jade egg.
Unless they do this or are naturally tight a neovagina can make for a more sensitive experience.


hugs

Quote from: OCAnne on April 23, 2016, 10:00:37 AM
Have not experienced any guys/people that caused me concern or voiced dissatisfaction.  Now I do try to ferret out big guys.  Men have no idea they are shooting themselves in the foot when boosting possession of a 8 inch piece.

When it comes to depth anally is also possible... a condom would be recommendable, and using enough lube.
There are spots like the g/pspot that can be very pleasurable if stimulated ... at the right angle ...
and there is also parallel stimulation of the clit possible.


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I'm sure glad for this thread & it's good to see so many open up about real life with men. I do not have much to work with & to be honest it's always made me nervous about my GRS improvement because I may not be deep enough to enjoy most men. I've dated & so enjoyed some very well endowed & attractive sexy men, oh my that was so nice. Good luck to us all.

lack of width is my issue, soul source mr orange looks like a playtoy next to my bf. Ironically he always told me was average sized

Yes, once I had a guy who complained. He thought I was a virgin because of it. But he was big, so I should have know better.

There are some huge men out there. It seems I sure found so many of them, they were great for the most part but oh my sometimes you know......I sure cried about leaving one man that was just too big, he was a hunk for sure.