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I'm almost one month post op and this brownish liquid keep on dripping off my vagina. I have to wear pads everyday. Is this normal? When is this suppose to stop already?

That actually sounds like period blood to me. Of course that doesn't make any sense for it to happen to a trans girl or for it to last that long.

Quote from: Evolving Beauty on July 02, 2014, 09:29:44 PM
I'm almost one month post op and this brownish liquid keep on dripping off my vagina. I have to wear pads everyday. Is this normal? When is this suppose to stop already?

Yep pads are a normal thing for a good 6 months post.

As more of it heals the discharge slowly stops.

Also you did not say does it have a odor? even after you heal up you can still get infections there that will give discharge.

The price we pay for being female.

Oh do not be surprised if it take over a year for things inside to heal up. Just saying.

Isabell

Quote from: awilliams1701 on July 02, 2014, 09:45:38 PM
That actually sounds like period blood to me. Of course that doesn't make any sense for it to happen to a trans girl or for it to last that long.

It take a very long time to heal after major surgery. Up to a year or more for the body to heal.

So yes normal at 1 month.

Isabell

Thank you Isabell for sharing your wealth of knowledge, you are one of the hugest post-op support people I think we have here! Really appreciate it :) Especially since you are teaching me so much about the whole SRS process.

Quote from: mind is quiet now on July 02, 2014, 09:57:47 PM

Also you did not say does it have a odor? even after you heal up you can still get infections there that will give discharge.

It's odorless. I asked the nurse they told me it was normal but I FORGOT to ask till when this lasts so thanks for answering my question, now my mind is more quiet.

Mine took a month ish dont forget you have a vagina and they can hold a lot of gunk water etc and its not uncommon to leak as a general rule if you are using betaine to douch that will appear brown aswell.


xx

I think I was pretty lucky here,  I was still having occasionally small spots of it up to three months but as Samantha said above I think it was mostly the leftover douche (washing out blood/plasma) and I had very little leakage as I would douche in the shower, bow legged and exerting a bit of pressure to help it all come out. It was only really regular for the first month and a half, I just wore liners in case after that.

I have this too - close to 1 month post op...

I always get paranoid and think that it may be a fistula lol... I really hope it isn't because it doesn't smell much... :)

I had a wad of dressing that came out after a month in the shower. And I finally stopped smelling like a rotting fish. The brown liquid stopped after two months. However, as I still dilate once a day, I continue to have slimy lubrication seep out during the 24 hours afterwards. I even get it leaking on to my bed sheets during the night. Until dilation is reduced, pads have to be used. I discovered some extremely thin pads which I don't mind using every day.

I remember reading more than once that a cisgendered vagina is self cleaning, you really only need to clean the outside. What about post-op vaginas? Are they self cleaning? If you do have sex with a man will his load make its way out on its own or is it up to you to clean it out?

Quote from: awilliams1701 on July 04, 2014, 07:34:14 PM
I remember reading more than once that a cisgendered vagina is self cleaning, you really only need to clean the outside. What about post-op vaginas? Are they self cleaning? If you do have sex with a man will his load make its way out on its own or is it up to you to clean it out?

Asked and answered many times. There is a search that can be used. but here are the answers to the last 2 questions: no, yes

Not sure if its just the way you normally talk but maybe thinking more like a lady and keeping is less of the grunge sexual side. Just saying it is a little offensive to me. :eusa_naughty:

Isabell

Quote from: awilliams1701 on July 04, 2014, 07:34:14 PM
I remember reading more than once that a cisgendered vagina is self cleaning, you really only need to clean the outside. What about post-op vaginas? Are they self cleaning? If you do have sex with a man will his load make its way out on its own or is it up to you to clean it out?

My understanding is that cisgender vaginas use fluids to clean themselves out regularly.

Ours also clean themselves out, but through a different mechanism. Old skin sloughs off and works its way out. My doctor has recommended I douche once a week to minimize the amount of time the old skin hangs around.

I'm not sure what I said that was wrong that offended you. This is something that could possibly affect me some day. My therapist told me to become an expert on everything regarding the transformation. So I'm trying to become an expert. I can't comprehend being straight after transforming, but I've seen that its a possibility. I need to be prepared. I do know that a cis gendered woman doesn't need to do anything after sex. I was just trying to find out if there was a difference for us.

Quote from: mind is quiet now on July 04, 2014, 09:01:18 PM
Asked and answered many times. There is a search that can be used. but here are the answers to the last 2 questions: no, yes

Not sure if its just the way you normally talk but maybe thinking more like a lady and keeping is less of the grunge sexual side. Just saying it is a little offensive to me. :eusa_naughty:

Isabell

(I didn't say anything because I only had the discharge for 2-3 weeks, though I recall being told it was normal for quite a bit longer than that.)

Brassard's instructions to my group said that the vagina *was* self-cleaning, and not to douche or anything after the 2 months post-op. So far my experience has been that this is true; I haven't been with a man, but every dilation led to the lube slowly making its way back out. The couple times I've been examined with a speculum, even during the high-dilation-frequency months, I was told it was a little more dry in there than expected, so stuff was not lingering!

Quote from: awilliams1701 on July 04, 2014, 09:36:25 PM
I'm not sure what I said that was wrong that offended you. This is something that could possibly affect me some day. My therapist told me to become an expert on everything regarding the transformation. So I'm trying to become an expert.

I believe what she is trying to get across is part of transition is unlearning male thought and wording and going in a more feminine discretionary tone. Right now this early on you need to be more concerned with how women talk, move, think, etc. Don't try to become an expert on SRS right now because you are skipping some important things. You are not ready to become an expert in SRS right now just assimilating as female and getting prepped and educated about Therapy and HRT. Women think about and express themselves much gentler and use different wording on things than men. It is hard, but you will get there. Just start at the beginning.  :)

This part got to me too:  "will his load make its way"  You have to watch how you word things as this is male talk. Women for the most part do not talk like this. You will learn though. :)

My therapist told me to become an expert in all areas including HRT and the surgery.

Quote from: awilliams1701 on July 04, 2014, 10:02:50 PM
My therapist told me to become an expert in all areas including HRT and the surgery.

I am only trying to help you here. I have been transitioning for a year now and even I don't know everything. My SRS is in Dec 2015 and I learn things every day. What you need to become an expert in right now is HOW to be a woman. There are so many things you need to accomplish before even HRT starts. HRT and SRS does not make you a woman or fix everything. You need to learn the basics at this point and not technical data. You have so much to learn such as how to talk, walk, respond, socialize and just live as a woman. If you don't go step by step you will be in for a great shock. You will find yourself feminized and not know what to do. You will look feminine, but everything else will say male. In fact it will scream it. You say you want to learn, well, that is all I am doing. Those of us further along know that Meds and surgeries are just the tip of the iceberg. The lions share of transition is just unlearning everything male you have been raised with. How you react to things, walk, talk and basic mannerism's. These should be the first steps to take, the rest will follow. :)

To me the fluid than men produce is gross(including mine) and it doesn't matter what word you choose its still gross, however load seemed not quite as gross to me. Was I supposed to call it semen? To me that's worse than load. I can't imagine I was supposed to call it jizz. Who knows though I'm pre HRT and I've been told that changes your thought processes. Maybe I would pick different wording afterword, but I have no way of knowing.

And I appreciate the help. Today I even realized I'm seeing Women's shoes differently. As a guy I always saw them as blocks of wood with straps. Now I see them as a way to present your feet and show more of your legs.

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on July 04, 2014, 10:11:36 PM
I am only trying to help you here. I have been transitioning for a year now and even I don't know everything. My SRS is in Dec 2015 and I learn things every day. What you need to become an expert in right now is HOW to be a woman. There are so many things you need to accomplish before even HRT starts. HRT and SRS does not make you a woman or fix everything. You need to learn the basics at this point and not technical data. You have so much to learn such as how to talk, walk, respond, socialize and just live as a woman. If you don't go step by step you will be in for a great shock. You will find yourself feminized and not know what to do. You will look feminine, but everything else will say male. In fact it will scream it. You say you want to learn, well, that is all I am doing. Those of us further along know that Meds and surgeries are just the tip of the iceberg. The lions share of transition is just unlearning everything male you have been raised with. How you react to things, walk, talk and basic mannerism's. These should be the first steps to take, the rest will follow. :)

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on July 04, 2014, 09:53:15 PM

This part got to me too:  "will his load make its way"  You have to watch how you word things as this is male talk. Women for the most part do not talk like this. You will learn though. :)

Thank you Jessica.

Anything GCS and surgery related is most of our end. Most that answer these questions have finished there transitin and offer help and keep it to the OP questions.

I know you did not do it to hurt anyone but it did almost make me gag.

Isabell

Now I'm even more surprised. As gross as seminal fluid is, the original topic is even more so. However there is a lot about the full transformation that's difficult to talk about in one way or another. I'm doing my best to deal with any topic even remotely regarding a full transformation.

Quote from: awilliams1701 on July 04, 2014, 10:14:20 PM
To me the fluid than men produce is gross(including mine) and it doesn't matter what word you choose its still gross, however load seemed not quite as gross to me. Was I supposed to call it semen? To me that's worse than load. I can't imagine I was supposed to call it jizz. Who knows though I'm pre HRT and I've been told that changes your thought processes. Maybe I would pick different wording afterword, but I have no way of knowing.

How about hmmm lets say you said it like this

If you do have sex with a man would it self clean our would you have to clean it out?

We all know what happens with sex with most men. but the science term that we are supposed to use in this form would be yes Semen, also known as seminal fluid.

Isabell

Quote from: awilliams1701 on July 04, 2014, 10:35:33 PM
. As gross as seminal fluid is, the original topic is even more so.

For post SRS females the color is very important for us to know to help them. Also questions like does it smell. These are important and have to be in the topic. You will learn I have full faith in that fact.  :)

Personally i want to say sorry to the OP that your thread got hijacked.

And glad to see you say it did not have any odor. That is a true key to your health.

Isabell

Quote from: awilliams1701 on July 04, 2014, 10:02:50 PM
My therapist told me to become an expert in all areas including HRT and the surgery.

Besides the forum wiki and vast information I suggest anyone should keep www.transgendercare.com/ and the WPATH SOC bookmarked.

The later is a must.

Happy learning.

Izzy

I'll take a look. I appreciate it.

Go away for a couple of days and I miss the wild stuff. 

Isabell has covered the stuff that is important and I will agree completely that what we go through in the early months is pretty nasty looking and even smelling on occasion.  I was one of the latter, who had a perfectly ordinary yeast infection which does produce a distinctive odor that is not pleasant.  That changed with getting the infection cleared up with a prescribed med, and Dr. recommended OTC fungicides. 

I did not douche per my instructions, but did have one sitz bath per day in clear water during my multiple dilation schedule.  I was nearly 6 months along before I stopped NEEDING pads, but at nearing a year and a half, I still carry a couple in my purse.  I do however go through two pair of cotton brief panties per day if I am a home or traveling where I can get some privacy.  Careful use of toilet paper after urination is also helpful. 

Omg wow I hope I can do SRS as I am on aspirin and I did have a blood  vessel claps in my brain due to radiation just a lot to take in OMG lol

Just randomly tossing this in here- most females I know, call it cum. If he came inside of you. It's not weird to say that he shot his load, but it does come off as rather crass.
I have the same trouble, trying to talk more like a guy  xD;;;

Quote from: Rawb on July 15, 2014, 06:25:39 PM
Just randomly tossing this in here- most females I know, call it cum. If he came inside of you. It's not weird to say that he shot his load, but it does come off as rather crass.
I have the same trouble, trying to talk more like a guy  xD;;;

We all here know the words and the difference how the words are said in there contacts.

We have Dysphoria over things just the same as everyone else.

Problem the thread got hijacked and i was trying my best to get it on track. That comment and this one has nothing to do with the OPs question.

Isabell

Whatever you call it, it causes dysphoria for me.