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I did not know where else to look but right now im not sure of the proper label. I have a male part of my mind and a female. Some days i want to be male and some days female. I cannot fully transition to male because of the fluid need to go back and forth. I have no idea what is wrong. let alone make anyone understand what it is if i can figure it out. I am forced in this rut of just staying female but im unsure what else i can do.

If anyone wants to help you are welcome to message me

This is called being Genderfluid

Then what do i do? some days i want to be male and some days i want to be female but being a male i have huge breasts...i fear the damage of binders

Quote from: SerinaDrakos on July 06, 2014, 03:05:40 PM
Then what do i do? some days i want to be male and some days i want to be female but being a male i have huge breasts...i fear the damage of binders

I don't know, I mean I really don't know anybody that's genderfluid other than you. And I don't know how to be genderfluid. Just come up with an alternate identity for your male days, have your friends call you by your male name, and on female days be female. Act like a guy don't appear like a guy (dress like a guy is fine just don't bind as you have bigger breasts)

     I identify as genderfluid, so perhaps I can provide a few tips. About binders: so long as you are using a proper material, it shouldn't harm your breasts. There are several brands of undershirts that are designed specifically for binding breasts (you can find some online that are relatively cheap). If the idea of binders scares you though, there are other methods to make them appear smaller. For example, using two small sports bras: one facing the right way, one on top facing backwards. It may feel a bit strange at first, but it does work and the discomfort should go away fairly quickly.
     Don't feel like there is a 'right' and 'wrong' way of being genderfluid. You create your own identity, so you decide how to interpret it. I have weeks where I feel like wearing only skirts and blouses, and then I have weeks of camo pants and rock t-shirts. It may be confusing to some people (including to myself), but I do what makes me happy. Take your time figuring yourself out! It's okay if it takes some time; just go at whatever pace you are comfortable with.

Best of luck!

Quote from: Jay27 on July 06, 2014, 04:25:33 PM
Don't feel like there is a 'right' and 'wrong' way of being genderfluid.

Well said Jay!!

Personally even though it is not for me I see gender fluid people as having the ultimate freedom both body and mind. I envy to some degree in which they can effortlessly go from one presentation to the other. I do love my new life though and celebrate my femininity not missing the masculine aspect at all. Be who you are and be accountable to no one sweetie! :)

I think I know a little how you feel from my time of living part time. There are just some thing male-mode work good for and other times female mode since that is when I am the happiest. Facing that dilemma has been very much on my mind as I try to figure out which fork in the road I need to take.

As time goes by I find myself stopping to think in terms of "I can" or "I can't" for different things in different modalities. As my therapist got me to thinking when she asked "Just what would be different if Joanne showed up at work vs John?". TBH - Not a whole hell of a lot after THEIR shock wore off.

wow really you went to work?

Jessica and Joanne: Even if you are female, there is still plenty of room for flexibility. Who says you have to do anything a certain way, anyhow? You should just do what feels right for you. So long as you see yourself as a woman, other people should too. You go, girls!

Don't worry Jay, I relish my femininity! I just meant I am jealous when people have the mental strength to shift back and forth at will. Being blonde I would get confused too easy!  ;D I chose my path and just adore it.  :)

Oh alright then haha
And believe me, I confuse myself quite often. I sometimes forget when I go guy and end up putting my hands on my hips like my mother does! I just laugh it off and enjoy the strange looks people give me.

i posted a video and came out to everyone

That's great!! It's a very big and difficult step to take, so it must have taken a lot of bravery. I hope that everyone is open-minded and understanding for you!

i wish alot of what i thought were friends...said they just couldnt talk to someone like me. As well as a few family members where like " Wtf is wrong with you"...so im still adjusting to accepting its out there

Quote from: SerinaDrakos on July 21, 2014, 08:53:12 PM
i wish alot of what i thought were friends...said they just couldnt talk to someone like me. As well as a few family members where like " Wtf is wrong with you"...so im still adjusting to accepting its out there

Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear that TT_TT I hope that they can change their minds, because you really need someone out there to support you. Maybe you could join a support group near you? If not, you could speak to the people here at Susan's and we will offer any advice that we can.