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When I started dating my amazing partner we were seen as a straight couple. My partner came out to me a mtf and I saw her for the amazing woman she was. To us we were lesbians even if the world saw us differently then I realized that I didn't have to resign myself to my misery of being stuck in a body that didn't match. So, we're a f/m couple again but after I come out we'll be seen as gay men because she's not open. I find it a little funny how things work out. Anyone else have a similar story?

That's awesome! After reading about so many relationships that fall apart after someone comes out to their partner as trans*, it's really uplifting to hear that not only were you accepting, but that it actually helped you come to terms with your own dysphoria. It sounds like you really have something special with her. :)

Oh we do. I'm the luckiest man in the world :D

I got married and sixteen years later my husband came out as MTF. The funny thing is that in the process of learning about what they were going through my eyes were opened towards the FTM community and suddenly everything meant sense to me for the first time in my life. I'm ftm! So really when we got married we were the reverse of our biological bits! Our relationship is much better now that we are being true to ourselves.

Sounds like you have a perfect arrangement and have kept your marriage.

Quote from: TonyP on July 07, 2014, 01:02:09 PM
Sounds like you have a perfect arrangement and have kept your marriage.

It's not perfect and we have a lot to work through but I guess the main thing is that if two people love one another why not make things work? As long as communication flows and both people are willing to learn and grow that's what matters.

nice stories to hear about

Quote from: Silver Centurion on July 07, 2014, 12:53:12 PM
I got married and sixteen years later my husband came out as MTF. The funny thing is that in the process of learning about what they were going through my eyes were opened towards the FTM community and suddenly everything meant sense to me for the first time in my life. I'm ftm! So really when we got married we were the reverse of our biological bits! Our relationship is much better now that we are being true to ourselves.

That's pretty incredible when you think about it, getting married having little to no idea that the other person has gender issues, and then find out later you both want to transition!

I ended up falling for a trans woman. Just sort of happened lol. But we both were pretty far in by the time we got the love bug. :P

Not to crash you mens post.

I was a transwoman (now post so just a woman) and married to a transman (almost finished) for 8 years now.

Would not change anything about our lives. It has been a roller coaster at times but the understanding is more then one could expect.


Never forget our community, we are loving people no matter what stages in or progress.

Isabell

I could see it working if I liked girls. trans people are more nice than the cis people I meet since we have gone through more crap.

Quote from: Alexthecat on July 07, 2014, 06:48:18 PM
I could see it working if I liked girls. trans people are more nice than the cis people I meet since we have gone through more crap.

I'm glad you have had really great experiences with other trans people. IRL I've met a lot of trans people who I honestly just don't like being around at all, they're not respectful of my choices re: my transition...my biggest allies BY FAR have always been cis people, which I never expected. I was pretty disappointed actually (not by the cis people, lol, but by the way some other trans people have treated me). It actually made me hesitant to get close to a trans woman, because of some trans women I've met, but she's great.

I wouldn't be surprised in me dating one since my dating pool has cut down considerably.

It's so wonderful to hear others have had similar experiences and have found such loving relationships.

Quote from: birkin on July 07, 2014, 07:07:12 PM
I'm glad you have had really great experiences with other trans people. IRL I've met a lot of trans people who I honestly just don't like being around at all, they're not respectful of my choices re: my transition...my biggest allies BY FAR have always been cis people, which I never expected. I was pretty disappointed actually (not by the cis people, lol, but by the way some other trans people have treated me). It actually made me hesitant to get close to a trans woman, because of some trans women I've met, but she's great.

Every basket has bad apples, not everyone is worth taking home.

Izzy.

Beautiful stories  ;D I would definitely date a mtf

For me and my lover, it's about hearts, not parts.  He loves me just for being me.  And I think he looks damn good in a negligee.   ;)

I predict that a transguy will end up in the middle of a cisgirl/transgirl cougar sandwich one night.

Meow?

I have an epic crush on a trans guy I met recently. ^^;

While I have not dated another trans person before, I can hazard a guess at the benefits/negatives attributed to such a relationship, and I am DEFINITELY curious as to how it would play out :D

Glad to hear of so many success stories ^^

Actually, all of my relationships have been with trans* people (the first was with a guy who was still figuring out his gender. I'm thinking he probably ended up transitioning to female, but we didn't stay together long enough for me to know how it played out. And the other two were MTF.)

Guess it's natural when the only places I socialize are trans* hangouts. Otherwise I'm a recluse. Normal society is dumb and I refuse to participate in it. :P

Quote from: Pikachu on July 08, 2014, 07:14:24 AM
Actually, all of my relationships have been with trans* people (the first was with a guy who was still figuring out his gender. I'm thinking he probably ended up transitioning to female, but we didn't stay together long enough for me to know how it played out. And the other two were MTF.)

Guess it's natural when the only places I socialize are trans* hangouts. Otherwise I'm a recluse. Normal society is dumb and I refuse to participate in it. :P

I WISH there was "Trans Hangouts" where I live xD

Quote from: Blue Senpai on July 07, 2014, 08:05:26 PM
I wouldn't be surprised in me dating one since my dating pool has cut down considerably.

Yeah, this is my biggest annoyances about being trans, since I am not hiding it from a partner (Not that I am opposed to it, but I would never be able to be stealth anyways) I basically can only look at people who are fine with me being trans, which turns out to be a very small group of people. I would estimate it at less than one percent even. I have no attractions to men of any sort though, but I suppose I could end up with another MTF.

Quote from: Danniella on July 08, 2014, 07:18:30 AM
I WISH there was "Trans Hangouts" where I live xD

They don't have to be physical places. You never know when you might meet someone from your area online. :)

Quote from: Hikari on July 08, 2014, 08:48:15 AM
Yeah, this is my biggest annoyances about being trans, since I am not hiding it from a partner (Not that I am opposed to it, but I would never be able to be stealth anyways) I basically can only look at people who are fine with me being trans, which turns out to be a very small group of people. I would estimate it at less than one percent even. I have no attractions to men of any sort though, but I suppose I could end up with another MTF.

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean which is why it's very difficult to find someone that's open-minded.

Quote from: birkin on July 07, 2014, 07:07:12 PM
I'm glad you have had really great experiences with other trans people. IRL I've met a lot of trans people who I honestly just don't like being around at all, they're not respectful of my choices re: my transition...my biggest allies BY FAR have always been cis people, which I never expected. I was pretty disappointed actually (not by the cis people, lol, but by the way some other trans people have treated me). It actually made me hesitant to get close to a trans woman, because of some trans women I've met, but she's great.

Really??  I was curious what trans women are like IRL. I haven't met any yet actually except one when I was younger.  She always wore sunglasses inside and spoke really low so I don't really know what she was like. She seemed generally benevolent though at least.  Not like,  boisterous.

If I wasn't already in a four year relationship with my (cis)husband, I suppose I would seek out other transpeople to date. I wouldn't really need to explain anything and we could just enjoy each other.

Lucky enough for me, my husband loves me and I love him.

Quote from: Jill F on July 08, 2014, 01:35:20 AM
I predict that a transguy will end up in the middle of a cisgirl/transgirl cougar sandwich one night.

Meow?

Jill, Mama could get down with that idea ;)

Quote from: sad panda on July 08, 2014, 01:23:57 PM
Really??  I was curious what trans women are like IRL. I haven't met any yet actually except one when I was younger.  She always wore sunglasses inside and spoke really low so I don't really know what she was like. She seemed generally benevolent though at least.  Not like,  boisterous.

i'm actually curious to. i cant say what other MTF act like but all i can say is that i'm like your typical teenage tomboy. need to see if i can still pass at a 13-14 year old xD hahaha!

I like girls, so i would date a mtf, would be easier explaining the whole transgender thing and dysphoria lol luckily my girl is pretty good about it all so far

Quote from: Vampire Brianna Terryal Onyx on July 08, 2014, 01:30:53 PM
i'm actually curious to. i cant say what other MTF act like but all i can say is that i'm like your typical teenage tomboy. need to see if i can still pass at a 13-14 year old xD hahaha!

Hah that's cool. Inside I'm a little kid but on the outside I'm kinda like someone's mom who still tries to be pretty. :/

Quote from: sad panda on July 08, 2014, 01:58:37 PM
Hah that's cool. Inside I'm a little kid but on the outside I'm kinda like someone's mom who still tries to be pretty. :/

i think your to hard on yourself. do like i do and say screw the world xD