Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 05:32:43 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Telling my dad.
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 05:32:43 PM
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 05:32:43 PM
So i ce out to my stepmother not long ago. My stepsistet is a doctor and gay. She came out 7 years ago. My stepmom asked if she could tell her and i said yes. So they both tried to prepare my dad for the shock(i dont know how by the way) she said his views on LGBT have changed for the better. So im coming out to my dad this weekend which happens to be his Bday.
Any thoughts?
Any thoughts?
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: Umiko on July 08, 2014, 05:35:34 PM
Post by: Umiko on July 08, 2014, 05:35:34 PM
i wish my daddy was still alive. i wish you good luck and all the best
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 05:40:11 PM
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 05:40:11 PM
Thata just it. I asked him once "what if u found out i was gay? He replied id love u no. Matter what" im afraid though
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 05:40:55 PM
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 05:40:55 PM
By the way sorry for tge spelling. Im. On a cell
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JulieBlair on July 08, 2014, 06:00:22 PM
Post by: JulieBlair on July 08, 2014, 06:00:22 PM
Well, he will be surprised, but if he has been paying attention he will know that something is up. Hope for the best, plan for the worst. What's the worst? Sadness? Anger? What's the best? Acceptance? Support? I'll say a little prayer for the latter :)
By the way, you can personal message any of us now. Don't be shy, this is a support site and we are all here for you. Finally I post a lot from my phone, and I hate autocorrect! But I use it all the time, allowances are made
Peace
j
By the way, you can personal message any of us now. Don't be shy, this is a support site and we are all here for you. Finally I post a lot from my phone, and I hate autocorrect! But I use it all the time, allowances are made
Peace
j
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:07:54 PM
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:07:54 PM
Thanks i will still trying to figure out how to post a pic of me here lol
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: Emily1996 on July 08, 2014, 07:25:04 PM
Post by: Emily1996 on July 08, 2014, 07:25:04 PM
don't tell it during his bday D; it's supposed to be his day kind of (I mean he's probably older and doesn't care, but he'd rather have an eventless day and relax I guess), just tell him another time so that he can enjoy his day without too mush shock
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:36:52 PM
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:36:52 PM
Well one thing went right. Got my pic on. My stepmother said what does it matter when u tell him... Is she right?
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:38:00 PM
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:38:00 PM
I was thinling of telling him before his bday. What do u think?
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:41:38 PM
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:41:38 PM
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2Fvv42kit.jpg&hash=742b39f21a811d738cff2f8dc49b57c14ea7a5f0) this is me.
Title: Re: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:42:59 PM
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:42:59 PM
Quote from: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 08, 2014, 07:41:38 PMSorry guys its the avatar.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2Fvv42kit.jpg&hash=742b39f21a811d738cff2f8dc49b57c14ea7a5f0) this is me.
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JulieBlair on July 08, 2014, 09:55:53 PM
Post by: JulieBlair on July 08, 2014, 09:55:53 PM
Well sweetie if he looks at you and doesn't see a girl, he's not paying attention, but Emily has a point his birthday is about him not you. What would be respectful and loving?
j
j
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JulieBlair on July 09, 2014, 05:48:13 PM
Post by: JulieBlair on July 09, 2014, 05:48:13 PM
Hey, so what did you decide to do?
j
j
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 24, 2014, 12:09:28 AM
Post by: JadeLaurenSTorm on July 24, 2014, 12:09:28 AM
Sorry guys been a while but I waited till after his bday . He didn't know what gender dysphoria was I thought he did when iI told him. Apparently I didn't explain it well enough because he asked my stepmother later that night in bed and she dropped the bomb on him. She told him flat out I'm on hormones and I'm going to be a full girl in under q year. He ssaid he loved me no matter what and that id always be his son regardless of wwhat'sbetween my legs. So hhe's not jumping for joy but at least he doesn't hate me. Its all I could of asked for.
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: JulieBlair on July 24, 2014, 08:42:56 AM
Post by: JulieBlair on July 24, 2014, 08:42:56 AM
Congratulations! You have taken a big hard step and the results were better than you could have hoped for. That is very cool, I think that you can expect more conversations that may be uncomfortable and awkward, it kinda goes with the territory. Still you Rock kiddo! Don't forget that you have friends and support here anytime you need it.
Love Ya,
Julie
Love Ya,
Julie
Title: Re: Telling my dad.
Post by: Bombadil on July 24, 2014, 09:26:07 AM
Post by: Bombadil on July 24, 2014, 09:26:07 AM
I am glad that telling him went ok. It will take time for him to adjust. Be patient and don't fear that awkwardness or misunderstandings that happen early on will always remain.
And that's a great picture of you
And that's a great picture of you