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Title: Dead Name -> Transitition Name -> True Name
Post by: TashaEve on July 09, 2014, 11:23:19 PM
Post by: TashaEve on July 09, 2014, 11:23:19 PM
Hi all. I've been a long time lurker on the site, and I thought it was time I joined the conversation.
I'm a single MTF just starting my transition in Adelaide, Australia.
I've been on the 'mons since March this year, and therapy since Oct? 2013. (I wrote all the dates down because I always forget)
I'm out to all my family and friends, and am publicly Fem to Androgynous. But at work I'm still 'him'. *ew*
I recently decided that it was time to start updating all my official details to my true identity.
This also coincided with me letting my work management know what I was going through. A massively nerving step, but now I feel so relieved.
The thing I wanted to write about was my choice of name...
I never gave much credence to names. They were just a tag by which you were referred. They changed depending on where and who you were with, especially when it came to online identities. It probably didn't help that I also hated both my first and last names (I kinda like my old Middle Name). I just never felt like the label 'attached' to me very well.
So when I wrote my letter to my Therapist, I choose myself a 'transition' name. Something I thought better represented me. I talked with my two partners about naming and it was more like picking names from a box than finding 'my' name. I also only changed my first name. Since then I've been referred to by friends, family and medical council by this 'transition' name.
A lot of self discovery has occurred in the last year. That person that I knew I was, I had buried so deep that she was just a shimmer of hope in a very dark world. Now I'm getting to know her a lot better and I'm loving every minute of it. I'm starting to feel that it's time to let her out of the box all the time. But I don't even know her name?
I've thought about it a lot and I've found a tag I'm happy to sign as my own. Something that better represents me.
However, now I feel it appears I've jumped around... been all wishy-washy... whimsical even!
Additionally I want to change my last name. I don't mean any offence to my family, but its got to go.
(PS. I realise this is a weird post without actual names. But I think you see the why for the omission)
I'm a single MTF just starting my transition in Adelaide, Australia.
I've been on the 'mons since March this year, and therapy since Oct? 2013. (I wrote all the dates down because I always forget)
I'm out to all my family and friends, and am publicly Fem to Androgynous. But at work I'm still 'him'. *ew*
I recently decided that it was time to start updating all my official details to my true identity.
This also coincided with me letting my work management know what I was going through. A massively nerving step, but now I feel so relieved.
The thing I wanted to write about was my choice of name...
I never gave much credence to names. They were just a tag by which you were referred. They changed depending on where and who you were with, especially when it came to online identities. It probably didn't help that I also hated both my first and last names (I kinda like my old Middle Name). I just never felt like the label 'attached' to me very well.
So when I wrote my letter to my Therapist, I choose myself a 'transition' name. Something I thought better represented me. I talked with my two partners about naming and it was more like picking names from a box than finding 'my' name. I also only changed my first name. Since then I've been referred to by friends, family and medical council by this 'transition' name.
A lot of self discovery has occurred in the last year. That person that I knew I was, I had buried so deep that she was just a shimmer of hope in a very dark world. Now I'm getting to know her a lot better and I'm loving every minute of it. I'm starting to feel that it's time to let her out of the box all the time. But I don't even know her name?
I've thought about it a lot and I've found a tag I'm happy to sign as my own. Something that better represents me.
However, now I feel it appears I've jumped around... been all wishy-washy... whimsical even!
Additionally I want to change my last name. I don't mean any offence to my family, but its got to go.
(PS. I realise this is a weird post without actual names. But I think you see the why for the omission)
Title: Re: Dead Name -> Transitition Name -> True Name
Post by: Valleyrie on July 10, 2014, 08:03:08 AM
Post by: Valleyrie on July 10, 2014, 08:03:08 AM
First of all, welcome and I'm happy you've joined! Self discovery is great, go with whatever you feel suits you best! I hate being referred to as a guy also, it makes me cringe every time. I've been thinking of changing my last name too, it's pretty masculine imo and I'm not sure how my family would receive it. Not like they could stop me from doing so anyway lol.
Title: Re: Dead Name -> Transitition Name -> True Name
Post by: TashaEve on July 11, 2014, 04:34:42 AM
Post by: TashaEve on July 11, 2014, 04:34:42 AM
RE Last name. My parents have given me their support but also said that they'd feel I was abandoning them. Made it a tough decision.
I'm happy with my naming progression. Anyone else had similar experiences?
I'm happy with my naming progression. Anyone else had similar experiences?
Title: Re: Dead Name -> Transitition Name -> True Name
Post by: Cindy on July 19, 2014, 09:18:50 AM
Post by: Cindy on July 19, 2014, 09:18:50 AM
Hi TashaEve,
I think your post got caught up in a computer crash we had.
I'm moving it to introductions.
Oh and Welcome from an Adelaide girl!!
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I think your post got caught up in a computer crash we had.
I'm moving it to introductions.
Oh and Welcome from an Adelaide girl!!
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Title: Re: Dead Name -> Transitition Name -> True Name
Post by: Gina Taylor on July 19, 2014, 10:23:38 AM
Post by: Gina Taylor on July 19, 2014, 10:23:38 AM
Hi TashaEve :icon_wave: and welcome to Susan's! Here's a Big :icon_hug: from a new sister to welcome you to our over growing family. :)