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Title: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: Skyler on July 18, 2014, 12:10:30 AM
Wondering if its normal for young trans* people to go to a youth group not presenting as masculine? As i am only out to family and friends, not people in my school. I am not currently outwardly presenting as male all the way.
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: thatboyfresh on July 18, 2014, 01:07:14 AM
You should be able to wear whatever you feel comfortable in. No one will think differently of you :)
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: Maleth on July 18, 2014, 03:18:24 AM
Quote from: thatboyfresh on July 18, 2014, 01:07:14 AM
You should be able to wear whatever you feel comfortable in. No one will think differently of you :)

I second this opinion. It's a support group, after all. I don't think anyone would judge.  :)
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: Cindy on July 18, 2014, 03:21:50 AM
I realise I'm going the other way but it is very common for 'newbies' to present in their non-gender identified clothes. There is nothing wrong with that at all.

And enjoy yourself!!

Let us know how you go.
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: AdamMLP on July 18, 2014, 08:14:53 AM
If it's trans only then I'd imagine it would be okay. If it's mixed LGBT then ehh... Maybe not so. I know some groups like that who have been funny about trans people to start with.

I don't know from personal experience though. My GP tried to send me to a youth group once instead of referring me. He couldn't understand why I couldn't skip work every week to go and that it wasn't what I needed in the slightest.
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: Skyler on July 18, 2014, 08:25:23 AM
ya its a youth trans* only group it says, thanks for all your encouragement :P, i must first get a gps cuz i suck with directions in the city :l
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: conformer on July 21, 2014, 10:19:13 PM
Completely normal. From the support group that I occasionally go to, I learned:

Everyone is at different stages in both life and their transition. And the purpose of the support group is to be there with them regardless of where they are.  :)

Good luck. Well I'm sure you went already, I hope it went well!
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: Skyler on July 21, 2014, 10:37:25 PM
^ Haven't gone yet im going when i get back from Arizona, need to order a gps because my directional skills = fail
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: aleon515 on July 21, 2014, 11:50:56 PM
We have this happen a lot, it's absolutely no big deal.

--Jay
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: Felix on July 22, 2014, 12:35:49 AM
Ya it looks like this has been answered pretty adequately, but in a trans group you should be accepted 100 percent as how you identify regardless how you present. I started out going to those meetings with female pronouns because I wasn't ready to go forward yet, and no one was ever judgy about it.

Good luck!
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: AdamMLP on July 22, 2014, 03:36:40 AM
If you've got a smart phone you should be able to use that instead of a GPS
Title: Re: Going to a trans* youth group, not presenting?
Post by: aleon515 on July 22, 2014, 11:35:38 AM
I agree that people are going to go out of their way to call you whatever pronouns and names you want to be called as well.

--Jay