Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Juliett on July 30, 2014, 09:20:18 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Did anyone else get outed before you were out?
Post by: Juliett on July 30, 2014, 09:20:18 AM
Post by: Juliett on July 30, 2014, 09:20:18 AM
Back before I was full time, I had been on HRT for a few months. My boss noticed the changes and outed me to everyone else. Shortly after that, I confided in my Aunt and she outed me to the rest of the family. Going full time was pretty simple after that as everyone had already been told without my permission.
Title: Re: Did anyone else get outed before you were out?
Post by: JulieBlair on July 30, 2014, 09:58:31 AM
Post by: JulieBlair on July 30, 2014, 09:58:31 AM
Hi Juliett,
I think most of us get "outed" one way or another, and while at the time it is traumatic and a little sad, I think that in my case it is mostly all for the best. My outer was a pissed off spouse who wanted to embarrass me. She did, I would have liked to present myself in my own time and in my own way, but once the job was done, it was done and I have survived just fine. She saved me having to participate in some conversations that make me uncomfortable, but took away some of the sparkle and joy of revealing who I authentically am to people who love me and who, as it turned out, are my biggest fans.
So it goes, life goes on.
Julie
I think most of us get "outed" one way or another, and while at the time it is traumatic and a little sad, I think that in my case it is mostly all for the best. My outer was a pissed off spouse who wanted to embarrass me. She did, I would have liked to present myself in my own time and in my own way, but once the job was done, it was done and I have survived just fine. She saved me having to participate in some conversations that make me uncomfortable, but took away some of the sparkle and joy of revealing who I authentically am to people who love me and who, as it turned out, are my biggest fans.
So it goes, life goes on.
Julie
Title: Re: Did anyone else get outed before you were out?
Post by: Jaime R D on July 30, 2014, 10:01:36 AM
Post by: Jaime R D on July 30, 2014, 10:01:36 AM
Not really loudly outed, but many had figured it out, even where I worked at the state port and were discussing it amongst themselves without my knowledge. But no biggie, they didn't give me crap over it.
My coming out was mostly just confirming what most were already thinking anyway since I was on hrt for two years before going fulltime.
My coming out was mostly just confirming what most were already thinking anyway since I was on hrt for two years before going fulltime.
Title: Re: Did anyone else get outed before you were out?
Post by: Sabine on July 30, 2014, 10:07:16 AM
Post by: Sabine on July 30, 2014, 10:07:16 AM
Quote from: Juliett on July 30, 2014, 09:20:18 AM
Back before I was full time, I had been on HRT for a few months. My boss noticed the changes and outed me to everyone else. Shortly after that, I confided in my Aunt and she outed me to the rest of the family. Going full time was pretty simple after that as everyone had already been told without my permission.
I have gossipy if well meaning neighbours. I never had a chance....