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I'm pet-sitting at my boss' up in the mountains. Yesterday a neighbor approached me with his shotgun. He said he wanted to make sure I was safe and that no other vehicle was here because his dogs barked when I passed. I was in my work scrubs and had makeup on.

Today he knocked but I refused to answer because I look like a man without makeup and flat, short hair. I texted him I was in the tub to sway him away. Awkward. I felt so bad afterward because he seemed very nice and is just protective of his neighbors. He said he knocked to apologize if he scared me with his gun last night. My coworkers happen to know him and say although he's an ex-Military sharp shooter, he's a good redneck.

But I don't think he knows I'm trans and even that he seems like a good guy, I'm not risking to meet his gun.

Just wondering if some of you are like me and won't answer a door without dolling up some...

Well yes all the time.

I stopped doing the make up thing years ago.

Now only for events do i Spackle.

Same way for me :-). I never even leave my house without my hair or makeup done :D

Yes! I've started to ever since laser cleared my face. The last time was when I had pizza delivered (a few months ago) and I was being paranoid about the slight shadow I still have left on my upper lip but nope the delivery guy gendered me correctly. Now that I'm thinkin about it, I can't remember the last time someone misgendered me. I just let my social anxiety/paranoia get the best of me sometimes. 

I wore makeup 24/7 cause I needed to hide my beard shadow. Laser freed me from that annoyance. I still use a touch of foundation but its nowhere near the amount I used to have to put on.

But my hair always has to be done, since its pretty long. If I just let it go, it looks really bad. So most of the time I have it up, just easier to deal with.

Christina that sounds scary though, I wouldn't risk confronting that guy without looking my best. Rednecks can be really cool and definitely the kind of people that will have your back. 

I would think it to be really odd to miss a package delivery or other important stuff just because of makeup. Ah well. I actually have started to use some makeup again nowadays, but only a tiny bit for the eyes...

   A couple of days ago I was changing getting ready to go out and a car pulled up out front.I recognized the person who started walking to the door as someone from my past. She knocked I opened the door, flash ---no top no bra no makeup--hi - Kodak moment - red face-- be right back.She had stopped by to see how I was doing after hearing about me from a mutual friend ,we had not parted on the best of terms so I was surprised to see her.Best comment  my your chest has certainly filled out.Just glad it was not my friend the UPS guy!  :)

Well I dont use make up in summer...

im in athens, the heat here is exhausting  , the make up would melt :/
I wonder how some cis girls do it...

so yeah...whatever

I wouldn't either with the kind of motivation you have!

But yeah, I do. In fact, I don't do makeup except for job interviews and other special occasions anymore. :)

Yes - I found the stupid makeup I bought lately is indeed not making my eyes red and itchy anymore, but it does not last nearly as long as the one I had before. I need to find one that is lasting and not giving me allergies. Its part of why I did not like makeup for years. I especially despise that foundation and cream makeup or powder. it makes the whole face want to generate pimples and red spots ;)

I would look thru the peephole first, a close friend sure, they can deal with my face, a USPS guy or the like I will also open it, trust me I used to do household delivery what I am going to be one of the less strange things.... If it is a casual acquaintance probably not, impressions are everything till someone gets closer.

I live in Chicago , make up and humidity don't mix

Quote from: justpat on August 02, 2014, 08:07:06 PM
   A couple of days ago I was changing getting ready to go out and a car pulled up out front.I recognized the person who started walking to the door as someone from my past. She knocked I opened the door, flash ---no top no bra no makeup--hi - Kodak moment - red face-- be right back.She had stopped by to see how I was doing after hearing about me from a mutual friend ,we had not parted on the best of terms so I was surprised to see her.Best comment  my your chest has certainly filled out.Just glad it was not my friend the UPS guy!  :)

Waaaaa Hahaha that is a riot!  :D My Border Collie goes to the door, teeth bared, hackles up, thinks he's an alpha dog. If I don't want to see someone he usually scares them away. I never wear makeup, it's no use to me anyway as I am too lazy to care about what someone else thinks. Hopefully I'm not too scary!

Quote from: Jenna Marie on August 02, 2014, 08:28:32 PM
I wouldn't either with the kind of motivation you have!

But yeah, I do. In fact, I don't do makeup except for job interviews and other special occasions anymore. :)

I'm so looking for that moment as I use only a tiny bit of makeup to cover gray spots from remnants of facial hair. There's a period between my laser sessions when it's not needed which is getting longer and longer so I hope that eventually I won't have to use makeup at all.

When it comes to answering the door... That would heavily depend who's on the other side.

I would want to be able to pass without makeup. I don't like the looks of it. Natural is better.

Quote from: Misha on August 02, 2014, 09:13:09 PM
I'm so looking for that moment as I use only a tiny bit of makeup to cover gray spots from remnants of facial hair. There's a period between my laser sessions when it's not needed which is getting longer and longer so I hope that eventually I won't have to use makeup at all.

When it comes to answering the door... That would heavily depend who's on the other side.

YES I love that time period of no shadow! I'm goin in for my 6th session I think and might be the last one on Monday.

I pass without makeup. So why not? ;D

Misha : Good point! I did indeed slather on foundation like crazy until the facial hair was gone. :) It's SUCH a relief that it is - and even better, a clear-skinned hairless face without makeup is a strong signal of femininity, I've discovered.

yep it most definitely is

well to be honest I wouldn't even answer it with make up on haha, I'm in my first month on HRT and I've been looking and feeling like ->-bleeped-<-, i have acne all over my face, although my doctor said its temporary, I've been having very aggressive mood swings and I find myself crying or laughing over the stupidest things. Fortunately I don't study or work right now, and my parents support me and my transition, so I think I'll have to wait until I'm over this hormonal monster phase so I can go out and have a social life again. :/

I don't generally do make up. It's not a job requirement, nor something I feel I need. So it's a low priority special occasion thing. My profile pic is post surgery, obviously no makeup.

I don't let anybody see me without makeup.  This is because without it I look like Frankenstein.  With it I look like Penelope Cruz.  (I'm joking about half of this.)

Without makeup i look like a man. So i do need it even for bringing out the waste ...

I don't even care

a)Make up is expensive

b) There is no biggest pleasure for me than having a clean face

c) The only persons that knock at my door are delivery boys I'll never see in a long long time.

The worst part was when I was caught in the middle by the old guy that checks the water counters once very three months. I was dressed, I had my makeup donde, but my hair pulled away showing my male hairline before putting the bangs extension.

I really don't care. In fact, I never put makeup for small movements in-town and go with my oldest clothes. Grocery shoppings, drawing money for the ATM...

Sure, why not? I have no problem with it. 75% of the time I go out without a stitch of makeup on. I've been passing with or without it for years now. And in this Florida heat and humidity a clear face just feels better, and cooler.

Ali :icon_flower:

Quote from: Urban Christina on August 02, 2014, 05:49:35 PM
I'm pet-sitting at my boss' up in the mountains. Yesterday a neighbor approached me with his shotgun. He said he wanted to make sure I was safe and that no other vehicle was here because his dogs barked when I passed. I was in my work scrubs and had makeup on.

Today he knocked but I refused to answer because I look like a man without makeup and flat, short hair. I texted him I was in the tub to sway him away. Awkward. I felt so bad afterward because he seemed very nice and is just protective of his neighbors. He said he knocked to apologize if he scared me with his gun last night. My coworkers happen to know him and say although he's an ex-Military sharp shooter, he's a good redneck.

But I don't think he knows I'm trans and even that he seems like a good guy, I'm not risking to meet his gun.

Just wondering if some of you are like me and won't answer a door without dolling up some...

First off Christina, you look like Taylor Swift and I absolutely hate country music. I really hated saying that since I am a metal girl all the way. :embarrassed: If that is you centered in your avatar I really don't think you have too much to worry about with our without makeup.

Yes I have ordered pizza and have had to come to the door without makeup, wet hair and wearing short shorts and tank tops. Who cares? Have you ever seen a lot of cis women especially all the "Hollywood Beauties" without makeup? Trans women any day would beat them in the beauty department without makeup. Some of these "Hollywood beauties" that all the guys go ga ga over are just plain hideous. Sometimes you just got to. Any woman looks better with makeup, that's why the good lord gave us the intelligence to create it ;D but don't let it define you. Good god Cameron Diaz without makeup? Bad skin and all. I have a funny feeling you wouldn't be as bad as her without makeup. Besides it's way more about confidence and the air of femininity than anything else.

I never wear make up. It's too expensive and I just think it's stupid. I'm not a girly girl by any stretch of the imagination.

Quote from: Laura Squirrel on August 21, 2014, 04:38:25 PM
I never wear make up. It's too expensive and I just think it's stupid. I'm not a girly girl by any stretch of the imagination.

Really? OMG. You look like a girly girl I can only imagine Laura Squirrel in makeup. :)

And Laura, thanx for Saturday with my little breakdown. :embarrassed:

Quote from: Jess42 on August 21, 2014, 04:49:31 PM
Really? OMG. You look like a girly girl I can only imagine Laura Squirrel in makeup. :)

And Laura, thanx for Saturday with my little breakdown. :embarrassed:

It's kind of weird that you say that. (Not saying that like I'm offended so don't take it that way. Unless my mind is just being weird at the moment...I don't know.) You HAVE seen my pic that's around here, right? If not I will pm it to you. I don't know...I consider myself to look pretty andro at times.

I don't even answer the door.  If someone in my neighborhood comes to my door that I'm not expecting, it's never anyone I'd want to speak to anyway.  Salespeople, real estate agents and JWs can all go f themselves.

Quote from: Jill F on August 21, 2014, 05:04:39 PM
I don't even answer the door.  If someone in my neighborhood comes to my door that I'm not expecting, it's never anyone I'd want to speak to anyway.  Salespeople, real estate agents and JWs can all go f themselves.

:D You meanie.

BUT I have to say, there was one day when I was pretty cruel. A guy from Comcast stopped by and was bugging me about signing up. I started to laugh at him and said "get the f--- out of here". Yeah, it was mean, but I hate that company. He knocked on the door across the hall and I opened the door and informed him that (while I was still laughing) that "no one lives there".

Yes, plenty of times. I don't worry about it, if I scare them off, fine too. 

Hey, makeup is actually a bit fun. I rediscovered it now an use a little bit of it for the eyes and it acutally does male me look a bit mor beautiful and a bit more fem. So it took me 12 years or so to figure out that it does not have to be like a mask :P ;)

Quote from: Laura Squirrel on August 21, 2014, 04:54:20 PM
It's kind of weird that you say that. (Not saying that like I'm offended so don't take it that way. Unless my mind is just being weird at the moment...I don't know.) You HAVE seen my pic that's around here, right? If not I will pm it to you. I don't know...I consider myself to look pretty andro at times.

I've seen your pic. I think you're very cute and pass as female 100% in my eyes. :)

Quote from: Pikachu on August 21, 2014, 05:20:04 PM
I've seen your pic. I think you're very cute and pass as female 100% in my eyes. :)

Thanks.

Quote from: Laura Squirrel on August 21, 2014, 04:54:20 PM
It's kind of weird that you say that. (Not saying that like I'm offended so don't take it that way. Unless my mind is just being weird at the moment...I don't know.) You HAVE seen my pic that's around here, right? If not I will pm it to you. I don't know...I consider myself to look pretty andro at times.

Yes, I have seen your pic hon. I fully agree with Pikachu. Except sometimes my eyes are straight and sometimes crooked but you pass.

BTW, remember when I was down on Saturday night. Thanx Laura.

Quote from: Jess42 on August 21, 2014, 10:33:10 PM
BTW, remember when I was down on Saturday night. Thanx Laura.

Right. My mind has been a tad fragmented from thinking about a ton of different things in the last couple of weeks.

Hi,

To me its about how to look stupid and a fool  so no i dont use makeup even though i did 2 years learning what was good and looked lovely  and  Health and Beauty with 7 other women , and what you see  in my photo is what every one see,s plus been interviewed for two TV stations Nation wide,

My facial features dont suit makeup and im better off with out it ,

the good thing is im very well known and why should i hide my face any away ,
any way Jos and our grandchild got down on what makeup i had  and i wont replace it , i travel over sea,s and seen by many 1000.s of people so i think its a bit late now to worry about how i look 

...noeleena...

Yes!  I would.  The only time I need to answer my door I have to drag my ass out of bed to sign for packages, so that kinda draws a line through makeup.  Oh, and the religious types probably could do with their world shaken up a little.

Quote from: Laura Squirrel on August 21, 2014, 10:40:15 PM
Right. My mind has been a tad fragmented from thinking about a ton of different things in the last couple of weeks.

Yeah. Unfortunately I know and you are cute. I just don't want to say that in case Portia Porcupine gets jealous. And I hate getting stuck with quills. Unless its getting stuck with the Quill my BF has. ;) Fragmented minds. OMG girl friend you want to talk about fragged minds and thinking. When people normally say," I have halfa' mind" and then whatever I say, "So what? I what, I grew up in the eighties and I only have half a mind left." that makes 'em think. ;) and me too. :o Oh well, I wouldn't change it for the world.  Actually I am listening to ACDC now, with a whole bottle of port wine left. Can we say all nighter? ;D

Quote from: Jess42 on August 21, 2014, 11:08:28 PM
Yeah. Unfortunately I know and you are cute. I just don't want to say that in case Portia Porcupine gets jealous.

:D :D :D

Quote from: Jess42 on August 21, 2014, 11:08:28 PMAnd I hate getting stuck with quills.

She has hair and not quills. How many times do I have to say this??

:D

Quote from: Laura Squirrel on August 21, 2014, 11:20:20 PM
:D :D :D

She has hair and not quills. How many times do I have to say this??

:D

Many times. I am drinking Port wine and the Portuguese  has the best. ACDC and Port wine? OMG, haven't you ever seen the movie, Mystic Pizza. Julia Robert's character was modeled after my real life I think. Or at least it seems. Wild girl, wild hair?  Someone should have paid me for that character.??? Except instead of Connecticut, Redneck Arkansas. Yeah but how much Gel or Mouse does Portia use, Either/or could be painful ;D I know. I have to use a lot of gel to tame mine and when it hardens I could use them as quills. ;D

I might have seen Mystic Pizza. I don't know for sure, but I have heard of it. I don't drink anymore. The Quetiapine that I am taking makes booze a no-no now.

Quote from: Laura Squirrel on August 22, 2014, 12:00:36 AM
I might have seen Mystic Pizza. I don't know for sure, but I have heard of it. I don't drink anymore. The Quetiapine that I am taking makes booze a no-no now.

Please do not drink but all I go to say is alcohol may intensify the effects. But I just really don't care about me. Sorry hon but no don't don't din on that one but Quetiapine  is an anti psychotic right? Never nix drugs, alcohol, THC or anything prescribed. That's all I will say about that. Just be carefull.