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I just don't know what to say! But im mostly just scared of her reaction, i wanted to tell her in person when she was here a couple nights ago, but she had car trouble and could not come in. But i did tell her i had something important to tell her, and now she's freaking out thinking im sick and wanting to know. But im so scared. My gf also talked to her about what she would think if one of her kids were trans, she said she would still love them but be disappointed. She told me whatever it is she will do anything in her power to help, but im just so nervous. But now she knows something is wrong but i can't bring up the courage to call her!!

Hey WhiteFyre, you're taking a very big step here and are very brave for doing so. It is very scary and I know this feeling all too well but how will you ever know what she thinks if you don't tell her? You'll thank yourself in the future for doing it now and the relief will be huge. I see no reason why someone would be disappointed in their child for being trans or anything else for that matter. No one chooses this and there's absolutely nothing wrong with being trans at all. You have the support of your girlfriend it seems which is really great (and you have us, of course). Don't go into this expecting anything or you'll set yourself up for disappointment. Take things as they are and let it be. Even if she doesn't accept it now there's always a chance she'll come around so try not to worry too much. I know you can do this, good luck! Don't let those nerves get the best of you! :)

Wish you the best. Sometimes reality are not what we feared.

Hugs

Thanks for the replys, its encouraging me alot. I just tryed calling her, but she did not answer, so il try again or just do it tomorrow. Im still really nervous, but thanks.

Happy to help! I hope it goes well, what you're feeling is completely normal. :)

I came out to someone who I thought would not accept it at all and had no hope towards but it turned out okay. This person still isn't that supportive or anything but it's still loads better than what I had in mind.

Just told her, and it went very very well, she accepts it, and is going to start helping me get a therapist tomorrow!  :D she did start crying, but it wasn't because she was upset at me, she was crying because iv had to deal with this so long without help. But i feel so much better" thanks for the help again  :)

I am so glad it went well for you!  :)

Thank you! Shes being very understanding, has been looking into it on the net, and wants to help me.

Quote from: WhiteFyre on August 05, 2014, 01:11:56 AM
Just told her, and it went very very well, she accepts it, and is going to start helping me get a therapist tomorrow!  :D she did start crying, but it wasn't because she was upset at me, she was crying because iv had to deal with this so long without help. But i feel so much better" thanks for the help again  :)

:D I'm so happy for you!  Moms are pretty awesome like that aren't they? 

I was so nervous about telling mine too, and I did about the same thing you did:  told her beforehand that there was something I needed to tell her.  It was a way of stopping myself from putting it off any longer.  It worked!

I'm so glad things went well for you.

That is fantastic! Sounds like you have a wonderful support base.

Glad your fears where un warranted.

Hugs

Thanks again everyone, i feel so much better. And everyone i want to know now knows. Shes already looking for a therapist!

WONDERFUL!!!
You are lucky to have family that is supportive. Makes everything much better! Keep us posted and good luck with the therapist

I'm glad it went well for you!

Mine wasn't scary, I knew all along that I would be rejected by "family"

congrats

I'm so happy for you WhiteFyre! I'm glad everything went well, that's really great! She seems very supportive and taking her own initiative to understand it more. Good on you for beating those nerves and I hope therapy goes well. :)

Thank you Vallerie and everyone else  :) your words gave me so much couragement!

Quote from: WhiteFyre on August 05, 2014, 01:11:56 AM
Just told her, and it went very very well, she accepts it, and is going to start helping me get a therapist tomorrow!  :D she did start crying, but it wasn't because she was upset at me, she was crying because iv had to deal with this so long without help. But i feel so much better" thanks for the help again  :)

Well that's just about as good a coming out as you could hope for.

I wish my mom was still around to talk to about this.  I think her reaction would have been similar.  She always did want a daughter...she just didn't know she had one.  ;)