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Title: Unsure how to look more gender neutral?
Post by: cal on August 04, 2014, 09:35:13 PM
Post by: cal on August 04, 2014, 09:35:13 PM
hey! i've recently come out as gender queer, but i'm afraid that people won't take me seriously as i still look very feminine.
i've invested in a chest binder, and currently i'm not brave enough to cut my hair short (as i've only just started transitioning socially) so i was wondering whether any of have any fashion, makeup, etc tips that could make me look less feminine? also any workouts which would make me less curvy :) thanks!
i've invested in a chest binder, and currently i'm not brave enough to cut my hair short (as i've only just started transitioning socially) so i was wondering whether any of have any fashion, makeup, etc tips that could make me look less feminine? also any workouts which would make me less curvy :) thanks!
Title: Re: Unsure how to look more gender neutral?
Post by: mrs izzy on August 04, 2014, 09:44:20 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on August 04, 2014, 09:44:20 PM
Welcome to Susan's Cal,
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I am sure one of the men will be around and give you some help.
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Title: Re: Unsure how to look more gender neutral?
Post by: Valleyrie on August 04, 2014, 11:07:46 PM
Post by: Valleyrie on August 04, 2014, 11:07:46 PM
Hey cal! :)
I'd guess no make-up and maybe some baggy clothing that doesn't accentuate your curves. Try wearing things that aren't made for women, you could even try hats I guess. Anything uni-sex could work too. I think that'd give you a more gender neutral look that you're going for. Obviously getting your hair cut short would probably be the biggest help but do it once you're ready. :) I'd love to help more but I'm quite clueless in this area sorry.
I'd guess no make-up and maybe some baggy clothing that doesn't accentuate your curves. Try wearing things that aren't made for women, you could even try hats I guess. Anything uni-sex could work too. I think that'd give you a more gender neutral look that you're going for. Obviously getting your hair cut short would probably be the biggest help but do it once you're ready. :) I'd love to help more but I'm quite clueless in this area sorry.
Title: Re: Unsure how to look more gender neutral?
Post by: EchelonHunt on August 05, 2014, 04:36:38 AM
Post by: EchelonHunt on August 05, 2014, 04:36:38 AM
Valleyrie has made good suggestions, just want to chime in with a few of my own!
You can use make-up to contour your features to look more masculine. Dabbing a bit of concealer on your lips to make them pale also helps. YouTube has plenty of make-up videos! Just type Female-to-Male make-up, FTM Make up or even what I typed, Masculine make up and you'll get tons of videos ^-^ If you want to look gender-neutral, just omit the stubble part that they may do in the videos or if you like, make the contouring more subtle.
Wearing baggy clothes will definitely help as anything form-fitting will give away your curves. There isn't anything work-out related that will lessen your curves per-say but if you are already at a healthy weight, doing strength training can help to tone your body overall. If curves really bother you and you'd consider surgery as an option, there is a Mansculpture technique where a surgeon uses liposuction to shift your fat from/to different areas to create a masculine body figure; however, I don't know if they do it as a stand-alone option, it sounds like they will only do it if you get top surgery as well since it's cheaper to get both done at once than separately.
You can use make-up to contour your features to look more masculine. Dabbing a bit of concealer on your lips to make them pale also helps. YouTube has plenty of make-up videos! Just type Female-to-Male make-up, FTM Make up or even what I typed, Masculine make up and you'll get tons of videos ^-^ If you want to look gender-neutral, just omit the stubble part that they may do in the videos or if you like, make the contouring more subtle.
Wearing baggy clothes will definitely help as anything form-fitting will give away your curves. There isn't anything work-out related that will lessen your curves per-say but if you are already at a healthy weight, doing strength training can help to tone your body overall. If curves really bother you and you'd consider surgery as an option, there is a Mansculpture technique where a surgeon uses liposuction to shift your fat from/to different areas to create a masculine body figure; however, I don't know if they do it as a stand-alone option, it sounds like they will only do it if you get top surgery as well since it's cheaper to get both done at once than separately.