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Ok here is the MTF chance to show where you are in your relationship status.

No pressure just i love demographics and wanting to see where the community is.

You can change you vote at any time if your status changes.

Comments welcome

Single for more than 11 years. Never really been much into relationships - I like women, but cis hetro women want to be in a relationship with a cis hetro guy so inevitably it works for neither if us. Maybe once my transition has settled down I'll think about getting into a relationship. I think I'd prefer female but I'm open to changing my mind if I find the right kind of guy. I have to say I find the idea more appealing than I did this time last year.

I personally would like to meet a cis male who would accept me and love me for who I really am. I suppose this means I will be alone the rest of my life. I knew the cost of transition, but a girl likes to dream.  :(

Single, divorced and other. Wherever true love comes from cis, trans, gay, straight or from the Andromeda Galaxy, I don't care as long as it's true love and not all the fake crap.

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on August 08, 2014, 11:26:24 PM
I personally would like to meet a cis male who would accept me and love me for who I really am. I suppose this means I will be alone the rest of my life. I knew the cost of transition, but a girl likes to dream.  :(

Look for the little green men with a big.... like me Jessica. ;D Hell you'd be a catch for anyone with your attitude.

I am still technically married but have been separated from her for 14 months and have no plans to find anyone any time soon.

Happily married to my wife for 28 years as of June. She is a staunch fundamentalist Christian and loves me exactly how i am. I feel so very fortunate and know the odds of our marriage surviving my change with someone with her credentials would be similiar finding a unicorn.  When ppl tell her "you poor thing" she defends me and says how much she loves me.

Have been single for most of my life until last year. I had my first real relationship but realized I wasn't ready for that yet so we had a mutual break up. Idk I feel ready now again that I'm in a better head space mentally but that's just probably because I'm so lonely these days.

Quote from: Jess42 on August 08, 2014, 11:30:36 PM
Hell you'd be a catch for anyone with your attitude.

Thanks Jess, but sadly most I have met just can't accept me being trans. I am not trying to be defeatist, just realistic. Must be the Paramedic in me always dealing with real life and how things are out there.  :(

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on August 09, 2014, 12:09:57 AM
Thanks Jess, but sadly most I have met just can't accept me being trans. I am not trying to be defeatist, just realistic. Must be the Paramedic in me always dealing with real life and how things are out there.  :(

Oh hell sis, if I was still driving cross country I would stop and pick you up and we would go to LA. Guaran-freakin'-teed we could find a couple of rich good looking guys out there. Maybe even stay out there with them. ;) As long as they are rich who cares about looks? ;D Sorry, I bet I'm gonna' be moderated now huh? ;D

Quote from: Jess42 on August 09, 2014, 12:34:39 AM
Sorry, I bet I'm gonna' be moderated now huh? ;D

Too tired to see the BAN button right now!  ;D Your safe! *giggles* :)

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on August 09, 2014, 12:36:11 AM
Too tired to see the BAN button right now!  ;D Your safe! *giggles* :)

Oh c'mon sis I got The Doors going and half a bottle of Arbor Mist. God I love Jim Morrison. ;)

I don't really want to select, because I am divorced and open to dating women, trans or cis. This poll only allows one option and separates the two.

I wish this poll allowed multiple selections. I'd be willing to date someone of either gender, whether cis or trans, though I'm generally more interested in women.

You met my mtf wife so  ;D

Single I have no interest in coitus as a male (not sure about as a female)

Single and staying that way forever...as I doubt I will ever meet anyone that could love me or put up with me.

All my relationships have been with MTFs. I guess that's what happens when you only socialize with other trans people.

I'm divorced, but that happened a while ago before I was out as MtF. I've since preferred dating men, but that's complicated right now. My boyfriend and I split up a year ago, then got back together recently. Since he's gay (bi technically, but leaning heavily to one side on the scale), I kinda warned him then that I was coming out as trans. He decided to go for it anyways... until he figured out that I was serious. So I'm single again and not looking for any relationship. I don't think anyone here would be too willing to date me right now and I don't have the time to deal with that. I'd rather focus on myself.

What a great post! It is truly wonderful to see that many have stayed married after transition. :)

  I'm single and hoping to date a cis female (lesbian or queer, whatever turns out compatible).  Being in the middle of transition I'm not actively seeking anyone right now and I don't think there's a good chance of it happening in any meaningful way until I progress enough.

  Now that I've been immersed in the trans community I've run into one really frustrating thing - I'm seriously attracted to pre-transition FTMs.  I often find they are very beautiful and have great personalities.  Unfortunately most elements of their physical transition put me off even though I still think they're good people.  This at least would help define the kind of female I'd feel most comfortable with and what side of the dynamic I'd land on.  I still find 'typical' femininity attractive but it never seems to come paired with the right personality.

  That said, I'm not really leaving anything out of consideration except for cis men, but I've thought about it enough to be pretty certain of my 'target market'.  One thing I absolutely need is someone who is an equal or more dominant character and who doesn't abuse their power if they are dominant.  I'm absolutely sick of people throughout this world being bizarrely nasty to others and expecting to be rewarded for it.  There are some special people out they who are non-confrontational and just genuinely nice and it is my challenge to find them in whatever form they take.

I had to pick "Other"


I'm married to a FAAB Gender Fluid Woman. (She has no desire to transition)

Divorced my second spouse in "93 and haven't bothered since. I'm not much of a catch anyway and even the thought of dating or physical contact of an intimate nature scares the hell out of me these days.

Quote from: Jess42 on August 09, 2014, 12:34:39 AM
Oh hell sis, if I was still driving cross country I would stop and pick you up and we would go to LA. Guaran-freakin'-teed we could find a couple of rich good looking guys out there. Maybe even stay out there with them. ;) As long as they are rich who cares about looks? ;D Sorry, I bet I'm gonna' be moderated now huh? ;D

Come on down!  I have a guest room...

As most of you probably know, I've been married to a ciswoman for over 20 years.  If I wasn't, I'd be open to having a relationship with anyone who was awesome.  Anything goes in my world.

I chose Married to Cis Female.   As I begin to move more seriously into transition I hope that I can continue to say the same.  My wife is a conservative fundamentalist Christian and sees transition as sinful.   She doesn't want to talk about it either.   

I am not looking forward to the upcoming talk about my needing to move forward with transitioning...

I'm married to a non-binary (=non-cis) female-assigned person. :) We were married long before transition and are even more happily so after.

Single

(I don't think that Portia would count. :D)

Quote from: Laura Squirrel on August 09, 2014, 07:21:47 PM
Single

(I don't think that Portia would count. :D)

That would count if you were plushysexual.

Quote from: Jaime R D on August 09, 2014, 08:14:03 PM
That would count if you were plushysexual.

:D

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9CdVTCDdEwI

Or if I could somehow live in that animated anthro world.

(No, I'm not doing drugs again....HONEST!)

Still many out there with not votes.

Starting to see a trend that i really did not expect to see.

Hmm interesting.

There are actually 3-5 options I would select but I could only select one, so I went with the one I feel is the most accurate to me. Forever single(though not by choice really).

Married 45 years to my cis female sweetheart and staying that way. Two former MtF friends tried to apply the wrecking ball to our marriage, it ain't gonna happen, they're gone and good riddance!  :icon_ballbounce:

I've been married to the same lovely cisfemale for 8 years, but it's an open marriage and I also have a lovely cisfemale girlfriend of about 1 year. Life is good! :laugh:

Single and pan. It would be nice to have a relation, but I don't see it as a life goal. I just want to have a happy and productive life and being able to share that with someone would be the cherry on top. It would be nice to get married though, if only for the dress  ::)

Quote from: PurpleCrown on August 10, 2014, 09:23:34 PM
Single and pan. It would be nice to have a relation, but I don't see it as a life goal. I just want to have a happy and productive life and being able to share that with someone would be the cherry on top. It would be nice to get married though, if only for the dress  ::)

never count out anything.

I though after my divorce i would be alone. Just a year later was remarried so as i said.

Transitioned/SRS at 24, married (straight male) at 26 - absolute disaster. Married again at 30 - lasted 13 years. Been single since (20+ years).

Don't believe in "love" any more. It's just me and my dog and will be that way to the end. Thank gawd for a multitude of friends I love dearly.

I just wanted to say to the two MTFs who said they were single and seeking other MTFs over cis women, I think you're super awesome. It made me smile to see that.

Quote from: Pikachu on August 11, 2014, 09:25:47 AM
I just wanted to say to the two MTFs who said they were single and seeking other MTFs over cis women, I think you're super awesome. It made me smile to see that.

I had to click other because I couldn't choose between mtf and ciswoman because I like women regardless of birth or current equipment. I wish that had been an option.

Quote from: Hikari on August 11, 2014, 09:37:05 AM
I had to click other because I couldn't choose between mtf and ciswoman because I like women regardless of birth or current equipment. I wish that had been an option.

You're awesome, too, Hikari. I feel the same way. I'm attracted to femininity, and femininity comes from within. It doesn't matter what's between someone's legs.

I'd be quite happy to be a heterosexual woman once the snipping and tucking is done :D

Was married to a woman, and I could consider another relationship with a woman, but truly I'd prefer a guy.

Quote from: Jill F on August 09, 2014, 06:26:29 PM
Come on down!  I have a guest room...

As most of you probably know, I've been married to a ciswoman for over 20 years.  If I wasn't, I'd be open to having a relationship with anyone who was awesome.  Anything goes in my world.

Don't think I wouldn't if I was still driving cross country. ;) I remember how all the drivers used to hate California and I spent more time in that state than my home state from the LA are all the way up to Ukiah, Fortuna and Eureka on 101. I loved it, got inspected more out there than anywhere else and that was a pain but still loved it though. I was out there so much that I got to where I could go down the Grapevine with my eyes closed. Empty out on Thursday or Friday morning and dead head to the Eureka area for redwood and go right back east with it. That is what I miss the most about driving. :( Then I think about picking up in LA on Friday afternoon and having to be on the East coast on Monday morning. Then I don't miss it quite as much.

Quote from: Pikachu on August 11, 2014, 09:25:47 AM
I just wanted to say to the two MTFs who said they were single and seeking other MTFs over cis women, I think you're super awesome. It made me smile to see that.

Tyvm for your support.

Community is truly full of some great people.

I am just a little surprised that the ftm categories are passed on wanted relationships.

Hmm interesting.

Quote from: Pikachu on August 09, 2014, 09:35:03 AM
All my relationships have been with MTFs. I guess that's what happens when you only socialize with other trans people.

As an afterthought about something I've said some time back in a different thread, if I suddenly found myself single I'd prefer an MtF partner over cis as long as she was not a drama queen and her head is screwed on properly. As it is I seem to attract some of the nuttiest people without even trying. My reasoning would be based on the fact that given the right person, we would have a lot in common on many levels as I am now I am pretty sure no cis woman would be very interested anyway.

I am happily married to cis-female and we have 8 months old child. She is amazing person and supportive of my transition and I hope we will stay together forever and remain a happy family.

I was in a relationship with my partner for three years, i came out as trans, and a year later she realised she was a lesbian.  Ha!  it is like a badly written script in a daytime soap opera.

Single. And have no idea who I'd want to be with. A little attraction towards male or female, across any spectrum could lead me pretty much anywhere. Just a matter of when that person comes along that I open up and not push them away and if we click, like fall in love, well then, perhaps that will be the one I spend the rest of my life with.

I always felt that meeting a FtM would be a really good match because we BOTH know "the lay of the land" and can appreciate the struggles the other has faced. I have been around an awfully long time and the only FtM I ever met was the very first TS I met back in 1963. Oh, we had it all figured out back then - all we needed was a body swap LOL!

came out to wife 2 months ago feared the worst to loose her and the kids .
To my suprise got full support and love from her.
Has really made my transition that bit easier.
Love you babe xx

I voted other because at the moment its all up in the air really and is the reason why.  Just starting really call it therapist phase not on hrt either.  The but part is sexually attracted to males but more feel closer emotionally to a female which I hear is not that odd for MTF.  In the future perhaps it will be a CIS male, FTM or who knows at this point I sure don't.  Maybe none of that I have mentioned either I have been sadly dateless all my life but I feel I will open up in many ways if I transition so where that leads only time will tell.

Sadly, I'm single.  I'd love to start dating as I really want a relationship, but I'm scared and still not living fulltime.  In terms of relationships, I'm really only interested in pursing one with a man. 

Quote from: jamienicoled on August 14, 2014, 11:05:33 AM
I've been with my beautiful wife for over 28 years. We have 3 handsome boys, a lovely daughter-in-law and three darling grand-kiddos! I remarried my bride last year on the beach in NC ...it was a moment in time filled with so much love, I though my heart was going to explode...lol
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So beautiful the both of you and that's what real commitment is all about!  :eusa_clap: :icon_bunch:

Quote from: jamienicoled on August 14, 2014, 11:05:33 AM
I've been with my beautiful wife for over 28 years. We have 3 handsome boys, a lovely daughter-in-law and three darling grand-kiddos! I remarried my bride last year on the beach in NC ...it was a moment in time filled with so much love, I though my heart was going to explode...lol
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My god, have ya'll ever been in Florida? What did the two of you do, find the famed Fountain of Youth Ponce Deleon was looking for? Please let me know where it's at? Seriously though, I wish we could all be so lucky.

Quote from: jamienicoled on August 14, 2014, 11:05:33 AM
I've been with my beautiful wife for over 28 years. We have 3 handsome boys, a lovely daughter-in-law and three darling grand-kiddos! I remarried my bride last year on the beach in NC ...it was a moment in time filled with so much love, I though my heart was going to explode...lol
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So wonderful beautiful couple.

I also married my husband on the beach in Delaware
As you unforgettable moment

"Other", since I have 2 choices:

1. Single, want to date cis males
2. Single, want to date ftms.

The odd part for me is I still find girls more attractive than boys... But I am not gay/lesbian.

Yay for 250 posts.

I am fortunate enough to have been married to my darling for 40 years.  Our long term marriage has been customized to allow significant personal growth and freedom.  I expect we will likely stay together till the end.  Our shared love, romance, and intimacy are well worth our mutual efforts to continue.

Other for me as well.

Single and want to date someone presenting female. (Or possibly also male but not sure yet)

In a relationship with a cis male for 10 months and living together :-)  I love him

Currently married to a cis female, but don't know for how much longer as things seem to look worse day by day as far as a romantic relationship goes. She will always be a loving supportive friend.

I'm in a relationship. My girlfriend, and I have been together for a few years. She was the first person I came out to, way before anyone else. I've been transitioning now for a few months. She's just gotten out of college, and we're going to move in together soon! I'm super excited about it!!!

I'm single & not dating any men at present. I'm a hetrosexual woman inside & only attracted to men. I've been in several relationships in the past however being pre op always made things so uncomfortable. I've always needed & wanted to complete my GRS, heal up then finally enjoy dating men again to maybe find a nice man. I love being with a strong man.

I had to update my vote to dating a cis male. We're back together again because he realized he liked me and not just my gender. He's still struggling a little with it, so I'm going easy on him and letting him take his time.

Sorry I won't reply to polls that parse out cis or trans.

Quote from: Pikachu on August 11, 2014, 09:25:47 AM
I just wanted to say to the two MTFs who said they were single and seeking other MTFs over cis women, I think you're super awesome. It made me smile to see that.

Does it really matte Pikachu. Lesbian, straight, cis ,trans or gay, sometime love knocks us "stupid" or just blind sides us. there is one thing that I have earned all my years on this planet and that is to keep the heart, No. 1 open and the mind, No.2 open. And that love will always find a way. And No.3 if one doesn't work, it wasn't meant to be and true love is always around the corner. Yeah I know I am a sappy hopeless romantic. :P

I'm fresh off a divorce from a 27 year marriage and am squarely in the middle of a transition/figuring out who I am.  Right now I am not ready to date anyone, and I am not quite sure who I would be interested in dating anyway.

If pressed I would classify myself as interested in women, but a cute FTM would be an interesting possibility. In fact, I am very good friends with a FTM that is fresh out of a relationship but he hasn't made any moves whatsoever - I think I have been slotted into the friend category with him - which is ok, we still have fun hanging out.

I'm resigned to the fact that as a pre-op trans woman I have a very small chance of meeting or dating anyone other than someone that would be interested in me for the wrong reasons, and I am not interested in going there.

Quote from: Jess42 on August 31, 2014, 11:34:53 PM
Does it really matte Pikachu. Lesbian, straight, cis ,trans or gay, sometime love knocks us "stupid" or just blind sides us. there is one thing that I have earned all my years on this planet and that is to keep the heart, No. 1 open and the mind, No.2 open. And that love will always find a way. And No.3 if one doesn't work, it wasn't meant to be and true love is always around the corner. Yeah I know I am a sappy hopeless romantic. :P

I just found it interesting. Personally, the times I've been single, I wasn't seeking any sort of relationship. I've always been the type to just wait and see what connections naturally develop between those around me rather than date/actively seek out partners. I think things work out far better with this approach, but that's just my opinion, obviously.

I picked 'other' as there really wasn't a bi option :) Cis isn't really a priority either... Yup, there should be a bi option, hehe...

I had to choose "Other" as well. Though I'm lesbian and only attracted physically to other girls be they trans or cis it doesn't matter to me, I just want to be loved. I've gone so so long without being loved most of you would say I'm pathetic.

So at this point in my life if, and this is a really big if peeps, someone were to come along who truly just loved me for me as a person, not for my looks, not just because I'm IS, not just because I'm trans, and especially not for what I could do for them or give them, but loved me just because I'm me, I wouldn't care whether they be male or female, trans or cis, or anything in between. I'm so so lonely and I'm about to turn 50 next month, so alone I just wanna cry. :icon_cry:

Ali :icon_cry:

Quote from: Allyda on September 01, 2014, 04:54:14 PM
I had to choose "Other" as well. Though I'm lesbian and only attracted physically to other girls be they trans or cis it doesn't matter to me, I just want to be loved. I've gone so so long without being loved most of you would say I'm pathetic.

So at this point in my life if, and this is a really big if peeps, someone were to come along who truly just loved me for me as a person, not for my looks, not just because I'm IS, not just because I'm trans, and especially not for what I could do for them or give them, but loved me just because I'm me, I wouldn't care whether they be male or female, trans or cis, or anything in between. I'm so so lonely and I'm about to turn 50 next month, so alone I just wanna cry. :icon_cry:

Ali :icon_cry:

Ally, you have one of the sweetest, most beautiful personalities of anyone I've met. You'll definitely find someone who loves you for you.

*hugs*

Please don't cry.

Quote from: Pikachu on September 01, 2014, 05:48:03 AM
I just found it interesting. Personally, the times I've been single, I wasn't seeking any sort of relationship. I've always been the type to just wait and see what connections naturally develop between those around me rather than date/actively seek out partners. I think things work out far better with this approach, but that's just my opinion, obviously.

That's just it. When you are least expecting it that is when it seems to happen. Actively looking and searching never seems to lead anywhere or for me it don't anyway. The most meaningful relationships that I have had were the ones that snuck up on me while not even looking.

Quote from: Jess42 on September 02, 2014, 11:08:33 AM
That's just it. When you are least expecting it that is when it seems to happen. Actively looking and searching never seems to lead anywhere or for me it don't anyway. The most meaningful relationships that I have had were the ones that snuck up on me while not even looking.

That's because when you are actively looking you are sending out signals, those that might be interested can be put off by it and get the impression that you're some kind of a horn dawg. When you're not looking then you appear more interesting and then there's always the question that arises "Why is this person so seemingly so not interested in me? Then they proceed to initiate things.
"Funny how those dynamics work!

Quote from: Shantel on September 02, 2014, 11:26:14 AM
That's because when you are actively looking you are sending out signals, those that might be interested can be put off by it and get the impression that you're some kind of a horn dawg. When you're not looking then you appear more interesting and then there's always the question that arises "Why is this person so seemingly so not interested in me? Then they proceed to initiate things.
"Funny how those dynamics work!

You ain't lyin' about that. It does seem like the less interested you are the more interesting you become to someone else.

Quote from: Pikachu on August 11, 2014, 09:25:47 AM
I just wanted to say to the two MTFs who said they were single and seeking other MTFs over cis women, I think you're super awesome. It made me smile to see that.

aww shucks thanks!! one of them is me!  ;D

The more I think about being in a relationship with someone the more I see myself being happier with someone who truly understands my situation and plus I love women so it feels ideal for me. Idk though being a fem gay gal makes it tough enough trying to find a cis woman to be with so I don't think my chances of finding a trans woman is any better, more than likely harder since there aren't many of us to begin with. Who knows  I remain hopeful.

@Pikachu: Thanks sweetie. I'll try not to, but when my 50th birthday rolls around at the end of next month I won't be able to help myself.

@Jess42: I truly wish I had your optimism. Believe me I'm not actively looking for romance, and haven't been for quite a while for I know I can't be intimate with anyone until after my SRS. It's just after all these years and the few times I have let opened my heart to someone who came along, it get's crushed into tiny pieces one way or another. I'm just tired of the hurt. Yea I used to believe there was someone out there for everybody, but not anymore. I've lost all hope.

Ally :icon_flower:

WOW No "Married to Cis Male" at all (among a couple other categorys) whereas "married heterosexual MtF" seems to clearly be in the cultural majority  8)

MODS, is this poll "What is your sexual orientation?"  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,14719.0.html) still active??  (classic Nero question!)


^UP  ;)

Wow! I'm actually very surprised at the number of mtf who are married to woman! I had no idea me being attracted to cis hetero men was out of the ordinary hahaha

I definitely fall into the other category :P
Im pansexual so I don't have a preference on who I date, so long as they love me for me.
Also Im single

Still single, though if I am interpreting things correctly, there is an online friend that seems to be hinting that that could change in the future.

Quote from: Charley Bea(EmeraldP) on November 06, 2014, 10:23:17 AM
Still single, though if I am interpreting things correctly, there is an online friend that seems to be hinting that that could change in the future.

Well, woohoo!

Don't get your hopes up Devlyn XD

Probably nothing will come of it, like I said I am not sure I am interpreting them correctly,  also not sure if they are saying/hinting it just to cheer me up or make me feel better about myself. There is also a significant age gap of which while it doesn't bother them(or me too much) I worry about what others will think, especially when we meet in person.

Quote from: Charley Bea(EmeraldP) on November 06, 2014, 10:53:05 AM
Don't get your hopes up Devlyn XD

Probably nothing will come of it, like I said I am not sure I am interpreting them correctly,  also not sure if they are saying/hinting it just to cheer me up or make me feel better about myself. There is also a significant age gap of which while it doesn't bother them(or me too much) I worry about what others will think, especially when we meet in person.

Screw what anybody thinks! If it's in the cards, it's in the cards.

But I know people judge gapped relationships harshly and considering my looks would draw more attention than normal I am more concerned. Also don't want to ruin their life.

Quote from: Allyda on September 07, 2014, 05:38:22 PM

@Jess42: I truly wish I had your optimism. Believe me I'm not actively looking for romance, and haven't been for quite a while for I know I can't be intimate with anyone until after my SRS. It's just after all these years and the few times I have let opened my heart to someone who came along, it get's crushed into tiny pieces one way or another. I'm just tired of the hurt. Yea I used to believe there was someone out there for everybody, but not anymore. I've lost all hope.

Ally :icon_flower:

True love don't really care. Optimism? In no way. Don't ever lose hope Ally. OMG heatbreaks? That hon is part of the game or an unfortunateley part of the love fiasco. It may take ten years to find true love. It may knock you on your butt tomorrow. That is the wierd part. But never underestimate the power of love. When it does happen, you will know it. And he or she won't care one way or the other. I don't want to sound like a slut but GD I don't care what anyone calls me or thinks of me even. Sticks and Stones. ::) But just have fun. You don't have to sleep with them, but flirting is fun. If they can;t tell when flirting or buying you drinks, sorry. Too bad for them. I don;t buy the "Springer" crap that they didn't know. But I would never drag them on Jerry Springer either. Their secret is safe with me. :-X Plus I would never ever in my life put a guy through that even if he was an A.... Butthole in the end. :-X

Married, 8 years.

Married for 17 years, been living the past 4 years as separated yet under the same roof. She is unsupportive and non-accepting and were only together because of our two tween age daughters and the financial mess we've put ourselves in.

The end is coming for our paper marriage at this point and I'll have to up date to divorced, but it am okay with that as I'll be able to move on with my transition and maybe someday find the woman of my dreams who'll accept me for who I am.

Single & alone. So frustrating! I wish all my GRS surgery was behind me so I could find a nice man to be with & enjoy life.

I get to update my answer ^_^ I'm in a relationship with a cis female. This is my first relationship with anyone ever so its quite nice to have someone after so many years alone. I didn't think I would be able to be with anyone until I had bottom surgery but I was wrong  :)

I've been with my husband for 7 years, and it keeps getting better :)

I am totally amazed at the make up of the post to date.

Seems cis still can accept more then many give them credit.

Keep updating or adding your vote

Wow I'm surprised by the stats. I mean good for you married ladies! Just didn't see that coming. Also it looks like we're more attracted to girls than to cis/trans guys in general, like, by three times more ;D single here...

Still single and hoping for my special someone to come into my life. No I'm not actively looking for her, I'm just hoping she'll come a long soon as I'm very lonely and have just about given up there is someone out there for me.

Ally :icon_flower:

FSAFA = Forever single and forever alone.

At least that is how I feel, not what I want.

I'd like to clarify my post up above: this is my first real life relationship ever. I would of edited the post but the time limit expired. The other relationship I was in that I mentioned in my first post was online/long distance and we never met in person..So its a bit tough for me to consider it a legit relationship, especially since it didn't last for too long.

Married to my cis-female wife for little over a year. I just came out to her last week, and she has been amazingly supportive so far.

So mine has changed now, I am dating another mtf.

Been with my girlfriend for a little over 4 years, she knows I'm on hrt now for 2 years running.[emoji41] Hopefully it will continue that way.

It's almost to dating cis male. He clearly is highly interested and with the level of communication back and forth this week it looks and feels like it's so close. I wasn't even actively searching. It just clearly dropped in my lap.
Mariah

Undatable spinster forever

I'm still recovering from my younger life

I am single right now, though I have a couple Cis female fwb. I would like to be able to find a cis woman to whom yo date but I am not too much in a hurry as I am working on my transition.

Single, single, single! The only way for me to go. Was in a 12 year relationship with a cis woman while in a strict male mode, but as soon as marriage was being brought up, forget it! I told her that if we ever got married we would be divorced within a year. The secret is to see the person once a week and talk on the phone also once a week. (Not on the same day). Worked for me. However, if we were still going out, no way would she appreciate what I am doing to become feminine.

I've been single since 2006.

I've never been in any relationship.  :icon_sadblinky:

I would prefer cis-women I guess, but I could go for a fellow MtF or even feminine non-binary person.

Quote from: Hikari on December 20, 2014, 01:30:29 PM
So mine has changed now, I am dating another mtf.

Congratulations Hikari! Maybe she is the one!

Happy Holidays! :icon_bunch:
Ally :icon_flower:

I put down other. I am currently single and mostly attracted to feminine or feminine leaning androgynous, cis or trans, but would consider otherwise for the correct person. That being said I am also perfectly content being single as I have most of my life.

 Yea I used to believe there was someone out there for everybody, but not anymore. I've lost all hope.

Ally :icon_flower:
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I agree with you, Ally. That is just another reason that I don't want any more relationships.

I haven't been in a relationship since my ex fiance left me December 2001. So about 13 years ago. Slightly before I came to terms with being trans I had my first date since my ex-fiance. I thought it went well. We seemed to get along. We kept in contact after the date. The weekend after that we couldn't get together because it was easter weekend and she was too busy. A couple of days before easter weekend she stopped talking to me. I didn't hear from her for like 2 weeks. There were tornadoes in the area and she just wanted to check in with me. Since she is a mother, I never expected to be her #1 priority, but the fact that it took a natural disaster to send me a text that takes less than a minute to send really bothered me. I sent a reply to her text, but I never heard from her again. Now I'm glad because she was straight and while she probably would have been ok with me being trans (she was very progressive), I don't think she would have wanted to date a woman. Since coming out, I've gotten a couple of hits on ok cupid, but none of those went anywhere. I feel like I'm screwed. I also have noticed that lesbians and cats are a thing, but I'm allergic. I think I'm doubly screwed. I can't tell you how many times I've found a seemingly perfect girl on ok cupid, only to find out she has cats. One of them was even interested in me until she found out I'm allergic.

@ Awilliams1701: It is true, lesbians love cats. I love cats, my girlfriend loves cats, every girl I talked to on OKcupid or Wing Ma'am loved cats.... I mean I dunno why either, but there seems to be like a seriously correlation there. I mean I know there have to be some of them that don't out there somewhere.

I've never been in a real relationship, just a few awkward dates... hopefully this year I'll feel more up to it.

Quote from: Hikari on December 30, 2014, 01:07:08 AM
@ Awilliams1701: It is true, lesbians love cats. I love cats, my girlfriend loves cats, every girl I talked to on OKcupid or Wing Ma'am loved cats.... I mean I dunno why either, but there seems to be like a seriously correlation there. I mean I know there have to be some of them that don't out there somewhere.

Agreed^^___^^. I'm lesbian and love cats, so much I have 4 of them. They fill a void in me no person ever can, and I love them dearly.

Ally ;)

Quote from: Hikari on December 30, 2014, 01:07:08 AM
@ Awilliams1701: It is true, lesbians love cats. I love cats, my girlfriend loves cats, every girl I talked to on OKcupid or Wing Ma'am loved cats.... I mean I dunno why either, but there seems to be like a seriously correlation there. I mean I know there have to be some of them that don't out there somewhere.

lol I tried wing ma'am too but it was way too buggy, constantly crashing. Yes its true, my gf has two cats and I have two cats. We lovee cats lolol  :laugh:

Blissfully single. After a 12 year cavalcade of relationships, I've now been single for just over a year and I'm loving it.

I don't think I've ever really had a chance to define myself as an adult outside of relationships and the last year has been very important to me.

This could almost be seen as the year Ally FINALLY grew up.

Almost. ;)

EDIT - Couldn't see the actual poll on my phone app, and my answer is other, meaning that I'm not really concerned what a prospective partner's gender status is, I'm attracted to a pretty broad range of people and whatever they are, if they rock my world, so be it! :D

Quote from: Lady_Oracle on December 30, 2014, 03:31:20 AM
lol I tried wing ma'am too but it was way too buggy, constantly crashing. Yes its true, my gf has two cats and I have two cats. We lovee cats lolol  :laugh:

Interestingly enough, that is where I met my current girlfriend, because the app said we lived in the same city and we didn't lol, so I see the bugs as a feature :)

I've been happily married for just over 20 years to my high school sweet heart. [emoji131] 

I finally came out to her this year and I've been working to transition ever since, albeit at a slow and steady pace. 

So far she's accepting of my transition speed and progress.  Like most wives she married a man and is not sure if she can stay once i fully transition.

One step at a time,  HRT next. [emoji68]

So I really am screwed.  >:( Stupid cats. Dogs are better! (plus I'm not allergic)

I have preferred dogs, myself. They are more dependent on us. I adopted mine, since she was abandoned and was found in the streets. she is a popular breed, too, so can't understand why she would have been abandoned!

I'm not sure what the story is with my dog. I know she managed to outwit the people trying to capture her for over a year before she ended up in a high rate kill shelter. The organization I got her from made her a priority because of this (they are no kill). Unfortunately no one wanted her because she turned out to be super aggressive. There was a lot of interest because she is a super beautiful dog. When I met her, she wasn't sure what to make of me. Part of her wanted to cuddle up to me and part of her wanted to tell me to get lost. They begged me to give her a chance since she hadn't reacted that well to anyone. So I did and after a rocky first day, we've gotten along really well ever since. She is terrified of a lot of things. She used to get set off by almost anything including basketballs, bicycles, running. In the 2 years I've had her, she's improved greatly. She still looses it too easy, but its not nearly as bad as it was.

Quote from: Stephanie2 on January 01, 2015, 10:25:22 AM
I have preferred dogs, myself. They are more dependent on us. I adopted mine, since she was abandoned and was found in the streets. she is a popular breed, too, so can't understand why she would have been abandoned!

I guess I'm lucky that I haven't found the love of my life, yet.  I've seen so many stories here of folks who are married and having to face the possibility that transitioning will also lead to losing their significant other, and I honestly don't think I could handle that sort of choice.  It'd kill me, and the strength so many of you show despite it all is amazing and inspiring.  Strength I wish I had, but also feel eternally grateful that I haven't needed, yet.

Sighs, I'm separating from my wife of 20 years. She see's me as the person who 'murdered' her husband...nice huh? lol

It is too bad you cannot select multiple options. I am divorced from a ciswoman and dating a cisman. 

Quote from: Allyda on December 23, 2014, 11:46:12 PM
Congratulations Hikari! Maybe she is the one!

Happy Holidays! :icon_bunch:
Ally :icon_flower:

Oh thanks, I don't think I noticed that before, I mean it is kinda nice dating someone who like gets what I am going thru and is willing to work around my limitations. I am hoping it works for us for the long run.

Other, because the option that would describe me is "single and don't even know what my own sexual orientation is."

Transition REALLY twisted things up in my head in terms of figuring out who I'd want to date. I'm now attracted to men, but still attracted to women, but not sure if my attraction toward women is just jealousy, but noticing that I can't really imagine being in a relationship with a man, but worries that dating a woman will make me feel too "mannish," and on top of all of that is still trying to figure out whether I want SRS or not, and can't even decide on which fantasy combination of my genitals and a partner's genitals feels the most "right" to me. Screw it. It's a complete and total mess, and I honestly have no freaking clue. :(

Quote from: Carrie Liz on January 12, 2015, 04:38:50 AM
I'm now attracted to men, but still attracted to women, but not sure if my attraction toward women is just jealousy, but noticing that I can't really imagine being in a relationship with a man, but worries that dating a woman will make me feel too "mannish," and on top of all of that is still trying to figure out whether I want SRS or not, and can't even decide on which fantasy combination of my genitals and a partner's genitals feels the most "right" to me.

I identify with you. It's scary. I've been exploring my feelings about my downstairs and sometimes I feel I can fantasize and feel good about sex, but other times I just feel so numb and frightened that I don't know if I can be intimate with anyone. It's like, I don't wanna do something I don't feel comfortable doing but there seems to be little that I do feel comfortable with. Mehhhhhhh. I don't like the idea of anal anyway because it feels messy and painful, but I also wouldn't want to use my uhh I don't even know what to call it anymore. A confused bisexual trans female bottom is the closest I've come to.

Other:

I'm single and I would like to date a female, but whether they are cis or trans is unimportant to me.

I'm in a relationship with an incredible loving cis man, it will be two years March 15th!! His name is Jason, Hes 6'5 tatted and has the sexiest beard!! I'm his world, and I am TRULY blessed to have a man that loves me to no end!! Looking at this poll really showed me how lucky I am!!!

It's surprising to see the number of us that are in long-term commitments with cisfemales. Personally, I consider myself pansexual. It was pure chance that my lovey was female...we met online, after all. She could have been anyone. All I really cared about is that she was just...wonderful. Just absolutely wonderful. Though, her being female did admittedly make it much easier to introduce her to my parents...hahaha.

Quote from: mrs izzy on August 08, 2014, 11:02:21 PM
Ok here is the MTF chance to show where you are in your relationship status.

No pressure just i love demographics and wanting to see where the community is.

You can change you vote at any time if your status changes.

Comments welcome

I've been married for 22 years and on our anniversary, my hubby announced he had found someone else and wanted a divorce. He expected ME to do the work. Not an unanticipated request. He always asked me to take care of legal, financial, and tax issues. In any cases, we're going through the worst experience of my life.

I don't know that I'll ever be able to fall in love with a man again. I mean it took me two years to get to love him and quite honestly, I considered him more like my best friend than lover. I never denied him anything and I can fake an orgasm just like anyone else. But those things do end. People know.

So, I'm seeing a therapist and she suggested that I look into other options. I may decide to stay single for the rest of my life. Perhaps I'll find a marvelous woman. Who knows. I will not plan or hope. If it happens, it will happen.

Interesting question and one I've thought some on, but not really too much.  I'm single and would like to meet a cis female that would like to (as me) have a monogamous relationship yet one in which we can have our own homes, our own space, and our own lives.  Is this possible, well I suppose anything is, is it probable that may be another question entirely.  My preference for being alone is fairly strong, although I am now beginning to imagine how nice a permanent closeness would be.

The other side of that proverbial coin is something entirely different.  I have tried to imagine what it may be like to form a relationship with another mtf.  The jury is still out on that one  ;).   Dani

Met a great guy off a dating site, we instantly clicked. Within six months we bought a house together and happily living together almost 1.5 years now. He proposed to me about a month ago. No date set, sometime in 2015.

Quote from: Muffinheart on March 03, 2015, 08:06:39 PM
Met a great guy off a dating site, we instantly clicked. Within six months we bought a house together and happily living together almost 1.5 years now. He proposed to me about a month ago. No date set, sometime in 2015.

OMGGGG!!!! CONGRATULATIONS DARLING!!!! YOU'RE GOING TO MAKE A GORGEOUS BRIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D :D :D

I am married to a CIS female and I date CIS males. I am now more interested in males. My wife is also only interested in males. So we are both straigth. Sunds crazy?

Lara

Quote from: serenityfaith on March 03, 2015, 10:45:18 PM
OMGGGG!!!! CONGRATULATIONS DARLING!!!! YOU'RE GOING TO MAKE A GORGEOUS BRIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D :D :D

Haha thanks, but I won't be a bride in the traditional sense. I could never go for the white gown thing.
Nope, my dream wedding right now is going to Vegas, getting married by Elvis lol

I ticked other, i'm single & would like to date a man. I didn't tick either option for dating cis/trans man because a mans a man to me.
Maybe the poll could be updated to reflect this?

Just found this poll, very interesting, the high number of mtf that are married to cis females 53 and the very low number married to cis males, only 5, I'm married to a cis male, so I ticked accordingly, very low number, interesting.

My paperwork has finally been approved for my divorce with "my cis man" and I should get my first check from the settlement on the first. It is painfully small. I"m not sure how I'll make the house payment. But, for the first time in many years, I finally feel free. Free from the abuse. Free from keeping THE secret. Just free.

I'm pushing 60 (next month... much) and I find it extremely unlikely that I'll fall in love with a guy. I think lesbian is the way to go. Hey, a girl can change her mind can't she? I just have no idea on how to find other women to become friends with. I can't see myself jumping into a relationship without being friends first and the trans thing has to be out there, right up front. I live in the sticks and I know several young lesbian women, but none my age. I have no idea how or where to go. There are no gay bars, gay/lesbian bars, or anything else in a tea party county.

Any ideas?

Cindi

Congratulations for that status change Cindy!

Some of my friends have had luck with the online stuff like OK Cupid.  On line dating no longer has the stigma of years ago it seems.  It is sure nice to have choices to consider.

Married 27yrs in Dec.to a wonderful cis female who is trying to come to terms with my being trans..I for one can never see myself with a man for I identify as lesbian.

Still very much single and unfortunately I do not see that changing anytime soon :/

Single,

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Well, now I'm proudly single and on the prowl!

I will consider anyone who is sweet to me, makes my heart throb, and can caress my face into oblivion. I am not soliciting here... just saying.

Cindi

Married to a cis girl now :) together 3 years, lived together 2 years, rented first then bought our house 13 months ago. We have a 3 month old son as well <3

I'm currently single and only beginning my transition (not even officially!).  I'm bi and don't really have any specific gender or orientation I'd prefer to date.  Though, my best friend and the first person I came out to IRL occasionally hits on me.  He's an MTF cross-dresser (still identifies as male when he's not dressed up and mainly does it for the rush). Granted, he's also the kind of person that would try to get with anyone or anything, so I'm only a little surprised he's never come onto me before.  I've made him aware that I'm not currently looking for someone, though now that I'm thinking of it, he'd probably make for a decent boyfriend (or girlfriend for when he wants to be).

I have been with my cis lesbian partner for the past nine years.  We both present feminine in all respects.  Although we are both professional people I am the traditional wife in the relationship and handle all duties associated with that position while my partner takes the lead in other matters.  The relationship is all I could ask for and is fulfilling in every manner.  Prior to this relationship I was with a cis male who is a physician for a little over four years.

Not wanting to give away spoilers but my situation may be changing in hopefully the not too distant future

Single however I'd love to date men again. I'm trying to wait until my GRS is complete. I've always loved to be with a man. I enjoyed sleeping with my first boy when I was in the 10th grade, oh my he was so nice & I so wanted him.

Married to another woman. Super mega les girl here


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Oh me, single now but a strong man in bed would feel sooooo good. Brrrrr, I'd like to snuggle close to a man.

Why are there no options for pansexual/bisexual? :/

Single for life!  8)

Single

Married to a cis woman

~Shan~

Meant to update sooner but as of the 10th I am happily taken, it is long distance but we are making it work

Sorry for the massive bump but I have to update my responce, back to being single :'(

Hi I am Married to a CIS woman and so far so good We are working things out between us as I transition :D

Married to a cis woman and I have two children.  11(from a previous marriage) and 3. 

Wife is incredible and supportive.

Married for almost a year now to my CIS wife.

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There is a face I haven't seen in awhile, congrats to you both Michelle

I'm post-MtF partnered with cis-lesbian. We met about a year post-op. Have been together for 20 years.

I'm single but it sure would be nice to enjoy a handsome man again. I've always enjoyed men however never married to one man. I kind of like playing the field....

Single, bi left it to late at 58

After 3 year of divorce talk, my wife and I are going to try to make a go of it! We have our first couples therapy tomorrow with my therapist.