Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Ok here is the FTM chance to show where you are in your relationship status.

No pressure just i love demographics and wanting to see where the community is.

You can change you vote at any time if your status changes.

Comments welcome

I'm single and wish to date a cis female.

Come on men, the ladies are voting you in the dust.

In a devoted relationship with a lovely cis female <3

You men are way behind on your casting in the poll.

I want to hear from you all.

I'm in a fantastic relationship with a cisfemale. :)

I chose other because I couldn't choose more than one option, my options were single and I'd date a CIS male, a CIS female, an FTM or an MTF. To me it doesn't really matter :P I'll be single forever no matter who I'd feel like dating! xD

-Matt

I'm single and most likely staying that way forever. No one really gave me much of a second look back in high school and college due to spending so much effort getting through the day pretending to be female and getting good grades that I had no energy for anything else. I see no reason why that'll change when I start transitioning in October since I'll still be the same more or less, just more confident.

I can't even wrap my head around the idea that someone could really care for me that way. My parents didn't, at least not unconditionally, so how can I expect a stranger to?

Married to a cislady.

Partnered with a cis female.

I voted "Other".

I'm single, but I don't have a gender preference, and I don't care if they're cis or trans.

Forever single right here.  Never dated, never will. 
Deep stealth, can't do the whole disclosure thing.  So no.  Not dating.
Even if I ever do get approached.

Changed my vote from dating a cis male to single and staying that way forever.
Guess my relationship is over and I've never really had much faith in being able to find someone who would love me for who I am, not the "end game" of all these surgeries and yada yada... So, that's that.

In a serious relationship with a ciswoman. ^_^

I put other because I'd probably happily date a male or female of any sort, if I had the time and the right circumstances. My sexual attraction is primarily toward masculine or androgynous bodies, but sometimes getting to know and like a person can precede physical attraction, so I try not to assume too much.

I'm single and I'd most prefer to date a woman but I'm not ruling out anyone with a masculine identity either, I guess? I love celebrity dudes and soccer players and sometimes trans guys and sometimes just plain old cis dudes I know irl. But, predominantly attracted to girls.

I'm single and suspect I will stay that way forever because I fail to make emotional connections to the people I have sex with. The concept of a relationship interests me. I don't want to die alone, but at the same time I don't see anyone being attracted to me once I start T and I'm afraid I'll never be emotionally stable enough to sustain a relationship. Most of the people I "crush" on are cis females, but I've also "liked" transgirls, ftms, and non-binary folk and I've dated cismales and I've had sex with about equal numbers of cismales and cisfemales. I've always been a "manwhore", and I fear that this won't be an option for me once I start hormones.

I'm attracted primarily to feminine men and women of every sort. I'm not attracted to overly-masculine men so I'm not attracted to most FTMs or Cismen. I am, however, attracted to butch women and more masculine leaning non-binary people. But, I am most attracted to feminine energies, if that makes any sense. I can see myself growing old with a feminine or female person.

I find myself dreaming about having a girlfriend, someone sweet and clever that I could have little inside-jokes with, or a femmeboyfriend to cuddle on the couch while watching a film. I want someone I can wrap up in my arms and keep safe, even if they're perfectly capable of protecting themselves. Maybe I don't even want a relationship. I've always shied away from relationships before. Maybe, I just want a cuddle buddy. Because I was abused as a child I wouldn't even let my best friend of seven years touch my hair or hug me until a few months ago, but I felt perfectly comfortable having sex with near strangers. It's a wonder I didn't get any STDs. I've been off sex since February, because I've begun to see that behaviour as destructive/impulsive/an unnecessary risk.

I've just turned 20 and I am beginning to think about who I might be in the future. If I start T now (which I want to do), will that exclude me from dating? I'm so short in stature, I find it difficult to believe anyone will be attracted to me when I become a balding, hairy dwarf. I'm considered attractive (I don't know why) as a female. I am not a girl. I can't see anyone being okay with my body when I change it, or my mind now.

I'm pretty sure I'll die alone. It scares me, but it's true. No one is going to want to take on my baggage. When I finally am comfortable in my body (if that ever happens) I'll have made myself completely unfit for viewing. No one will ever want me again, and the only people who want me now want me for the novelty of having sex with a person like me.

I'll die alone in my apartment or in a hospital, without family. My best friend might be there if they isn't busy with their husband and kids. I won't count on it. 

So, no walking through a forest with a girl who knows the names of all the trees. No kissing my non-binary SO for no reason. No playing footsies with my femme boyfriend. No marrying and adopting children or dogs.

I don't see the point in even trying to form attachments.

In a relationship with someone who identifies as non-binary.

dating a genderqueer person

I voted "dating a cis female", but it's really more like "in a serious committed relationship with a cis female".

I've posted about her here before, the best friend of 8 years that evolved and morphed into a wonderful relationship .

Single, with underlying circumstances. I would really have a relationship with anyone regardless of physical gender depending on whether or not their personality meshes with mine. The problem I am stuck facing is that a lot of the people who are interested in me are very touchy-feely/ clingy people, the type of trait I despise.
Underlying circumstance is that I have Aspergers so I am blunt, too truthful, and I'm hypersensitive to touch, sound, smell and taste. These are the traits that seem to turn people away from me.

No clue how actually getting into a relationship would work right now... would have to be someone who understood what I'm going through. Have only ever been with cisguys so that's what I put.

I voted "dating a cisfemale" but we've been together since 2008 and engaged since 2009. :P

Single forever, and happily so. I've tried dating, but I've come to learn that I get all the people-feelings I need from friendship. Romantic intimacy really doesn't appeal to me at all: I've never had a crush, or wanted to kiss or cuddle. These days, I've stopped trying to force the romance in the hopes of "discovering" normal romantic urges, and I'm much more comfortable for it.

This might be something that changes as I transition. Who knows? I'm bi, so I could end up with anyone across the gender spectrum, if it does.

I guess so far, I'm the gayest one here  :-*

Where are the rest of you who were like "I'm married to a man!"

Since I'm bi, I wonder if my preference would switch on HRT...I'm really curious.

I agree with previous commenters that a "dating/married to a non-binary person" would have been helpful. I probably would have picked that, actually.

I picked "Other" cause I'm a bit between single forever and wanting to date. I enjoy casual encounters whether they involve sex or not, I really just enjoy being with girls. I've only ever been with and dated cis females and that's all I'm interested in dating or otherwise. But I'm terrible at relationships haha so while I'm not opposed to dating it'd have to be the right person. I'm happy waiting til she comes along.

I'm currently in a relationship with a cis guy.

I'm married to a MTF woman.

I'm single and wish to date either a cis male or an FTM. I can't stand "girl parts" but I don't care if an FTM has them because I know he would understand what I'm going through. Cis males are more difficult...

I voted single and properly stay that way because I have a self-deprecating sense of humor. I am the ultimate virgin: not only have ever had any kind of intimate encounter with another person but I've never dated. For years it was because of sincere disinterest but now that I want to try getting into a relationship, I find I can't because of my gender presentation. I'm attract to male and masculine identified people which mean as I am I would be a woman in a straight relationship, which absolutely horrifies me. Until I can transition, I'll remain as caste as Artemis.

Voted other. I am single at the moment and not particularly interested in dating until I'm a little more along in my transition. I've only dated cis women in the past and they are who I am primarily attracted to. I would consider dating another FTM that I clicked with.

Relatively single at the moment - kind of casual thing going on with a cis woman but I don't expect it to go anywhere serious.

My two previous long term relationships have been with a woman who claims to be straight and a guy who later came out as gay. Two other guys I went out with more briefly are now also either openly gay or bi. Maybe they all knew something about me that I didn't at the time!

I'm single and wish to date a cis male (mostly). My previous relationships have been bi and straight cis women though. I'm bi but heavily leaning towards gay lol, so I voted for that one.

other - I'm single, not really looking for a relationship but if one comes then I don't care about gender or if my partner's cis or trans.

FWIW, I'm FTN not FtM.

At my age it's pretty safe to say I'll be single forever whether I want to be or not. I've never been strongly attracted to anyone and I haven't noticed any interest directed my way.

Updating my vote. I've been dating another transguy for about a month now. Best life decision ever.

Literally just entered my first relationship with an awesome MtF trans. We met through an LGBT youth group. I often joke about it being a reverse-het relationship.

Good luck to everyone!

Alaric

Quote from: ftmax on January 29, 2015, 05:16:23 PM
Updating my vote. I've been dating another transguy for about a month now. Best life decision ever.

See never not think you can not find love within the community.

Most understanding group in the world.

Hugs
Congrats.

I've been in an 11yr relationship with a cis female.  We've now been married a year!

other - i'm pansexual, so gender isn't really a factor for me.

Single, wishing to date a cis female (or trans female)--anyone female-identified, really. I've never been in a relationship before, but my attention gravitates more towards women.

I'm single, and although I'm definitely not straight, lately school girls just kill me. Mainly the ones I work with. I want them all.

I have a friends-with-benefits thing going on with a cis-girl, but other than that I'm single and not necessarily looking right now. Of course, if someone interesting catches my eye... ;)

I've just recently come out as ftm and am still happily married to the most amazing and supportive cis woman for almost a year now

I'm single but I can't say I'll stay like that forever but right now I'm not looking or wishing to be on a relationship or even meet new people. For a long time I had a very hard and unhealthy relationship with myself so I'm not sure how to handle a relationship with someone else.
I'm still questioning my gender identity so I don't know how that'd work with someone. I do wish to get married someday, probably to a cis female but I can see myself dating mtf as well.
I'm just living life, enjoying school and friendships and all that.

I put other because my partner is androgynous and there wasn't even a trans man dating an NB person option :\ which seemed a bit exclusive.

So I've been with my partner for 4 years now:) and I'm polyamorous, so it's an open/closed relationship:)

I'm 13 and single until someone approaches me in the future, because 1. I'm too young and 2. I'm shy

Interesting that the first, third and fourth are all about the same, as well as Single and wish to date a Cis Female and Single and wish to date a Cis Male.

Anyway. Mine would be.. Free bird with crushed wings, sadly not even able to find a grindr hook up.  :-\

Single and staying that way, due to being an asexual aromantic. Besides, a relationship might interfere with me playing video games.

I'm polyamorous with two ciswomen partners

Sent from my SM-N910V using Tapatalk

Dating a cis-women, we've been together for just over two years now and if we're still going well after next July we're going to consider moving in-together. Marriage is on the table when we both have good jobs and stable lives.

In a solid relationship with a very supportive cisfemale


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

married to a wonderful ciswoman going on 27 yrs. im mtf and not going to transition because of the love i have for my wife who loves my male part,and accepts my female part.

Technically single but dating multiple cismales. I guess once I've settled it'll change

i'm a bit young, but i don't mind any gender really.

-deleted post-

I am single. I would like to date in the future. I am open to dating cis males and females, or mtf or ftm. It matters to me who the person is. I am not ready to date right now. Right now I want to enjoy time with myself and friends.

Now in platonic relationship with former cis bf

I voted "Other can explain"..I'm biromantic asexual,so I apply somewhat unusual algorithm when falling in love lol..I'm attracted to warm hearted analytical minds with sense of morality(and that sacrifice gain for principles)..in most (maybe 90%) of cases I fell in love with another transsexual(maybe because we could better understand eachother...at that time I was pre-T).

Engaged to a gender non-conforming girl who's extremely supportive of my journey.  We've been friends for 11 years, a couple for 6, and engaged for 3.

Quote from: Smudge on October 03, 2014, 11:03:04 PM
Single, with underlying circumstances. I would really have a relationship with anyone regardless of physical gender depending on whether or not their personality meshes with mine. The problem I am stuck facing is that a lot of the people who are interested in me are very touchy-feely/ clingy people, the type of trait I despise.
Underlying circumstance is that I have Aspergers so I am blunt, too truthful, and I'm hypersensitive to touch, sound, smell and taste. These are the traits that seem to turn people away from me.

I have similar experiences. I'm pansexual, so I would consider dating anyone in that regard. But, I'm on the autism spectrum too, and I have a lot of trouble forming relationships in general. I'm hoping to work on just building some friendships before I even think about dating!  ;)

I put down wishing to date a cis male but I suppose that's not entirely true because I wouldn't mind date another trans man at all. I'm still pretty young so I've never had a boyfriend before and I'm glad I haven't. I still don't think I'm emotionally ready for one, especially not with my current body. I want one, but not enough where it's unbearable and I need to go find one.

Engaged to a cis male, but I'm not sure how long it's going to last. I've come out to him and have had to remind him multiple times but he still doesn't quite get it.

I can't vote on my phone...
Married to a cis het male who is really struggling with my identity of late... so that could definitely change in the future.

I am attracted to masculine folk.

Sent from my SM-G870W using Tapatalk

Oh boy, uhhh....lets call it 'single and wish to stay that way'. Previously was dating an MTF who wasnt out at the beginning now I'm with another MTF, we're not dating for a number of reasons, but I'm with her so we have a relationship of sorts.

Relationshippy things have been a tough call for my life. I always assumed I was straight because it was the only 'right' way to be and I liked guys so I didnt mind. Turns out like being trans I had repressed female-appreciating tendencies that make me homoflexible/bi. Unfortunately, being trans is hard. I'm neither male or female so I can't fit a mold where most people would like me, unless they were bi. This is a reason I avoided transitioning for the longest time before I decided 'screw it', I was dating that girl at the time and knew she'd like me either way (and eventually I found out vice versa) I also cant successfully date a woman without a lot of fire from my social situation, it'd be rough. So ideally if I ever partnered up officially it'd be with a male, perhaps...or someone who wouldn't mind acting the male part...or maybe I'll finally decide to say 'screw it' on that too and date who I love.


Either way, I'm single now, doesnt matter to me, I'm happy with a lot of people I love and I get by on what I need socially

Married to a cis female since September. Romantic relationship currently at 8 years. Total relationship at 10 years. She was there before transition and she has been the best support.

I'm single and not looking, but I'm not committed to staying that way forever, so Other for me. I think it'd be down to the individual if I started dating.

Single. I was dating a cis male until he found out I was trans.

There definitely seems to be a much higher incidence of immediate or outright rejection by cis male partners than cis female partners among long-term couples involving FTM. Women seem to be more responsive to the "let's see how it goes" train of thought for longer than men; the inflexibility of many cis males is an unfortunate phenomenon.

It's the same story for me; he gets it completely and knows another male isn't sexually compatible with himself. Resolved to pursue platonic relationship because we enjoy each others' presence and support. Not complaining. I'm actually much happier in platonic arrangements - something I found it hard to admit to myself, but I really am.

I guess I'm voting "Other", because I'm single, but I would date anyone regardless of their gender.
I've already accepted my fate as a forever alone crazy cat man, though.

I wasn't sure what to choose on the poll. I put "Dating a Cis Female" but at the same time seems like a casual way of putting it. So to clarify, I'm in a long-term common law relationship with a cis woman. We aren't married but under provincial law we're common law so it's practically the same in the government's eyes.

Other: In a seemingly stable relationship with a cisguy - not sure if some of you would call this dating, but to me (due to cultural differences probably) dating is what you call something you only do when not in a relationship in order to get one and definitely not the case when you already live together.

I don't know where the actual choices are posted at, but I'm a FtM in a longterm relationship with another FtM that's forced to be genderfluid for financial and familial reasons.

Ryuichi

Sent from my SM-G930P using Tapatalk

in a committed, albeit long distance, relationship with a cis woman. She's been with me before I came out and stays supportive throughout my entire journey <3

I chose "Dating" a Cis Female.........But we're techinically not dating, we're talking...However we've been together in the past and our intentions are take things slow and move forward romantically if all things go well...Soooo -fingers crossed-



Hypothetically if I wasn't committed to a future with this amazing girl, I'd look into dating a MTF. =w=

I'm single and even though I don't plan on staying single for all of my life I won't start dating or actively looking for a partner until I'll have finished my medical transition.

Dating with those body parts has never worked for me, I've never been able to let anyone get remotely close to me and hence have never been in an actual relationship.
I also still don't want anyone close or let alone touching that body before it will finally be repaired now.

Oh, and I couldn't care less whether my hypothetical future partner would be cis or trans, that doesn't matter to me personally.

Married... still working out the trans shocker from 15 month ago but it seems to be going better recently...

Married, but as my husband likes to put it, 'not lovers'.  He's still working out his feelings about me being trans, but likely heading toward divorce.  But also even if we're divorced, probably gonna live together for the kids until the situation changes relationship status wise.

Admittedly we've not been lovers for a while, due to daughter's health issues, and my own health issues. (I'm also learning that part of it is also because of my dysphoria.)

Quote from: transguymac on June 28, 2017, 10:11:47 AM
I chose "Dating" a Cis Female.........But we're techinically not dating, we're talking...However we've been together in the past and our intentions are take things slow and move forward romantically if all things go well...Soooo -fingers crossed-



Hypothetically if I wasn't committed to a future with this amazing girl, I'd look into dating a MTF. =w=

Aye! It's been a minute....We're official now. Just to update. ;)

Quote from: transguymac on October 24, 2017, 01:41:25 PM
Aye! It's been a minute....We're official now. Just to update. ;)

Congrats!

Its always great to hear about people in love!  Helps override the bad stuff we hear about in the news.

Be happy you two! [emoji173]

Ryuichi

Sent from my SM-G930P using Tapatalk

 Selected "dating a cis female" but "dating" would imply dates. We went on like three dates and now we just kinda hang out and sometimes have sex. Some might class that as a date but I personally wouldn't... unless dates typically last multiple days. We're definitely a couple though, no ambiguity there.

Long-distance marriage with a cisman. We're open, though, so I sometimes see other cismen on the side. We'll see if I'm so lucky after I start T  :U

I voted "single and wish to date a cis male" however I'm not looking for a romantic relationship right now. But it's cis men that I hook up with for sex frequently, and that I tend to fall in love with.

I am attracted to trans guys too, but I don't think I could be in a long term romantic relationship with another trans guy again. That experience kind of made me re-think my priorities, cause of all the million things that went wrong between me and him. I'm not saying I won't change my mind on that, cause it could happen again, but at this point I'm shaking my head.

So, it feels like I'm reasonably and probably only really aiming to be with cis guys in the long run, but with a vague "you never know" inclination to my intentions.

So much has changed now that I'm looking at these old threads...Ugh.

Was dating a cis female (who technically identifies as a Lesbian and VERY sexual).....We broke up because I thought I was ace (new development / discovery), then I found out I just wasn't sexually attracted to her.
Now I'm kind of sort of dating a cis (pan romantic / asexual ) female, but I'm more (pan romantic / demi sexual), and I'm also not sure if we're technically still dating, because I'm straight up like wondering if I got ghosted....

In short...

At this point, I'd be happy to date someone who doesn't think of me as a human sex or cuddle dispenser....

Cis man, cis woman, tans woman, trans man...It's whatever.

I responded "Other". I am happily married to a cismale. We are in a polyamorous relationship. I have an additional cis-female partner and a partner who is gender-fluid, nonbinary.

Single

- via Tapatalk

Me personally, I'm in the process of a divorce and in a three-way relationship with two great guys. :3