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Title: 5 years of Transition.
Post by: cynthialee on September 06, 2014, 11:30:01 PM
Sevan just pointed out to me that this month marks my 5 year transition anniversary. In some part I owe the last 5 years of my life to this forum. There were a few times I was on the edge in the early days and something I read here on this site would pull me from that edge. Some times what I had read wasn't even aimed at me but it was what I needed to read to survive. Twice women on this site unwittingly saved my life. No need to name them as they wouldn't care for the public shout out. Thanks ladies. :icon_hug:
In the last 5 years I have seriously changed. Like night and day.
I think if people knew just how drastic transition is and that it literally leaves you {in many ways} a different person that information would scare them off from ever transitioning. Which would be a shame, as many of us need transition to survive. So I tend to omit that piece of information when talking to newbies.

In the last 5 years most of my friends and family have gone from estranged to a part of my life. I have gone from isolated and friendless to being a part of a community and I have a number of people I count as friend.


I gained a T daughter and a T niece. They adopted me.
There are girls who I am very concerned for and some I am ecstatic to sit back and observe them transform into wonderful awesome people.

My spouse transitioned shortly after I did. Right about the time I went full time Sevan started T. That was an interesting turn of events. I had expected the emotions and sex drive that T brings would freak Sevan out and send per screaming and scrambling back into female territory. Yeah about that.....Not so much it turns out. Sevan is no doubt 100% androgynous, genderqueer, bi-gendered type of person.

The last 5 years I can honestly say have been the best years of my life. Even though I had a heart attack, a few surgeries and changed sex during that time.

For those of you who are on the fence:
Find a way to make it happen. There is nothing I can think of more fulfilling than living your life honestly. You are the gender you say you are. Sex is mutable with todays technology. Some day in the not so distant future complete sex reversal down to the DNA will be possible. If you know in your heart that you need to transition, then nothing in the world will remove that need from your heart other than actually doing it.
It can be challenging and difficult at times. But it is worth it.
Title: Re: 5 years of Transition.
Post by: Ms Grace on September 06, 2014, 11:46:01 PM
Congrats! :)
Title: Re: 5 years of Transition.
Post by: suzifrommd on September 07, 2014, 06:33:29 AM
Good to hear things are going well. I've missed you and Sevan and wondered how you were doing. It's good to know that you're happy with how it's all turning out.
Title: Re: 5 years of Transition.
Post by: Dread_Faery on September 07, 2014, 07:11:43 AM
The time just flies past don't it
Title: Re: 5 years of Transition.
Post by: Taka on September 07, 2014, 02:37:12 PM
i'm really happy for you!
nice to know you two are doing well, i've missed you and sevan a lot.
Title: Re: 5 years of Transition.
Post by: Mark3 on September 07, 2014, 03:24:24 PM
Quote from: cynthialee on September 06, 2014, 11:30:01 PM
For those of you who are on the fence:
Find a way to make it happen. There is nothing I can think of more fulfilling than living your life honestly. You are the gender you say you are. If you know in your heart that you need to transition, then nothing in the world will remove that need from your heart other than actually doing it.
It can be challenging and difficult at times. But it is worth it.

I really like those words the way you said it...  :)
Title: Re: 5 years of Transition.
Post by: ImagineKate on September 07, 2014, 04:34:39 PM
COngratulations! This is so inspiring.
Title: Re: 5 years of Transition.
Post by: cynthialee on September 07, 2014, 07:13:14 PM
I come here at least 2 or 3 times a week. I just don't respond much, mainly checking up on a few thread I watch and look out for the occasional post that I feel a draw to speak on. Sevan is working at a Queer Youth Center and most of per work with the trans* community is face to face work with the LGBT youth of Spokane. We are founding a new organization in Spokane called Spokane Tall. (Trans* Advocacy and Local Leadership) Mainly the focus is going to be trans* education in the Greater Spokane area. It is mainly a way for those who are part of the local T community who feel no need for support but wish to be involved to stay plugged in and making a difference. This way it takes some of the responsibility off the local support group and frees up its' time to do support. We are no longer leaders in Spokane Trans* People. We maintain connections and I swear some day I will make it to a support meeting, but life happens and it isn't easy to make it these days.

I am on Facebook daily. I blog on TS stuff on the corner still. Here is my latest offering:
http://candiussellcorner.blogspot.com/2014/09/why-trans-women-should-reject-hrcs.html

hugz and luv all
Title: Re: 5 years of Transition.
Post by: Lilis on January 29, 2025, 03:47:26 AM
Quote from: cynthialee on September 06, 2014, 11:30:01 PMSo I tend to omit that piece of information when talking to newbies.

Quote from: cynthialee on September 06, 2014, 11:30:01 PMYou are the gender you say you are. Sex is mutable with todays technology. Some day in the not so distant future complete sex reversal down to the DNA will be possible. If you know in your heart that you need to transition, then nothing in the world will remove that need from your heart other than actually doing it.

It can be challenging and difficult at times. But it is worth it.

Thanks! 💜✨


~ Lilis