Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hey all,

So I've been pondering an issue: I like dressing as an expression of how I am feeling and who I am, so it gets a little odd when I run into this conflict: I am a self-identified lesbian and love the range of styles afforded to cis-gendered lesbians, the only problem is that if I dress on the butch side of things, I'm sure to be misgendered.

Now, my inner awesome person says, "screw the public and their perception of gender and sexuality, dress however you damn well want!"
My equally awesome but more sensitive side says, "but I just want people to recognize that I am a girl and stop calling me 'dude' and 'man', which aren't definite gender defining terms but certainly make me feel a little upset."

If you've had to deal with this, how have you found peace?

Thanks,
Zeah

The realisation that how I dress actually has little to do with how people perceive me.