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    I am a crossdresser who lives with my girlfriend.  She also has a 21 year old daughter who keeps her clothes at her house, but stays elsewhere.  She is in and out a few times a week. 
    My girlfriend knows I crossdress and supports and encourages me.  Each night, I wear a half slip and panties to bed.  This is also part of our intimate life.  I have only one half slip, a black one.    Once, when it was in the laundry, she said she would check to see if her daughter had one I could wear.  I said "never mind," and just slept in a bra and panties.
    Well, about a month ago, when nobody was home, I was curious.  I went into her daughter's room and looked for some slips   :icon_redface:.  I found 4, 2 white and 2 black.  One of the black one's was just like the one I owned with lace trim on the hem.  HOWEVER, there were a couple of differences.  It is tighter (small vs. medium, and shorter, 4 inches above the knee vs. just below the knee.
    As I did love this slip, I put it in my drawer with my other one and have been wearing it to bed ever since.     Her daughter NEVER wears slips anymore (it has been over 3 years), because she is just not that type.  I, however, am feeling very guilty and have two questions.  First, do you think my girlfriend has noticed the differences in the slips and is just being quiet about the whole thing?  Second, should I tell her what I did, and accept any punishment? 

Thanks so much for your advice,


 

Hello

You are invading the privacy of the daughter.  You have no right to be in her space what-so-ever unless you have been invited.  It matters not that the daughter no longer wears slips, they are her property and it's up to her to decide what to do with them.  I would advise that to put back those items you have removed and I'll leave it up to your conscience to tell your girlfriend what you did.

While it may seems a trivial thing a persons privacy is one of the most important things that we have and violations of it can have traumatic consequences for all concerned.  Put yourself in her shoes... how would you feel.

Steph

I agree with Steph. The best thing to do would be to tell your girlfriend. Her daughter will feel that her privacy has been violated, and rightly so.

Dennis

Kathy,

Take care of this, make reparations, and buy your own stuff from now on.  Yes, you are an adult and responsible for your actions.  Don't let a fetish destroy your life... please.

Cindi

I neglected to tell all of you that when I did move in with my girlfriend, she said "what's mine is yours, and what's your's is mine."  That included the house, furnishings, clothes, and her kids' clothes, if I so desired.  I have often "snuck" a new pair of her panties or bra, or skirt and top, only to have her chuckle and say "they fit YOU better than me."  She just hasn't "seen" me wearing her daughter's lingerie yet (I don't think).

I would buy or have girlfriend buy your own set of clothing / lingerie. Especially if she is open to that type of stuff. It will fit much better and you can get exactly what you want.

Quote from: Kathy4199 on August 06, 2007, 12:00:53 PM
I neglected to tell all of you that when I did move in with my girlfriend, she said "what's mine is yours, and what's your's is mine."  That included the house, furnishings, clothes, and her kids' clothes, if I so desired.  I have often "snuck" a new pair of her panties or bra, or skirt and top, only to have her chuckle and say "they fit YOU better than me."  She just hasn't "seen" me wearing her daughter's lingerie yet (I don't think).

If your girlfriend seriously included her children's possessions and clothes in this bargain, she is seriously misguided.
Sneaking your girlfriend's underthings is a vastly different thing than snooping in her daughter's room and wearing some of her most intimate possessions. No matter what you may think, or what your girlfriend may have said, her daughter's things are not yours to take. If this young woman knew what you had done, she would feel violated. To be frank - your behaviour is sickening.  As is your sense of entitlement to the possessions of others.

   I think returning the item(s) is the right thing to do.  Purchasing your own clothing will be better.  You'll probably feel better about it.
   You seem to have a good thing going in your relationship.  You do not want to jeopardize it.



Rebis

I agree with the others on this topic.  Intimate clothing is personal and should never be borrowed without permission.  Your girlfriend had no right to give you permission to invade her daughter's privacy.  You owe both of them an apology.  A small gift to the daughter would be appropriate.

Quote from: Kathy4199 on August 06, 2007, 10:23:49 AMShe also has a 21 year old daughter...

Isn't the daughter an adult then? If so, I don't think the mother has any right to give you permission for ANYTHING regarding her. It's the daughter's property. It sounds like trespassing to me.

QuoteThat included the house, furnishings, clothes, and her kids' clothes,

She's not a kid. Not that it'd be OK if she WAS a child, but... still.

~Kate~

Hi Kathy.

I have to agree with the others...how would you feel if your girlfriend had moved in to your place, and her daughter had taken your undies, or gone through your drawers?  I doubt you would like it much.

It sounds like you are feeling guilty about this...otherwise, you wouldn't be wondering if your GF noticed.  If it were really "no big deal" you would have said something to her when you first took the slip.  It is a big deal and you need to be an adult and take care of situation (with both your GF and her daughter).  Be prepared for some well deserved anger.

.....Laurry