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Now that I have begun my transition I find myself thinking about it A LOT! I still take care of all the other things in life like finding a new job, paying the bills, walking the dog and I even still enjoy playing a computer game or two. The thing is that through it all in the back of my head transitioning is always there. "Need more clothes." "Hope to start HRT soon" "Must find larger shoes" and on and on. During that period between sleeping and waking I had the strangest thought ever "Maybe one day I'll get pregnant." Then I woke up and was like "yeah, that's never happening." Speaking of being asleep. I dream about living life as a woman. Sometimes I'm trans and sometimes I'm cis but it happens all the time. Is this normal when you are in the early stages of transition?

Hey Christy,

I think that is normal. I found when I was starting to come to terms with the fact that I was transgender I would think about it all the time. Then when I starting thinking that transition was possible I would think about it all the time. Now that I am starting my transition, I think about all the things I need to do to pass. I feel/hope one day I will just be thinking about something (anything) else other than being transgender. But as is with all things in life, don't make a mountain out of a mole hill. Take things one step at a time and don't look too far ahead.

Melissa

Sounds very normal to me.  This is a massive step forward and it will dominate your thoughts and dreams for quite some time

Happy dreams and safe travels

Aisla

Perfectly normal sweetie! There IS a lot to do to transition.  :)

Oh yes, very normal indeed. The thing to do is avoid letting it overwhelm you. There was a restructure going on at work which really distracted me from thinking about transition to much which in many ways was very fortunate because I can get a bit obsessive sometimes.

Quote from: Christy on September 20, 2014, 06:37:15 PM
Now that I have begun my transition I find myself thinking about it A LOT! I still take care of all the other things in life like finding a new job, paying the bills, walking the dog and I even still enjoy playing a computer game or two. The thing is that through it all in the back of my head transitioning is always there. "Need more clothes." "Hope to start HRT soon" "Must find larger shoes" and on and on. During that period between sleeping and waking I had the strangest thought ever "Maybe one day I'll get pregnant." Then I woke up and was like "yeah, that's never happening." Speaking of being asleep. I dream about living life as a woman. Sometimes I'm trans and sometimes I'm cis but it happens all the time. Is this normal when you are in the early stages of transition?

I had this same question too. I feel I am so obsessed with my transition. I keep thinking about the next steps all the time. I have had the same dreams too about maybe one day having a baby... Your post really captured the way I have been feeling for the last few months... So I guess this kind of thinking is a bit normal..

That dream state can be a bit pesky. Yes, it sounds normal to me.

if you finally had saved up enough and gotten tickets to somewhere really exiting where you'd always wanted to go but didn't dare hope you'd get the chance to... how well would you sleep the night before?

seems like it would be completely normal to obsess over something which is this important to you. only problem is that transition takes a little longer than one night, so it might be a good idea to find ways to lessen obsession so it wonct become obstructive to work, relationships or other things.

Quote from: Christy on September 20, 2014, 06:37:15 PM
Is this normal when you are in the early stages of transition?

Yes yes yes.

A trans friend and I came up with a name for it: GIP, Gender Identity Preoccupation.

I think it was my gender's way of trying to keep me on the right track.

Quote from: suzifrommd on September 21, 2014, 08:39:33 AM
A trans friend and I came up with a name for it: GIP, Gender Identity Preoccupation.

what a terrific term. shrinks should learn about it.