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Hey there, I'm Tom and new here! I feel foolish being on here but I've been stalking for a while so I felt I should actually start interacting.

I'm a late bloomer and I feel really insecure about that... I'm in my mid-20s. Eeep! I started questioning my sexuality a couple years ago, when a big crush "happened". I identify as bi/gay/queer/whateverosexual, I'm not one to reject all labels but in this case nothing really seems to fit. And one day I decided to buy a binder for fun... and now I just love wearing it all the time. This chest!! So flat... :) I don't have dysphoria the way others describe it: I'm not a fan of my upper half but my lower half is aiit, and it's not like I hate it or feel detached from it but I don't love it and have a lot of self consciousness and general discomfort when I don't bind. I do have social dysphoria, but I'm not particularly "manly"/macho so I don't fit in with butch lesbians or male-dominated spaces. For one I like knitting; I enjoy fashion; and I'm reeeally short. But stereotypes are stupid. So even though I'm not 100% male I want to try figuring out if any amount of transitioning is for me.

I haven't found many stories of coming out later in life slash not being a straight transguy; and though being a straight woman didn't feel right, gay woman doesn't either, lesbian even worse... so I'm starting to see myself as an androgyne/queer guy and it seems to fit. So anyways I'm here to try to connect with other guys, and to see if we can all help each other out! :)

Maybe there's some path out of the confusion. To me, life's chaos is what makes it beautiful.

I also want to mention that as a kid I was mommy's little girl. I didn't have a ton of dysphoria, but I felt different and I was a huge tomboy until middle school; and then I disliked myself strongly from middle school onwards. I wanted to be a really hot girl or a really sporty girl so that guys would want to hang out with me, but not necessarily to date (ok sometimes); I just felt like I related to them. And I always wanted to hang out with the guys, but when I was 5 that manifested itself as me running around the playground trying to kiss all the boys. Soooo. :) Thasmystory!

Hey there, Tom! Welcome :) I'm in my late thirties, just beginning my journey - talk about late blooming ;). I lived as a heterosexual female, now I'm coming to terms with identifying as gay male. Which isn't a bad thing, but certainly takes some getting used to :). But yeah, it's awesome to be finally able to imagine a future for myself where I'm not ashamed of my body and where I can be at ease with who I am.

Looking forward to seeing you around :)

Hey Tom!

Welcome to Susan's :) Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

Everyone has a different approach to their journey so I wouldn't worry about not having the same level of dysphoria as others, it doesn't invalidate how you feel.

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Grace

Hey thanks :) looking forward to getting to know you all!

I wouldn't call mid 20's a  late bloomer by any means. Welcome by the way.