Susan's Place Transgender Resources

I post in the introduction thread, which can be scene here https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,175501.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,175501.0.html) Gives you a rough idea of my problem.

I just have a simple question. What do I do? I have a lot of conflicting emotions. I don't know about talking to a gender therapist either. I am just scarred mainly I guess.

identify the source of your fear. gender therapist would be great for doing that, but just writing about yourself can help too.
i found that writing answers to questions on these forums has helped me much more than asking the questions myself.
knowing what to ask is not easy, but by typing and answer to someone else, you can discover that you already know the answer to a whole lot of questions you didn't know how to ask.

another thing would be to tell us which area you live in. some could point you to affordable therapists near you, if there are any.

maybe tell a little bit more about why you don't work, what problems you would run into if separating from your wife.
will give a little more perspective on what problems you're actually facing.

and if people become nasty, run into the non-binary section.
some of us inhabitants of the unicorn forest have fangs and claws to protect with.
we'll accept both those who don't know what to transition to, and those who don't know if they want to transition.
trying to be a safe haven for people who only find pressure to be someone they're not everywhere else.

you'll probably fit in well with the girls on these forums though. you sound a lot like one.

Thank you again!

I am currently trying to finish school, this is my last couple of months. So I haven't been working. I will be once I have my degree in hand.

My wife is out right now, not coming back for a couple days. After thinking about it, I decided to be the whole day in women clothes. I have never felt happier. At the same time, sad. Because I do love my wife, however, if I transition I don't think I want to be with her. I'd prefer to be with a guy. I am confused still.

Like it or not a Therapist preferably with gender experience is the only way to successfully start your journey. Some people do "informed consent" to get on hormones, but you have too much conflict inside you for that. It would be in my opinion disastrous for you to bypass therapy. I see a Therapist at my local University and it is only $10.00 a session. They can be found if yours has a Psychology Department. You are going to have to talk about this with someone and find the motivation for why you feel this way. We can give suggestions, but the ball is in your court. I will tell you that if you have gender Dysphoria (which I really haven't seen yet) it only gets worse as the years go by. It is never too late to transition, but the younger the better. I personally started at 47 and have been pleasantly surprised.  :)

Another potential is a therapist through school.

Where I go for primary care and group they have therapist on a sliding scale.

I got lucky, lost my job,  lost my insurance and ended up being  on a charity basis at excellent hospital with a great psyche team. help is out there.

Quote from: stephaniec on October 19, 2014, 04:09:41 PM
I got lucky, lost my job,  lost my insurance and ended up being  on a charity basis at excellent hospital with a great psyche team. help is out there.

when I was 19 I got  help at a free city mental health clinic. reaching out for help is good.