Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Makenzie on October 19, 2014, 09:48:52 PM Return to Full Version

Title: Coming out
Post by: Makenzie on October 19, 2014, 09:48:52 PM
What can be done at my age?Hiw can I come out in a family that WILL disown me?Anyone here who came out young?
Title: Re: Coming out
Post by: ImagineKate on October 19, 2014, 09:53:22 PM
There are plenty who came out as teens and there are organizations that help you. Have you sought out your local LGBT youth groups?
Title: Re: Coming out
Post by: Jo-is-amazing on October 19, 2014, 09:59:02 PM
I came out at 15 :P
I was lucky enough to be in a family that would accept me no matter what.
But depending what country you live in you may find it particularly hard to get treatment at 15, particularly when your parents/ guardians are against it. Even though I was 15 when I came out, I didn't really start pursuing transition until I was 17. That was mainly because until one of my lovely friends challenged the system, it was mandatory to essentially go to court in order to start doing anything and I was not up with that.
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I don't think coming out in an environment like that at your age is a great idea, unless you have someone that will take you in if your family decides to throw you out. I mean living with dysphoria sucks, but its better than living with dysphoria AND copping sustained abuse, or living with dysphoria and Finding yourself out on the street.

I do think you should start building a support network though, by coming out to people you know will accept you e.g. close friends/ family that will accept and support you when/if you take the plunge and start to transition.

also Kate is right as usual, you should seek out your local LGBT clinic if there is one :)
Title: Re: Coming out
Post by: Makenzie on October 19, 2014, 10:05:41 PM
Yes,to no replies
Title: Re: Coming out
Post by: V M on October 19, 2014, 10:10:28 PM
Hi Makenzie  :icon_wave:

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Title: Re: Coming out
Post by: katiej on October 19, 2014, 10:32:26 PM
Quote from: Jo-is-amazing on October 19, 2014, 09:59:02 PM
I don't think coming out in an environment like that at your age is a great idea, unless you have someone that will take you in if your family decides to throw you out. I mean living with dysphoria sucks, but its better than living with dysphoria AND copping sustained abuse, or living with dysphoria and Finding yourself out on the street.

This is good advice.  I wish it wasn't.  But it just is.  40% of homeless teenagers are LGBT.  Only you know your situation.  So if you think it's possible to come out, then approach it with caution.  Sometimes your family can surprise you and turn out to be accepting because you're THEIR kid.  But unfortunately, some families just can't deal with it.

I know how hard dysphoria can be, but don't feel like you have to transition right now.  Better to have a smooth transition a few years down the road than to have a rough one now.

I wish you the best...and please keep us updated.