Susan's Place Transgender Resources

not sure where to start my friends are all pretty close minded and none of them have any clue that this is going on with me I feel like I am alone not sure where to start in the process I thought maybe just never talking to them again would work for me but I know nobody else in the area and I'm not very good at making new friends how do I go about telling them without losing them completely, I would like nothing more than to become angie full timeand AM in the process of doing that now even though it is early and I haven't even started any physical changes yet I have came out to my wife and my mom my wife has left for Colorado for a few months to try to figure out if she can handle this or not I have made my appointments to start electrolysis an appointment with a doctor to start hormones after I've been going to a therapist for a little over a month but I already know that this is what I want before I even saw the therapist as I have been fighting it since I was a little kid  I'm confused and I really just I'm trying to figure out how I can tell my friends and not leave them as well as I'm losing everybody else in my life already but I can't stop this this is what I want and I need to be happy! any suggestions would be gratefully appreciated thanks

,Angie

What I have found to be very useful is explaining the troubles that I've had throughout my life dealing with not feeling right in my body. I also have some medical documentation that sort of leads in the direction that I'm female. I've had my chromosomes checked and the blood work was leaning more to the female side than the male side. My therapist also wrote me a letter to present to my friends explaining that I am a transsexual. Almost every person that I have come out to in this way agrees that I cannot deny myself what I'm feeling. Of course, everybody is different and not everybody is going to have the XXY chromosome, or their estrogen levels already elevated before even starting on HRT. Although some people may seem close minded, not all of them are. I find honesty to be the best approach. If and when you do tell your friends and they don't stand by you. They are not true friends anyway. They are mere acquaintances. I wish you nothing but the best on your journey. Please stay safe with all your travels. May the Angels look down upon you.

Hugs,

Melissa Ann

Anything medical or about yourself that you can use as ground work to explain it to them will be very useful. In my case my past medical history and hormones levels helped. Secondly, I knew some of my friends were what I would consider closed minded coming in. I was surprised at some of them being very excepting when I had thought sure I would lose them as part of my transition. So, I wouldn't go selling them short before telling because people can surprise you sometimes.
Mariah