Community Conversation => Transitioning => Gender Correction Surgery => Topic started by: mrs izzy on November 13, 2014, 10:51:57 PM Return to Full Version
Title: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 13, 2014, 10:51:57 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 13, 2014, 10:51:57 PM
How to handle when its your husbands time for his phallo in couple weeks. 1st stage.
My GCS i was calm and just wanted it to be done. No surgery stress.
Him its tearing at my stomach in such a scared mode.
Been thru this with his Top surgery and Hysto.
This one is such a big surgery with multiple sites.
How to handle the anxiety and stress level when you have no control.
On top my sister is having her GCS week before so that's another add to my stress.
I am a emotional rollercoaster. Hope it stays on the tracks.
Uff!
Sigh!
Izzy
My GCS i was calm and just wanted it to be done. No surgery stress.
Him its tearing at my stomach in such a scared mode.
Been thru this with his Top surgery and Hysto.
This one is such a big surgery with multiple sites.
How to handle the anxiety and stress level when you have no control.
On top my sister is having her GCS week before so that's another add to my stress.
I am a emotional rollercoaster. Hope it stays on the tracks.
Uff!
Sigh!
Izzy
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: Eva Marie on November 14, 2014, 01:05:30 AM
Post by: Eva Marie on November 14, 2014, 01:05:30 AM
((hugs))
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: Cindy on November 14, 2014, 01:41:06 AM
Post by: Cindy on November 14, 2014, 01:41:06 AM
Hugs Izzy.
How to cope? Goddess knows. You are a strong woman and I know he is a strong man. We just have to keep positive, keeping loving and lean on your family here when you need us with you.
I do hope it goes well and my love to you both - and to your sister. Safe journey to both of them.
Remember we are here for all three of you.
How to cope? Goddess knows. You are a strong woman and I know he is a strong man. We just have to keep positive, keeping loving and lean on your family here when you need us with you.
I do hope it goes well and my love to you both - and to your sister. Safe journey to both of them.
Remember we are here for all three of you.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: adrian on November 14, 2014, 01:45:04 AM
Post by: adrian on November 14, 2014, 01:45:04 AM
Hugs, Mrs Izzy! I know how nerve wracking this can be.
Nothing to do but keep breathing, in and out.
Sending lots of lots of good thoughts and positive energy!
Nothing to do but keep breathing, in and out.
Sending lots of lots of good thoughts and positive energy!
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: Jenna Marie on November 14, 2014, 06:17:16 AM
Post by: Jenna Marie on November 14, 2014, 06:17:16 AM
Oh, wow, that's a lot to stress over. Good luck and good thoughts!
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 14, 2014, 07:13:42 AM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 14, 2014, 07:13:42 AM
Thank everyone for the words of comfort.
We for so long taken things a day at a time. I know it will change to shorter clips of time.
We see a end in sight just I never thought it would effect me this hard.
Having my family here gives me great comfort and know will lean on its strength it gives each and every day.
Hugs and yes I see some stress vents coming.
We for so long taken things a day at a time. I know it will change to shorter clips of time.
We see a end in sight just I never thought it would effect me this hard.
Having my family here gives me great comfort and know will lean on its strength it gives each and every day.
Hugs and yes I see some stress vents coming.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mm on November 14, 2014, 08:29:53 AM
Post by: mm on November 14, 2014, 08:29:53 AM
mrs izzy, we are all here for all, just tell us what we can do for you. Do keep us updated on how everyone is doing. Good luck to all.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: Vicky on November 14, 2014, 05:48:40 PM
Post by: Vicky on November 14, 2014, 05:48:40 PM
My thoughts and good wishes go out to you. It will indeed change life as it happens and you will need to work the steps to change resolution. I hope those steps will be short steps, short times, and long happiness and fulfillment to you and your family when they have been completed.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: Myarkstir on November 14, 2014, 06:59:27 PM
Post by: Myarkstir on November 14, 2014, 06:59:27 PM
Quote from: mrs izzy on November 13, 2014, 10:51:57 PM
On top my sister is having her GCS week before so that's another add to my stress.
*raises hand*
That would be me :D
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 16, 2014, 02:54:26 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 16, 2014, 02:54:26 PM
My brain hurts today with all the mind trying to process everything.
Grrr!
Grrr!
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 16, 2014, 06:50:47 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 16, 2014, 06:50:47 PM
Been trying my best to keep it all in some order.
Just been in overload mode.
Every little emotion seems to be magnified 3 fold.
Such a girl.
Just been in overload mode.
Every little emotion seems to be magnified 3 fold.
Such a girl.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 19, 2014, 09:24:02 AM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 19, 2014, 09:24:02 AM
Today is one of the emotional days where everything seems to bother me.
Sigh!
Old habits seems so tempting today but know that is not the answer.
Play a game, watch a movie would be easy and take mind off the worry.
Easy is not always easy as we all know.
Few days till first major test. Will I pass or fail?
Larger Sigh!
Hugd
Sigh!
Old habits seems so tempting today but know that is not the answer.
Play a game, watch a movie would be easy and take mind off the worry.
Easy is not always easy as we all know.
Few days till first major test. Will I pass or fail?
Larger Sigh!
Hugd
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 20, 2014, 10:30:27 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 20, 2014, 10:30:27 PM
As we progress towards a time when the dysphoria will stop being a factor.
Will it bring a end to his unhappiness?
Will there be calm had through all the process?
Will there be a new person i will need to get to know all over again?
Will my calmness i was given be back for my enjoyment?
Will all this come with out issues?
Will i have the strength in all to come?
Day at a time. Its a vent.
Will it bring a end to his unhappiness?
Will there be calm had through all the process?
Will there be a new person i will need to get to know all over again?
Will my calmness i was given be back for my enjoyment?
Will all this come with out issues?
Will i have the strength in all to come?
Day at a time. Its a vent.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: Cindy on November 21, 2014, 01:08:36 AM
Post by: Cindy on November 21, 2014, 01:08:36 AM
Vent away Hon.
You have a lot on your hands.
Is he having his surgery in Canada, or are you travelling OS?
You have a lot on your hands.
Is he having his surgery in Canada, or are you travelling OS?
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: adrian on November 21, 2014, 01:39:22 AM
Post by: adrian on November 21, 2014, 01:39:22 AM
I hope there will be calmness for both of you.
Until then, vent away!
Sending a hug, some long deep breaths, and lots of positive energy. Can you feel it? It should be this warm, glowing ball right underneath your solar plexus. Not big, size of a walnut. But if you focus on it, it'll radiate warmth, and calm through your body and mind.
Until then, vent away!
Sending a hug, some long deep breaths, and lots of positive energy. Can you feel it? It should be this warm, glowing ball right underneath your solar plexus. Not big, size of a walnut. But if you focus on it, it'll radiate warmth, and calm through your body and mind.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: divineintervention on November 21, 2014, 04:42:46 AM
Post by: divineintervention on November 21, 2014, 04:42:46 AM
sending you love xxx
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 21, 2014, 06:49:50 AM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 21, 2014, 06:49:50 AM
Again thanks everyone for the support.
Yes the surgery will be done here so no travel involved.
I know he will be in good hands and things will be at there best.
In now just a few days my sister will experience her start of a new life chapter and that's my first stress point.
I just care a lot so puts added stress and emotions. I draw so much strength from the forum.
Again thank everyone for the extra strength.
Hugs
Yes the surgery will be done here so no travel involved.
I know he will be in good hands and things will be at there best.
In now just a few days my sister will experience her start of a new life chapter and that's my first stress point.
I just care a lot so puts added stress and emotions. I draw so much strength from the forum.
Again thank everyone for the extra strength.
Hugs
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 23, 2014, 10:10:34 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 23, 2014, 10:10:34 PM
It's now starting.
Have settled my sister in for the night.
Tomorrow she will come out of her cocoon a beautiful butterfly.
Few more days of stress and then my attention shifts.
Not easy being on this side.
Day at a time.
Uff!
Have settled my sister in for the night.
Tomorrow she will come out of her cocoon a beautiful butterfly.
Few more days of stress and then my attention shifts.
Not easy being on this side.
Day at a time.
Uff!
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: adrian on November 24, 2014, 12:40:29 AM
Post by: adrian on November 24, 2014, 12:40:29 AM
Thank you for updating us :). Sending good thoughts! :hugs:
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 25, 2014, 10:23:02 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 25, 2014, 10:23:02 PM
Overwhelming stress about all i am saying.
Grrr.
Grrr.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: Jill F on November 25, 2014, 10:57:23 PM
Post by: Jill F on November 25, 2014, 10:57:23 PM
Big hugs to both of you!
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 27, 2014, 08:08:09 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 27, 2014, 08:08:09 PM
Todays word is super stress. Grrr!
Will Monday happen as originally in the plan or not be allowed on the table.
Will Monday happen as originally in the plan or not be allowed on the table.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on November 28, 2014, 10:15:48 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on November 28, 2014, 10:15:48 PM
Got the issues all worked out.
Monday back on the schedule.
Sigh! Feeling so alone!
Thanks Allison for your extra daily support this last week or so. Hugs.
Has helped more then you know.
Keep on keeping on.
Monday back on the schedule.
Sigh! Feeling so alone!
Thanks Allison for your extra daily support this last week or so. Hugs.
Has helped more then you know.
Keep on keeping on.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: Athena on November 28, 2014, 10:32:06 PM
Post by: Athena on November 28, 2014, 10:32:06 PM
Hugs :)
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on December 01, 2014, 07:20:32 AM
Post by: mrs izzy on December 01, 2014, 07:20:32 AM
As I look at this new side of what my husband has to go through I will gain a understanding of both sides.
Does not matter what side you are on or even still on the edge.
It comes down to inner peace.
Just at the moment I am scared and worried.
Today sigh !
Does not matter what side you are on or even still on the edge.
It comes down to inner peace.
Just at the moment I am scared and worried.
Today sigh !
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: adrian on December 01, 2014, 10:09:57 AM
Post by: adrian on December 01, 2014, 10:09:57 AM
Hugs!
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on December 04, 2014, 09:30:37 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on December 04, 2014, 09:30:37 PM
Going to say one comment.
I feel so sorry for what the men have to go through for GCS.
I feel so sorry for what the men have to go through for GCS.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mrs izzy on January 16, 2015, 02:15:44 AM
Post by: mrs izzy on January 16, 2015, 02:15:44 AM
What a month.
I still have a hard time looking at his arm.
Total distraction just to roll a phallo.
The healing continues.
I still have a hard time looking at his arm.
Total distraction just to roll a phallo.
The healing continues.
Title: Re: The other side of the coin.
Post by: mm on January 16, 2015, 12:08:02 PM
Post by: mm on January 16, 2015, 12:08:02 PM
mrs izzy, this is a decision we must make, where to get the material for our phallo, several pros and cons for the different choices.