Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: samblack on November 29, 2014, 10:11:36 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Dating...
Post by: samblack on November 29, 2014, 10:11:36 PM
Post by: samblack on November 29, 2014, 10:11:36 PM
So I'm single and I've been single for like, 5 years.
I'm currently slowly transitioning (FTM) I'm out to my two bestfriends, one of my brothers, and my mom. I had an online dating profile (okcupid lol) and a month or so ago I changed it to bisexual and started talking to girls. Wellllll a few days ago I made a new one (did you know theres a ton of options for gender on that site!) So my new profile says trans man. a couple girls have talked to me but not a lot of attention (which I'm not used to :[)
What are your dating experiences like?
Tell me theres hope lol
also has anyone else listed themselves as trans on a public dating site before? I'm not from a small town, but it's not as big as, say, seattle. Did I make a mistake
I'm currently slowly transitioning (FTM) I'm out to my two bestfriends, one of my brothers, and my mom. I had an online dating profile (okcupid lol) and a month or so ago I changed it to bisexual and started talking to girls. Wellllll a few days ago I made a new one (did you know theres a ton of options for gender on that site!) So my new profile says trans man. a couple girls have talked to me but not a lot of attention (which I'm not used to :[)
What are your dating experiences like?
Tell me theres hope lol
also has anyone else listed themselves as trans on a public dating site before? I'm not from a small town, but it's not as big as, say, seattle. Did I make a mistake
Title: Re: Dating...
Post by: FTMax on November 30, 2014, 11:26:19 AM
Post by: FTMax on November 30, 2014, 11:26:19 AM
Ah, did they finally update the gender options? I remember someone posted a news article about how they were testing it out with a small percentage of their current user base.
I was on there when it was just male and female. For a while I identified as a lesbian and made the restrictions that I prefer bisexual women and had a short anecdote in my profile explaining my gender identity and who I was interested in as a result. I had some luck with it, in that I got a lot of conversations out of it. But it always felt very false to me, to have to identify that way.
I switched it to male and straight and still got a few messages due to tagging things like transgender, queer, and ftm in my profile. But I also got a lot of views from people I was absolutely not interested in.
I'm from the greater Washington, DC area so there is no shortage of LGBTQA+ people around. I mostly felt like no matter how I chose to identify with the available options, I was not being 100% truthful, which is an issue for me. I may try it out again if they've altered the gender options. I'd definitely feel a lot better having it immediately displayed instead of buried in my profile.
Don't know if you use Tumblr at all, but I also wrote a little blurb about myself and posted it on a few trans blogs on there. Got some new followers, found some new blogs to follow, and had a lot of good conversations as a result. IMO, 1000x better than a traditional online dating experience.
I was on there when it was just male and female. For a while I identified as a lesbian and made the restrictions that I prefer bisexual women and had a short anecdote in my profile explaining my gender identity and who I was interested in as a result. I had some luck with it, in that I got a lot of conversations out of it. But it always felt very false to me, to have to identify that way.
I switched it to male and straight and still got a few messages due to tagging things like transgender, queer, and ftm in my profile. But I also got a lot of views from people I was absolutely not interested in.
I'm from the greater Washington, DC area so there is no shortage of LGBTQA+ people around. I mostly felt like no matter how I chose to identify with the available options, I was not being 100% truthful, which is an issue for me. I may try it out again if they've altered the gender options. I'd definitely feel a lot better having it immediately displayed instead of buried in my profile.
Don't know if you use Tumblr at all, but I also wrote a little blurb about myself and posted it on a few trans blogs on there. Got some new followers, found some new blogs to follow, and had a lot of good conversations as a result. IMO, 1000x better than a traditional online dating experience.
Title: Re: Dating...
Post by: Lostkitten on November 30, 2014, 02:42:07 PM
Post by: Lostkitten on November 30, 2014, 02:42:07 PM
I wouldn't put trans on my profile. It is nice they put the option there but don't most transgendered people want to not be seen as trans? Also, you might attract people who are really searching for a transgender for whatever weird kind of reason o.o.
Title: Re: Dating...
Post by: teamkp on November 30, 2014, 09:59:20 PM
Post by: teamkp on November 30, 2014, 09:59:20 PM
I think the great fear for many especially transwoman who are attracted to cis-males deal with the stereotype of being a "trap". It is personal how much a person wants to reveal on a dating site, but I know girls who put in the text of her profile, rather than as a gender option.