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I  was in my coffee place on my computer, I went to get some coffee and on returning to my seat I walked by this large gentleman sitting at a raised table who, as I walked close by him, proceeded to laser scan me from head to toe. It was a very strange sensation. I had on skinny jeans and a body fitting jacket. I  would of enjoyed it if he was my type, but it just felt weird to experience something women get all the time.  how do others feel getting scanned.

Unless I'm interested too, I'm pretty oblivious usually. I usually have a friend tell me after "Omg, that guy was literally, like, looking you up & down" & I just brush it off because they either A. Know I'm a Tgirl or B. Are checking me out. Both of which, I don't currrrrr.

I feel vulnerable if Im in a private place snd its unwanted. I felt that way this morning since I was doing laundry and I just felt like the guy was looking at me.

Last night i felt like having a beer and went to a bar to buy one to take home.  i was trying to hide my feminine ways and not succeeding it seems.
A nice looking man at the other end of the bar looked me up and down as i waited for service.  Our eyes met briefly, we gave each other a shy half smile
and then looked away.  It felt nice, like a compliment.  A man i was not attracted to stared what felt like intensely at me at a supermarket and that felt bad.
So for me it depends on who is doing the checking and how he does it.

If I am in cis territory, I sort of crawl back into my shell if I am noticed. I do have that inward blushing and race of the heart beat but I am not good at being pursued. At least not yet! Yet I'm in no hurry because I want my transition to be as smooth as possible and I want things on the romantic side of transitioning to fall into place. Oh brother! I am talking like I'm writing a screenplay of every scene of the next months of my life, etceteras, etceteras! Anyone want any popcorn?  ::)

It was flattering the first few times it happened, so congrats. :)

Now I feel angry and/or uncomfortable and vulnerable, depending on context; I'm out living my life, not offering myself up as eye candy to random men who feel entitled to ogle me.

It depends on where I am.

If I am in public around lots of people I just chalk it up to the guy seeing a female, or that someone clocked me. Neither is a big deal. I usually ignore them.

If I am in a place where my personal safety might be at risk any checking out takes on a pervy aspect.

it's a bit unnerving when some your not attracted to does it

Girl..welcome to another aspect of being a woman.

Be polite, smile and accept it for the complement it is.

Hugs,

Jen

whenever that happens to me I just assume either one there clocking me or two there clocking me and they like tgirls..

hum ... you are just turning into a hottie.... dear

Quote from: peky on November 30, 2014, 04:18:53 PM
hum ... you are just turning into a hottie.... dear

thanks, I'll accept that compliment

The only experience I got at being scanned was at a Panera's and I was getting my drink.  As I walked by two collage aged men were sitting there and stopped talking as soon as I came around the corner and watched me as I got my drink and went back to my table.  I know for a fact I did not pass as it was my first time out in public and it was the day after Halloween.  But I don't know if they were weirder out or just silently laughing, and to be honest I don't truly care.
As for being checked out by a man, I don't know how I would feel, flattered I guess if not a little bit appalled.