Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Kalen on December 09, 2014, 02:50:38 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Aggression
Post by: Kalen on December 09, 2014, 02:50:38 PM
Post by: Kalen on December 09, 2014, 02:50:38 PM
I have noticed that while being on T I have had more anger and little things can just set me off and its really starting to affect my relationship with my girlfriend cause I get mad like when she's at a friends house and I don't care that she is but I just get mad and I dont know how to change it. Any tips or has anyone experienced this before? I'm thinking about getting off T because I hate getting mad and I dont want to lose my girlfriend over it.
Title: Re: Aggression
Post by: wheat thins are delicious on December 09, 2014, 03:22:52 PM
Post by: wheat thins are delicious on December 09, 2014, 03:22:52 PM
T doesn't just make you irrationally mad, it just makes it easier for you to feel anger over things that bother or irritate you. There has to be a reason as to why you are mad even if you are not realizing what that reason is at first. Take a look at and evaluate what things are angering you, why they are angering you, and what you can do to improve those things that are presently angering you and how you can handle situations that you find yourself in where you become angered.
Title: Re: Aggression
Post by: Bearr on December 09, 2014, 03:55:07 PM
Post by: Bearr on December 09, 2014, 03:55:07 PM
Yeah, I don't see T causing you to just ' snap off'. How long have you been on T? You are basically going through puberty again, so
some of these new emotional changes will take a little while for you to get use too. Check your dosage as well, maybe you need to stabilize
the dose to help with mood swings.
some of these new emotional changes will take a little while for you to get use too. Check your dosage as well, maybe you need to stabilize
the dose to help with mood swings.
Title: Re: Aggression
Post by: Jessica_S on December 09, 2014, 04:06:07 PM
Post by: Jessica_S on December 09, 2014, 04:06:07 PM
I remember going through (male) puberty. Age about 10 if I banged my head on the cupboard door I'd cry. During puberty when the testosterone was surging if I banged my head on the cupboard door I'd beat the sh*t out of it (we'll slam it a few times) for daring to have the temerity to bump me.
The anger doesn't really go. You just develop the mechanisms to recognise it for what it is and bring it under control. There can be an odd peace in that.
Welcome to manhood honey (though personally I hope to check out soon :) )
Jessica
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The anger doesn't really go. You just develop the mechanisms to recognise it for what it is and bring it under control. There can be an odd peace in that.
Welcome to manhood honey (though personally I hope to check out soon :) )
Jessica
X
Title: Re: Aggression
Post by: Bran on December 09, 2014, 06:08:22 PM
Post by: Bran on December 09, 2014, 06:08:22 PM
If you're seeing a therapist, this would be a good thing to work on. Yes, talk with your doctor and discuss what to do with the testosterone. But, unless you want to stop for good, it sounds like this is something you're going to have to figure out how to deal with sooner or later.
In my experience, the basic trick to dealing with unpleasant or destructive emotions is not to try and change them-- it's just not to let them rule you. Notice the anger, acknowledge it, even express it if there's someone, like your girlfriend, who needs to know how you're feeling. If you're feeling agitated or violent, have something to do to work off that energy-- exercise, loud music, video games, whatever works for you. (But if you get to the point where you're actually striking out physically, against people or objects, you *definitely* need to work on it with a therapist.) But instead of trying to control the emotion, just control your actions. The anger will pass on its own, especially if it's out of proportion to whatever provoked it.
In my experience, the basic trick to dealing with unpleasant or destructive emotions is not to try and change them-- it's just not to let them rule you. Notice the anger, acknowledge it, even express it if there's someone, like your girlfriend, who needs to know how you're feeling. If you're feeling agitated or violent, have something to do to work off that energy-- exercise, loud music, video games, whatever works for you. (But if you get to the point where you're actually striking out physically, against people or objects, you *definitely* need to work on it with a therapist.) But instead of trying to control the emotion, just control your actions. The anger will pass on its own, especially if it's out of proportion to whatever provoked it.
Title: Re: Aggression
Post by: Konnor on December 10, 2014, 01:28:21 PM
Post by: Konnor on December 10, 2014, 01:28:21 PM
I went through this when I first started T as well. I went from being very moody, cry at pretty much anything to being extremely irritable and quicker to anger. My moods eventually settled down but it took a few months. The things that helped me were talking to my partner about it whenever I would get upset, evaluating the issue in my head (is this something worth being upset over?), and finding an outlet for pent up feelings (going to the gym and martial arts work for me). So reassure your gf that it will indeed get better, but communicate constantly to get through it together. Best of luck!!