Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: ToniB on December 15, 2014, 05:49:47 AM Return to Full Version

Title: Coward or Just to slow
Post by: ToniB on December 15, 2014, 05:49:47 AM
Hi Folks I was at our Xmas party on Friday and had changed my ear studs for a much showier pair had my necklass on .I suppose my Boobs are also starting to show .So I suppose I should expect people to notice things .But I think I missed a great opertunity to come out to work LOL. My immediate superviser commented on my new earrings and said I suppose you will be wearing a dress next .I wish I had had the courage or the Wit to have replied I will try that next Time .But instead just laughed it off .A sad missed opertunity I suppose
Title: Re: Coward or Just to slow
Post by: Brenda E on December 15, 2014, 08:07:37 AM
Perhaps.  There's been a few occasions recently where telling someone I'm trans on the spur of the moment would have seemed appropriate, but in retrospect I've always been glad I didn't.  I'm of the opinion that coming out - especially at work - requires some prior coordination, at least in private with your manager and/or an HR rep.  There's a time and a place.

That said, dropping little hints is absolutely delicious, isn't it?  The earrings, the necklace - awesome!
Title: Re: Coward or Just to slow
Post by: missymay on December 15, 2014, 09:10:11 AM
A few months before undergoing FFS, and going full-time at work, I had eyelash extensions put in, and had my ears pierced with hoop earrings. I also, had been training my female voice at home, and I went through days at work, where my male sounding voice was really strained (I guess I was over training it a bit), so much so, that my boss commented on it.  The funny thing is that, when I transitioned all of my co-workers said they had no clue that anything was going on.