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Title: Nearly Forty and Starting Life!
Post by: VioletTara on December 18, 2014, 10:56:31 PM
Post by: VioletTara on December 18, 2014, 10:56:31 PM
Hello!
I've been on Spiro and Estradiol for 6 months and my doc just increased my meds! Woot!
I don't really know how to engage in online forums very well. I'm trying to seek out community, both on and off line but I don't really have a lot in common with most of the transgender folks at the local GLBTQ center. But I also don't really have a lot in common with most of the cis-women I know either. So while I love my body now and love this person I'm becoming, I've had a hard time connecting with others. I haven't found my community.
My wife just told me she wants to get a divorce. The worse part is that she also came out as a lesbian... so basically she wants "the real deal". The bite stings.
But I am also relieved because she was recently diagnoses with borderline personality (along with a bunch of other mental health issues). So as much as that hurt, I'm glad to let her go because living with someone with BPD has been a depressing 10 year roller coaster. For all I know, she was just lying to manipulate me as she has been doing for a decade now. Needless to say, I'm a but jaded but at the same time, trying really hard to enjoy this person that I am without the chains of my soon-to-be ex.
Anyway, this is just a first step and I hope to be back here. I'm going to make an effort to participate here! (part of my therapy homework, too!)
For now, I go by Tara but in real life, I haven't quite figured out a name that I like. Nice to see so many people trying to just be happy as themselves!
:-)
I've been on Spiro and Estradiol for 6 months and my doc just increased my meds! Woot!
I don't really know how to engage in online forums very well. I'm trying to seek out community, both on and off line but I don't really have a lot in common with most of the transgender folks at the local GLBTQ center. But I also don't really have a lot in common with most of the cis-women I know either. So while I love my body now and love this person I'm becoming, I've had a hard time connecting with others. I haven't found my community.
My wife just told me she wants to get a divorce. The worse part is that she also came out as a lesbian... so basically she wants "the real deal". The bite stings.
But I am also relieved because she was recently diagnoses with borderline personality (along with a bunch of other mental health issues). So as much as that hurt, I'm glad to let her go because living with someone with BPD has been a depressing 10 year roller coaster. For all I know, she was just lying to manipulate me as she has been doing for a decade now. Needless to say, I'm a but jaded but at the same time, trying really hard to enjoy this person that I am without the chains of my soon-to-be ex.
Anyway, this is just a first step and I hope to be back here. I'm going to make an effort to participate here! (part of my therapy homework, too!)
For now, I go by Tara but in real life, I haven't quite figured out a name that I like. Nice to see so many people trying to just be happy as themselves!
:-)
Title: Re: Nearly Forty and Starting Life!
Post by: mrs izzy on December 18, 2014, 11:13:14 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on December 18, 2014, 11:13:14 PM
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Title: Re: Nearly Forty and Starting Life!
Post by: JulieL on December 19, 2014, 05:48:24 AM
Post by: JulieL on December 19, 2014, 05:48:24 AM
Welcome, VioletTara!
We're really glad to have you. I'm sorry for the rollercoaster relationship you've had with your wife. But it sounds like you're in a good a place now.
Best of luck on your journey!
:icon_hug:
We're really glad to have you. I'm sorry for the rollercoaster relationship you've had with your wife. But it sounds like you're in a good a place now.
Best of luck on your journey!
:icon_hug:
Title: Re: Nearly Forty and Starting Life!
Post by: Jenny07 on December 19, 2014, 05:54:05 AM
Post by: Jenny07 on December 19, 2014, 05:54:05 AM
Welcome Violet Tara
I can relate as my ex had BPD. I hate you don't leave me.
It's a horrible ride for someone who cares.
Take some time for yourself as I know you would have had precious little.
Nice news about the increase in dosage.
Hugs
Jen
I can relate as my ex had BPD. I hate you don't leave me.
It's a horrible ride for someone who cares.
Take some time for yourself as I know you would have had precious little.
Nice news about the increase in dosage.
Hugs
Jen
Title: Re: Nearly Forty and Starting Life!
Post by: Gina Taylor on December 20, 2014, 06:33:33 AM
Post by: Gina Taylor on December 20, 2014, 06:33:33 AM
Hi there and welcome to Susan's! :)
Title: Re: Nearly Forty and Starting Life!
Post by: rosinstraya on December 20, 2014, 07:21:44 AM
Post by: rosinstraya on December 20, 2014, 07:21:44 AM
Hi Tara!
Sorry to hear about that messy home life. This journey can be pretty bumpy, it goes without saying.
I hope you can find the person who can appreciate you and be with you for all the right reasons.
Good luck, and take care.
Sorry to hear about that messy home life. This journey can be pretty bumpy, it goes without saying.
I hope you can find the person who can appreciate you and be with you for all the right reasons.
Good luck, and take care.
Title: Re: Nearly Forty and Starting Life!
Post by: V M on December 21, 2014, 09:00:17 PM
Post by: V M on December 21, 2014, 09:00:17 PM
Hi Tara :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Nearly Forty and Starting Life!
Post by: Devlyn on January 02, 2015, 05:39:47 PM
Post by: Devlyn on January 02, 2015, 05:39:47 PM
Hi Tara, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm the Boston representative. Glad you found us, see you around the site!
Hugs, Devlyn
Hugs, Devlyn