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Title: Hi!
Post by: LenPan on December 22, 2014, 06:58:10 PM
Post by: LenPan on December 22, 2014, 06:58:10 PM
Hi, just found this fab site- and although I'm not transgendered as such- I think I fit in here better than many places...
Born female, I have spent 3/4 of my life feeling er... not like I believe a typical ( ::)) woman should feel, I suppose.. I wanted to be a boy for most of my childhood, and a man for most of my teens/ 20's- but the type of man I wanted to be was not a 'typical' one, so it wasn't a straightforward thing at all- still haven't really figured myself out tbh.. I identified best with gay men, I think- but in some ways I'm more asexual. I enjoy sex but can take or leave it- and I'm mainly attracted to (well, personalities, obviously, but) faces and non-gendered parts. I like androgynous people mainly, and am pretty androgynous myself- only my height (short!) makes me seem more boyish than manly.. I generally apparently look either like a boy, or people's idea of a typical tomboy/ lesbian- but I'm married to a man, and have kids. When I was dating boys in my teens we frequently got mistaken for a gay couple...
Probably, if I'd known the possibility of getting hormone treatment when I was a kid, I would have jumped at the chance- but I think I've grown to accept myself as more 'other' these days. Strangely enough, in my childbearing years I actually looked quite womanly for the first time ever- and felt comfortable with the role- I actually embraced being female for once and it was quite a shock (mainly nice, I think) for my husband who was used to the tomboy he'd married. It didn't last though, and now I'm thinking that I'm probably pansexual, or... Oh, god, I don't even know the terms for these things any more... I'm out of the market now, obviously, but I still think about gender roles and stuff a great deal. It would be great if it didn't matter, and you were just *you*. Most of the people I am attracted to are androgynous/ masculine females, but I like some men a lot too- and it basically doesn't matter a jot to me *what* sexuality/ gender folk are- if they have that certain something. I just wish there were more people who were as mixed up as me!! Sorry if I misuse terms though- not out to offend, It's just a long time since I was on any scene- and things have moved on a lot... :embarrassed:
Born female, I have spent 3/4 of my life feeling er... not like I believe a typical ( ::)) woman should feel, I suppose.. I wanted to be a boy for most of my childhood, and a man for most of my teens/ 20's- but the type of man I wanted to be was not a 'typical' one, so it wasn't a straightforward thing at all- still haven't really figured myself out tbh.. I identified best with gay men, I think- but in some ways I'm more asexual. I enjoy sex but can take or leave it- and I'm mainly attracted to (well, personalities, obviously, but) faces and non-gendered parts. I like androgynous people mainly, and am pretty androgynous myself- only my height (short!) makes me seem more boyish than manly.. I generally apparently look either like a boy, or people's idea of a typical tomboy/ lesbian- but I'm married to a man, and have kids. When I was dating boys in my teens we frequently got mistaken for a gay couple...
Probably, if I'd known the possibility of getting hormone treatment when I was a kid, I would have jumped at the chance- but I think I've grown to accept myself as more 'other' these days. Strangely enough, in my childbearing years I actually looked quite womanly for the first time ever- and felt comfortable with the role- I actually embraced being female for once and it was quite a shock (mainly nice, I think) for my husband who was used to the tomboy he'd married. It didn't last though, and now I'm thinking that I'm probably pansexual, or... Oh, god, I don't even know the terms for these things any more... I'm out of the market now, obviously, but I still think about gender roles and stuff a great deal. It would be great if it didn't matter, and you were just *you*. Most of the people I am attracted to are androgynous/ masculine females, but I like some men a lot too- and it basically doesn't matter a jot to me *what* sexuality/ gender folk are- if they have that certain something. I just wish there were more people who were as mixed up as me!! Sorry if I misuse terms though- not out to offend, It's just a long time since I was on any scene- and things have moved on a lot... :embarrassed:
Title: Re: Hi!
Post by: Ms Grace on December 22, 2014, 07:10:54 PM
Post by: Ms Grace on December 22, 2014, 07:10:54 PM
Hi!
Welcome to Susan's :) Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.
Please check out the following links for site rules, helpful tips and other info...
Cheers
Grace
Welcome to Susan's :) Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.
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Cheers
Grace
Title: Re: Hi!
Post by: Beth Andrea on December 22, 2014, 07:45:00 PM
Post by: Beth Andrea on December 22, 2014, 07:45:00 PM
Welcome to this place!
"Other" is always an acceptable way of looking at oneself! There's too many variables in orientation + gender to have a reasonable number of choices...so however you see yourself, that's fine.
fwiw, my wife sounds a lot like you...a bit "butch", but also mildly femme in emotions...and it changes from day to day. And I like it that way!! So yeah, there is a lid for every pot out there.
:)
"Other" is always an acceptable way of looking at oneself! There's too many variables in orientation + gender to have a reasonable number of choices...so however you see yourself, that's fine.
fwiw, my wife sounds a lot like you...a bit "butch", but also mildly femme in emotions...and it changes from day to day. And I like it that way!! So yeah, there is a lid for every pot out there.
:)
Title: Re: Hi!
Post by: mrs izzy on December 22, 2014, 09:19:56 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on December 22, 2014, 09:19:56 PM
Welcome LenPan to Susan's family
Lots of topics to explore and posts to write
Everyone has a path they must walk in life. Not two are alike so embrace yours and find happiness.
Lots of topics to explore and posts to write
Everyone has a path they must walk in life. Not two are alike so embrace yours and find happiness.
Title: Re: Hi!
Post by: V M on December 23, 2014, 07:06:00 PM
Post by: V M on December 23, 2014, 07:06:00 PM
Hi LenPan :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Hi!
Post by: stephaniec on December 23, 2014, 07:09:44 PM
Post by: stephaniec on December 23, 2014, 07:09:44 PM
hello
Title: Re: Hi!
Post by: gennee on December 25, 2014, 01:22:30 PM
Post by: gennee on December 25, 2014, 01:22:30 PM
Hi LenPan and welcome to Susan's.
:)
:)