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I'm just curious ladies, when in your HRT journey did you encounter most of your male fail incidents? Was it in your 6th month on HRT, earlier or later?
Thanks for the feedback :)

xo

April

mine was around a month ago 9 months into hrt when i was at taco bell :)

I'm still waiting on my first one.   :-\

I *think* I've maybe gotten a few curious glances.....  Maybe?  It could all be wishful thinking though.  Hopefully it'll start happening soon though!  (I'm almost nine months in but only about four months at my current dosage.)

Quote from: AmazinglyAutumn on December 31, 2014, 10:35:18 PM
I'm still waiting on my first one.   :-\

I *think* I've maybe gotten a few curious glances.....  Maybe?  It could all be wishful thinking though.  Hopefully it'll start happening soon though!  (I'm almost nine months in but only about four months at my current dosage.)

looking at your profile pic it looks like your there already! wish i looked as good

My thoughts exactly. In the recent days, I think i've been getting some male fails already starting with an incident at a food court. The Chinese woman was waving at me directing me to come to her to pay " she yelled and called me sir, please come here to pay"...when I approached her she basically laughed at herself embarrassed and corrected herself and called me Ma'am LOL. She was very apologetic and sincere :)  Music to my ears!

Quote from: Leah443 on December 31, 2014, 10:42:12 PM
looking at your profile pic it looks like your there already! wish i looked as good

Thank you so much!  That pic is actually pre HRT, with my wig.  I'm trying to grow my own hair out now (it's about hobbit length currently and very curly, so it takes a lot longer).  Hopefully I'll get there soon, I'm still kicking myself for ever cutting it short.

I could say the same for yours too, love your look!

Carmen, that's really cool!  To be properly gendered after getting close up like that, I'd be in heaven.  :)

Quote from: AmazinglyAutumn on December 31, 2014, 11:15:21 PM
Thank you so much!  That pic is actually pre HRT, with my wig.  I'm trying to grow my own hair out now (it's about hobbit length currently and very curly, so it takes a lot longer).  Hopefully I'll get there soon, I'm still kicking myself for ever cutting it short.

I could say the same for yours too, love your look!

Carmen, that's really cool!  To be properly gendered after getting close up like that, I'd be in heaven.  :)

Thanks! don't worry all it takes is time and some effort :)

The first time was about 3 months in, I think... by six months I couldn't convince anybody who didn't know me before to believe I was a guy, even with a male ID. Good thing I'd already arranged to be full time before then, I suppose.

Male fail began roughly 1.5 years in (I was started low dose due to my already low blood pressure, so the effects took a while for me). I also refused to put forth any effort in presentation, mainly because I felt if I was gendered male when TRYING it would just be too painful.

I've been gendered exclusively female for the past month now (just got FFS/am recovering, will be updating my profile pic after I see the stylist!!!!), even when conversing with strangers. As long as they don't know my legal name, I'm "ma'amed" and "miss'd", thus, why I am going full time within the week!!!

12 months into HRT and still waiting for the first...

I'm not on hrt yet, but got male fail 85% of the time when I started my job around three months ago. That's what made me finally decide to start transitioning!

I'm still not out yet so everywhere I go or when I work I'm either suited up or in full male clothing/ sports gear. No androgynous clothing to dress up in. But I get gendered correctly quite often and it has taken about 6-7 months for that. Though my voice still needs sooooo much work... :( I do get quite a lot of curious glances and people tend not to use pronouns until I talk haha...voice fail..

Wonderful feedback ladies :) keep them coming.

I get it a few times. I'm basically in reality 3 months into HRT but only 1 month really full dose/full regimen. I would say once electro has cleared enough of my face I'll get it more.

I've been getting called "ma'am" or "miss" for years, way before starting HRT. I guess being IS and having hair down to my waist and four piercings in each ear confuses people. :D

The best one was when I worked in retail and was outside in the garden shop and heard someone behind me saying "scuse me, honey. Hey honey. Darlin." I didn't realise he was talking to me at first and kept walking. When I twigged to the fact that he was calling me I really kept going. I had on shorts and had been shaving my legs for years at that point.

Now it's daily after four months of HRT, at least until I open my mouth and say something.

Many times long before even going full time it happened especially if I was wearing hat covering the bald spot in my hair I would get called ma'am. Early on after going full time my voice was what would give me away. I haven't had any mis-gendering in a good month now, but then I have been on HRT for over 3 months now. My voice has also gotten to appoint where it passes and I have gotten really comfortable with it so I have no doubt that has played a role
Mariah

I started hitting male fail at about 9 months on HRT. I've been called ma'am twice now while out in guy mode.

Male ... fail? I don't quite follow :~o

Quote from: SarahBoo on January 01, 2015, 07:49:51 PM
Male ... fail? I don't quite follow :~o

When you fail at presenting male--basically when you start getting called female pronouns while out in guy mode because you don't pass very well as a guy anymore.

Oh! ok gotcha, ty Alaia :~D

Nah, hasn't happened to me. But I don't dare go out as male anymore. Blue beard shadow + boobs = just wrong.

about a year into hrt, I was at the mall with a few friends and one of them wanted to try on prom dresses, "I was like ok sure!" So we all grabbed one and started to make our way to the dressing room. I was wearing male clothing (huge sweat pants and a tshirt/male shoes) at that point still but I was out to everyone. My friends mostly accepted me so I was included in the girly moments. It was quite nice but in my head I was like I'm still not passing at all. Anyways one of the store's workers calls out to me from behind saying, "hey sir you're not allowed to go in there!" but when I turned around and got close to her she was like, "OH I'm sorry I thought you were a boy cause of your hair". (my hair was in a pony tail and wasn't very long)

I was like omg that could of gone badly but that was my first male fail, it gave me a bunch of confidence. Unfortunately I did not fit in the dress or any of the dresses my friends brought to me lol. Hrt still hadn't gotten rid of my back muscles by that point, so it was tough fitting into dresses back then. 

I don't have any specific "modes", I just go around being annoyingly me all the time. But I first started getting looks and weird reactions very quickly, probably because I started just before summer. And that meant wearing t-shirts and other such items of clothing which showed that I was quickly starting to develop breasts. But that passed once summer subsided and thicker clothes were in order.

About 8 months in, a couple weeks before the holidays, things started happening again much more forcefully. People are looking at me odd more and more and sometimes seem even a bit scared to initiate interactions with me. I've passed several times without trying, even though nothing has radically changed. But apparently my overall appearance as well as voice changing has pushed me beyond some point that people at least seem much more hesitant to gender me male right away.

It's all extremely individual, so it happens whenever it happens to happen. And I can't really even say why it's happening more to me now as opposed to a month or two ago. People are pretty random.

I think if I were to try, with baggy clothing probably, I could still get gendered male.

At the moment though I'm at the point in life where dressing as "male" just doesn't fly anymore. All my documents have me as female and with my regular clothes no one looks twice at me and I get "ma'am"ed and called "she" pretty consistently by random strangers during interactions.
So I don't really have a reason to ever present as male again. And I'm ok with that  :laugh:

A month or so ago, I was with my girlfriend, and we went to Denny's. The waitress referred to us as ladies, and then quickly corrected herself, saying calling me a male pronoun. Before I could say anything, my girlfriend said, "No, you were right the first time."

The waitress apologized, and kind of giggled. She seemed fascinated with the idea of me being transgendered, but didn't stick around bothering us the whole time.